In laws Grrrrrrrrr

[Gigi22]

My goodness, OP, your MIL is a sorry excuse for a woman and mother! You have my permission to tell her so, too!
I would go the bakery route, too. Just get two slices of cheesecake, and plate the darn things for them.
Of course, I would serve everyone else at the table a lovely selection of homemade cookies on their individual dessert plates. And, no selection of cookies would be brought out at all.
This is what your MIL asked for, this is what you are giving her--and the words, "Be careful what you wish for" in chocolate on her plate might be a nice touch too!

 

[ICF]

I can't believe you live next door to these people and despite that fact that they generally sound like annoying PITA's you make them dinner every feakin' Sunday....

While you can't move most likely, I'd be putting a stop to the weekly dinners if they cant treat you with a lot more respect than they seem to be showing.

 

[Carnie]

Make the cheesecake. It's Christmas. Is the cheesecake worth the fight? They suck - you can't change that. But why let it ruin your holiday.

Really?? If I had this problem and went ahead and made the cheesecake, I'd be thinking "Go play Sit and Spin on an electric fence" as they stuffed every fracking bite into their smug "WE WIN" faces. That would be a MILLION times worse.

Good for you, OP.

 

[lovetoscrap]

SaraLee cheesecake bites - just dump them on a plate!

Be sure that they are still frozen solid when you do!

Sara lee huh... that gives me an idea, I wonder what the what the worst tasting cheesecake I could possibly make might be? Cheese doodle cheesecake

I could say i wanted to try something new

They want cheesecake? Here is a cheesecake for them!
http://www.spam.com/recipes/detail/295/savory-international-spam-cheesecake.aspx

 

[Pixie Dust for Me!]

I've heard that a miracle cheesecake is easy. But having had a "difficult" MIL who is now deceased I'd stumble while serving it and have it land in her lap!

Seriously though I would suggest you have a long talk with DH. At some level he knows.

Karen

 

[snowywhite89]

Indeed! Your house; your standards; whether it is about dessert or anything else.

Weren't we just discussing this in another thread?

So it would be fine for me to host a party and invited you but only serve meat because it is my house!!


Nope it is my job as the hostess to accommodate all my guests.

BTW I am surprising my Aunt with a cheesecake this year. It takes 1 hour to bake and 1 hour to cool in the oven. Add 30 minutes to make and I am no where near 4 hours. Actually the 2 hours cooking don't cost me any time either.

OP buy a good cheesecake and serve it. You MIL and FIL are not polishing off an entire cake so others must like it too.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Also, I would make a Cheesecake for New Year's Eve

 

[It'sWDW4me]

All through dinner they are being generally nasty to me, but does DH see it... nope. As I'm cleaning up I hear my In-laws in the living room carrying on about the stupid flippin cheesecake being obviously purposefully loud just for me. I get PO'd and go upstairs to get my kids ready. I can hear my FIL saying "If there is no cheesecake at my table for dessert there is no dessert at my table."

Don't get or make the cheesecake. Let there be cookies for dessert at YOUR table. Let FIL know that if there's cheesecake at HIS table, then he can go on back home and eat it!!

I hate pushy in-laws.

 

[ajk912]

Make the cheesecake. It's Christmas. Is the cheesecake worth the fight? They suck - you can't change that. But why let it ruin your holiday.

But...but..but she lives next DOOR to them. She makes them dinner every Sunday! She already is daughter-in-law of the year, and I am a daughter in law too! She's got me beat. (And I know it's not a contest, I am just saying).

I would wash my hands of it. If your DH wants to appease his mother, fine, HE can. He can make it or buy it, then thaw it and present it himself. Remind your DH, again, that you just made a cheesecake last week and then one for Thanksgiving. And no, you you aren't looking for a cookie..oh wait, you are, you want cookies. If he wants a cheesecake on the table, he needs to provide it (either by buying one or making it.) Unless he broke his arms in that same tragic accident where your ILs broke theirs...

 

[Jennasis]

May I also suggest:

bacon cheesecake

smoked salmon cheesecake

raw beet cheesecake

Bleu cheese, muchroom, onion and pork cheesecake

 

[lovetoscrap]

Or you could get this: http://www.kraftbrands.com/philly/products/Pages/philadelphiaready-to-eatcheesecakefilling.aspx and at dessert time plop the whole container in the middle of the table with a spoon and a box of graham crackers.
(If you usually make a crustless cheesecake then just skip the graham crackers!)

 

[shortbun]

If it were me, I would not make the cheesecake. I MIGHT send my husband out to buy one - might. I would definitely tell my husband that he needed to get things straight between his parents and me. Of course, I would never have agreed to live beside my in-laws. Even as a young woman, I would have recognized THAT as trouble with a T! Normally, I try to please my guests. In your case, I do not believe that your in-laws should be considered 'guests.' They are simply family members who live in another house on the compound. Because they do not contribute, they eat what they get and they don't pitch a fit.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

You are not alone in the mother-in-law department. Just had our gift exchange last night. We got FIL a book on beekeeping (he's keeping bees) and the National Parks DVD set. Got MIL a nice Calvin Klein Obsession perfume set and a mongrammed bag. I got chocolate covered almonds - that she ate some of - before giving them to me. Oh, yeah, did I mention that I am diabetic?

We were allowed to look at, complete with narration, the wonderful photo book she had made for the other daughter-in-law.

Think I'll call my mother and tell her I love her now.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

I would wash my hands of it. If your DH wants to appease his mother, fine, HE can. He can make it or buy it, then thaw it and present it himself. Remind your DH, again, that you just made a cheesecake last week and then one for Thanksgiving. And no, you you aren't looking for a cookie..oh wait, you are, you want cookies. If he wants a cheesecake on the table, he needs to provide it (either by buying one or making it.) Unless he broke his arms in that same tragic accident where your ILs broke theirs...

This!! That way, you can eat your cookies and, when MIL comments about the cheesecake (good or bad), you can smile warmly and say DH made/bought it! And if he buys one - and if MIL knows this - she'll probably make a comment about how it tastes sooooo much better than the last one that you made (BS but she'll say it just to dig at you), you can again smile warmly and say that you'll have to make sure he buys it again.

 

[Inigo]

Your husband is just as 'whipped' by your MIL as your father is.
He is sacrificing you to his mother.
(have to appease the god(s).

Again, your issues are with your husband, 110%.

I've told my DH for years that he is sacrificing me/the kids/our family on the altar of his mother. It wasn't until this past year (after 23 years of marriage) that he's agreed I might be right. He hasn't changed his behavior, but he's at least acknowledging he does it now.

 

[Lionqueen2]

So it would be fine for me to host a party and invited you but only serve meat because it is my house!!


Nope it is my job as the hostess to accommodate all my guests.

BTW I am surprising my Aunt with a cheesecake this year. It takes 1 hour to bake and 1 hour to cool in the oven. Add 30 minutes to make and I am no where near 4 hours. Actually the 2 hours cooking don't cost me any time either.

OP buy a good cheesecake and serve it. You MIL and FIL are not polishing off an entire cake so others must like it too.

This kind of accomodation along with some medical and religious food choices seem appropriate to me to make guests feel welcome. Demanding cheesecake doesn't seem to fit in the same category.

 

[Lionqueen2]

Be sure that they are still frozen solid when you do!
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Would you be serving that frozen cake on paper plates with plastic forks?

 

[Planogirl]

Tell your DH to deal with it and put it out of my mind. Just don't get mad if he buys a cheesecake because it sounds like he's not ready to face up to her.

 

[snowywhite89]

This kind of accomodation along with some medical and religious food choices seem appropriate to me to make guests feel welcome. Demanding cheesecake doesn't seem to fit in the same category.

The OP is pissed about Thanksgiving and is not doing what the cookie maker was going to do to her MIL. Both are spiteful.

I said to buy one. That would take all of 2 minutes at the grocery store or maybe 20 if you go to a special place. She would be treating her ILs with respect but not being manipulated.

So many on here have IL problems. I wonder why?

 

[krcit]

The OP is pissed about Thanksgiving and is not doing what the cookie maker was going to do to her MIL. Both are spiteful.

I said to buy one. That would take all of 2 minutes at the grocery store or maybe 20 if you go to a special place. She would be treating her ILs with respect but not being manipulated.

So many on here have IL problems. I wonder why?