In laws are making me crazy

[delilah]

We are leaving on Saturday for a short trip, from Dec 21-26. I was able to get a reservation at BWV from Dec 21-25, checking out Christmas morning. The in laws live in Tampa, both my husband's mother's family and his father's family. Both of his parents have passed away several years ago. I made the plans and meal reservations and chose fast pass+ weeks to months ago (BWV is not our home resort, so I called MS right at opening to get our room reservation). On Christmas eve, I was planning to attend the midnight Mass at Mary, Queen of the Universe shrine with my immediate family. The in laws are not all Catholic.

So, yesterday, we get an email invitation from his cousin on his dad's side of the family, for Buenas Noches on Christmas eve at 8 pm, in Tampa. I think we should politely decline, and say we can meet up with that side of the family on Christmas day, or possibly, early in the day on Dec 26 (our plane leaves about 5 pm on Dec 26). I think it is perfectly polite and gracious to thank them for their invitation, but, tell them that we already have plans for the evening. My husband seriously wants to drive to Tampa, then drive back to Orlando (because our hotel room for Dec 24 is in Orlando), then check out on Dec 25, and drive back to Tampa. I'm not sure what he wants to do about church. On Dec 25, we were originally going to spend the day with his mom's side of the family, who are not Catholic. My plan was to check out from Orlando late enough on Christmas so the church going is not an issue on Christmas, which it always is when we visit with his family in Tampa.

 

[Cee]

Hmmmm, not sure what to tell you. I would go with the option of thanking them but plans have already been made. However, if your husband is not on board with that.....Hmmmm, not sure what to tell you.

Good luck and Merry Christmas!

You deserve to celebrate YOUR way. Don't be swayed by guilt or peer pressure.

 

[Chuck S]

I would not drive to Tampa TWICE. Pick one day for the trip to Tampa, or invite his side to spend a day with you at Disney.

 

[Dean]

We are leaving on Saturday for a short trip, from Dec 21-26. I was able to get a reservation at BWV from Dec 21-25, checking out Christmas morning. The in laws live in Tampa, both my husband's mother's family and his father's family. Both of his parents have passed away several years ago. I made the plans and meal reservations and chose fast pass+ weeks to months ago (BWV is not our home resort, so I called MS right at opening to get our room reservation). On Christmas eve, I was planning to attend the midnight Mass at Mary, Queen of the Universe shrine with my immediate family. The in laws are not all Catholic.

So, yesterday, we get an email invitation from his cousin on his dad's side of the family, for Buenas Noches on Christmas eve at 8 pm, in Tampa. I think we should politely decline, and say we can meet up with that side of the family on Christmas day, or possibly, early in the day on Dec 26 (our plane leaves about 5 pm on Dec 26). I think it is perfectly polite and gracious to thank them for their invitation, but, tell them that we already have plans for the evening. My husband seriously wants to drive to Tampa, then drive back to Orlando (because our hotel room for Dec 24 is in Orlando), then check out on Dec 25, and drive back to Tampa. I'm not sure what he wants to do about church. On Dec 25, we were originally going to spend the day with his mom's side of the family, who are not Catholic. My plan was to check out from Orlando late enough on Christmas so the church going is not an issue on Christmas, which it always is when we visit with his family in Tampa.

There's no way I'd make the drive to Tampa and back twice. You'll have to decide what's reasonable and what boundaries to set otherwise as a couple which seems to be the largest problem here. Personally I'd likely go to Tampa on the 24th and attend the event at 8 pm then find somewhere locally for MN mass and then fly out on the 26th. If not, I'd invite them up and give them to choice to see you or not.

 

[Judique]

Follow your original plan.

It would be crazy to sit in traffic twice going back and forth to Tampa on Xmas Eve and then again on Xmas Day.

Just fit in all the relatives on the 25th and the 26th. Your husband is trying to please everybody - that's usually impossible from get go.