So, my questions are:
1) Since we are going in the off-season, is it really that important to get there early?
2) What might we miss out on if we arrive 1-2 hours after park opening?
3) If we have to choose between getting there early and staying until closing, is it definitely better to get there early, or is it about equal?
4) Since we have FP+ for all the big rides, does that change the importance of arriving early?
5) If you were in my position, DISboarders, would you try to convince the family to wake up early, or would you just let them do what they want and face the possible consequences?
6) Any other suggestions or advice?
1. We have had 2 trips since FP+, both in the off season. We are used to a walking on things like POTC, Small World, Buzz, Nemo, Journey into Imagination, Haunted Mansion etc. The most we ever waited for those rides in the off season was about 5 minutes in the middle of the afternoon. With FP+, we find that the standby lines for those rides have significantly increased. We have found lines for ALL of those rides, including even Journey Into Imagination, to be 25 to 30 minutes in the afternoons now. Plus, now there is an inability to get FP for all the things we used to be able to get- or for things we might want to ride twice. Now, you are limited to 3 FP only, with the possibility to get a 4th, if there is anything left that you might want after you use your 3. (And don't underestimate that because with Journey Into Imagination having a 30 minute standby wait, we would up pulling a 4th for that which kicked in 20 minutes after we got it). For us, it is now more important than ever to get there at rope drop. We used to always arrive around 9:15 or 9:30 and that was fine for us- now we try to get there before the gates open.
2. Short lines. 1 hour after park opening will be worse than park opening, but still not horrible. 2 hours after and the lines will have started really building.
3. We do both. We are open to close people. We are not morning people and I prefer late nights to early mornings, but with FP+ the shortest lines are by far in the mornings. If you are going in the off season, you won't have the really late park hours that sometimes result in shorter lines (i.e. MK being open until midnight or even later than that).
4. You can't possibly have FP+ already for all the big rides as you are limited to 3 in advance. Further, at Epcot with tiers you can have either Soarin or Test Track, but not both. At DHS with tiers you can have either TSMM or RNRC, but not both. I did not get to ride RNRC at all our last trip even though it is one of my favorites because with DD, I have to use our FP+ on TSMM. We did not check the RNRC line until about 1 1/2 hours after park opening because we were doing other things for DD, and at that point, the single rider line was 30 minutes. DD will not ride it, and DH did not feel it was fair to take over an hour out of her day for both of us to ride it, and neither felt fair riding it when the other couldn't as we both love it-- so neither of us got to ride it. We checked often during the day, and the single rider line was never below 30 minutes (the regular standby was never below 45 minutes). I think that because a lot of people with small kids have to use the FP+ on TSMM, that more people are using the single rider line than ever.
5. I would explain to them that the lines are the absolute shortest the first couple of hours during the day. After that, it is their choice. It may be that they go late the first day, and then realize they need to get up earlier. If I were you, I would just tell them you will meet them in the park when they get there. You can go ahead and get there at rope drop and do some stuff on your own. Maybe after a day of hearing everything you were able to do before they even got there, they will get up earlier the next day. I will say that I think you can try to get them there by 30 minutes after park opening, and it will not be that bad. I don't think you need to be there waiting 30 minutes before rope drop. We used to enjoy getting there 15 to 20 minutes after rope drop. The transportation would be bad, but not quite as crazy, and we never had trouble getting any FP we wanted to start off with, and I didn't have to stand in the initial long line to get it. That has now all been lost with FP+, and we definitely have felt that we were at a big disadvantage if we arrived 15 to 30 minutes after rope drop which is our old pattern, so now we get there before rope drop.... but for your situation 30 minutes after is better than 2 hours after. I would just strive to get them moving and there as early as you can. What they miss is their problem, not yours. If they prefer to come later, then don't let it stress you out. Just go when you want and meet them when they arrive. So what if they want to ride something that you already rode- I never mind riding things twice! Or you can always separate from them and meet up later for things too.
6. Have a great trip!!! When we travel with others, our best advice is don't force them into your schedule, but do not cave to their schedule either. You do not have to be together all day every day. In traveling with the inlaws, we learned after one miserable (not WDW) trip- that the best thing to do is to be together when you can, but not to be afraid to separate and do your own thing at other times. That first trip we caved to the inlaws schedule and felt like we were in a fun city and didn't get to do much of anything- no one was happy. Now, we plan a meal together every day when we travel together. Other than that we tell the inlaws- we plan on doing A, B, and C and the times we plan on doing them- if you want to come we would love it, but if you want to do your own thing that is fine too. They do the same for us. If there are things we all want to do and the times don't mesh, but we can work it where they do and can all go together, then either side can adjust schedules. Usually we wind up spending the meal and some part of the day together, and then other times we go our separate ways to go do what we are interested in (the inlaws often go rest- as they are kind of sitters, and we are kind of doers). We have not had a bad trip since. We have had fun traveling with them on every trip after that first one, including at WDW, because no one is trying to force anyone into a schedule they are not happy with.
Oh and as a non-morning people family- I would not advise bribing with the pre-park opening ADR as others have suggested. Especially if you are using bus transportation to get to that park, you have to get up ridiculously early to get there on time. We did the pre park opening ADR one time and discovered it absolutely was not for us. We were all miserable. It was way too early. It caused much stress trying to get everyone up and there on time, and everyone was just totally cranky once we got there. It was not good....at all. We have not done a pre-opening ADR since. If the family has already stated they don't even want to have to get there by rope drop- the pre-park opening ADR is not the way to go.