mom2girlsn1boy
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We are taking my 3 kids to DW this Oct. my parents are coming along, we had talked about this last year and at that time we had also asked my brother if he wanted to come along too, everyone paying there own way. I recently found out that my brother thinks he raises his child better than I raise mine and he thinks mine bully his. A little background he has 2 daughters on almost 5 (in April)and then a 3 month old, I have 3 kids a daughter almost 5(in July), a daughter 2, and a son who just turned 1.
My two year old when she gets tired pinches, the first time she pinches she is told to tell whoever she pinches sorry and give a hug, the second time she tells them she's sorry and gets in time out and the third time it happens she has to go lay down of course after telling them sorry. Now it usually never gets to the last one, but if she's had a very long day it might. Well my brother thinks I should pinch her until she quits pinching or spank her until she quits and he thinks the way I disipline is wrong and that my kids are never going to learn and he has told his daughter that if my youngest dd pinches her she can pinch her back, now his dd is 2 years older than my youngest dd. Anyways, we got into a big fight over this one night and he flat out said my kids were awful and need better disipline. Since this night things have been tense between us. We still usually get together at my parents house every weekend because I don't want my kids' relationship with their cousin ruined because my brother and I don't get along. Now if my kids do the slightest thing wrong he gives them dirty looks or tells his daughter how well she's being Ect. (on a side note his daughter isn't as perfect as he would like to believeWell I started planning this trip,( we are going in Oct. because my youngest dd's birthday is Nov. 2nd and we wanted to celebrate her party, and also wanted to go to MNSSHP) and of course I had to ask him because we had all talked about it before all this went on, I really didn't want him coming a long and ruining my vacation, but I sucked it up and did. he didn't know if he would beable to get the money or days off, and I just found out he won't beable to get it off. When I found out tonight I was so happy, now this may make me a horrible person, but I am so glad I am going to beable to go and have a wondeful time w/out worring if my brother is giving my kids dirty looks or thinking bad of us Sorry about the book, but I just wanted to tell someone besides my dh. lol
My two year old when she gets tired pinches, the first time she pinches she is told to tell whoever she pinches sorry and give a hug, the second time she tells them she's sorry and gets in time out and the third time it happens she has to go lay down of course after telling them sorry. Now it usually never gets to the last one, but if she's had a very long day it might. Well my brother thinks I should pinch her until she quits pinching or spank her until she quits and he thinks the way I disipline is wrong and that my kids are never going to learn and he has told his daughter that if my youngest dd pinches her she can pinch her back, now his dd is 2 years older than my youngest dd. Anyways, we got into a big fight over this one night and he flat out said my kids were awful and need better disipline. Since this night things have been tense between us. We still usually get together at my parents house every weekend because I don't want my kids' relationship with their cousin ruined because my brother and I don't get along. Now if my kids do the slightest thing wrong he gives them dirty looks or tells his daughter how well she's being Ect. (on a side note his daughter isn't as perfect as he would like to believeWell I started planning this trip,( we are going in Oct. because my youngest dd's birthday is Nov. 2nd and we wanted to celebrate her party, and also wanted to go to MNSSHP) and of course I had to ask him because we had all talked about it before all this went on, I really didn't want him coming a long and ruining my vacation, but I sucked it up and did. he didn't know if he would beable to get the money or days off, and I just found out he won't beable to get it off. When I found out tonight I was so happy, now this may make me a horrible person, but I am so glad I am going to beable to go and have a wondeful time w/out worring if my brother is giving my kids dirty looks or thinking bad of us Sorry about the book, but I just wanted to tell someone besides my dh. lol
I know how hard it is to enjoy yourself when you aren't getting along with family. It's best to be flexible - maybe things will work out in the future when the kids are older and then you can plan another trip w/your brother and family. These things typically go in cycles. But for now, just enjoy your trip with your parents and family! Woohoo for you!
Hopefully things will get better as the kids get older.
