I'm not sure if we are going now

[kelscross]

I am completely beside myself right now. I find out at 6am that we may not be going at all! Things came up with his work and now he doesn't want to go. sigh....this stinks

 

[LindaR]

I'm sorry..............

 

[winniedapooh]

 

[FINFAN]

Same sinking ship here...DH work woes, we are due to leave the 18th, it has been torture on the kids wondering if Christmas at WDW was off...and we already paid a hefty airfare penalty for changing it once, and would be staring at another $400 fee....believe me, I feel your pain! After much on again/off again agony, DH decided last night to still go, FOR SURE, says he needs the distraction of being at WDW to help keep him sane...I am hesitant, however, figure we really should not be using the $ for the trip but to cushion the nest egg a bit more. I was outvoted however, and the nasty "donation " to American Airlines was the final push to go...after paying over $1000 in airfare our "credit" would be about $350 for 4 flights...so we are going to Orlando! How much we can swing at WDW will be a day by day deal.
I sure hope things work out to be what you are both comfortable with. And I was looking at this as a "postponement" not a cancellation...just could'nt deal w/that word.


Pam

 

[kelscross]

okay..here's the deal...I'm so sad to be writing this.

My ex husband was taking us to WDW for a xmas present etc. He waits until 6am to tell me that he doesn't think he can go due to some work that he took on yesterday (grr...knowing the whole time we've had this planned) So he says that the girls and I can still go and to come up and get the money as he wasn't sure he could get it to us in time. So I drive 3 1/2 hours with the girls in tow and when we get there it was all a trick and he says that he was just seeing if I would come up there to get the money that I was only money hungry, etc. so now since I did that we weren't going at all.

You should have seen the look on my girls' face. The just stood there blankly staring at him in disbelief. That's what hurts the most. So we left to come back home. He calls me on the way home and says he'll think about it and let us know if we are going or not. I don't expect a call from him.

So unfortunately ours is not postponed, it is cancelled. He doesn't care that he's out the deposit on the room, the MVMCP tickets and the plane tickets.
I'm so sick to my stomach over this I can't stand it.

 

[ppony]

Well, we know why he is an EX!!! What horrible thing to do to children!!!! That man is evil! Words can't express my sadness for you. It's one thing to not be able to go but for him to play such and evil GAME and put his children in the middle of his petty games in just SICK!
I AM SOOOOOOOO SORRY!!!!!

 

[bdcp]

Sounds like a control freak. Is there any way you can pay for this yourself? Why were you depending on your ex for your vacation? This behavior can't be a surprise, probably like his normal way of doing business. He will alienate his girls and never understand why they dont' want to spend any time with him. He loves the idea that you would jump by driving to him when he demanded it. Don't fall for it again. I would tell him I don't want it, and if he wants his girls to go to send you a money order and you take them.

 

[Tabetha]

What a manipulative jerk! I'm so sorry that you and your daughters have to be going through this.

 

[scoutsmom99]

kelscross,
What a horrid thing for your ex to do and in front of the kids...I don't know how you could keep it together. What a jerk to lead you and the girls on like that! I just want to send you and the girls some .

 

[mjmcca]

I would forget about him and his money. If you dont have the funds to go on your own without him then see if there is something you can do wither the girls without him to make the holidays special. I notice you are from Ohio. I know it is not Disney but Hershey Park does some special stuff for Christmas. I dont know if this is within driving distance for you. Look online at city search or digital city for special holiday events in your area.

Honestly i do not know if i would want to go with him now anyway if thats what he thinks of you and the girls even if he is your EX.

 

[disneyfan67]

First off let me say as a stay home father of twin 7 year olds I'm ashamed that he still calls himself a father and a man! He makes all men look bad with his actions and how he can call himself a father after this, is beyond me. I don't know you personally but let me say how sorry I feel for you and wish you and your children strength to overcome this disapointment. Keep your head up and try remember that Karma, Fate,etc, does work and he will get his in the end. Try and have good holiday and when you feel sad just hug your kids and realize that life isn't all bad at times.That always worked for me and it will for you, trust me. Remember the old saying "This too shall pass" Good luck and God Bless you and your family!!

 

[cdrn1]

WHAT A JERK!!!!! I can't believe a man would set his own children up for that kind of disappointment. I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope that you and your kids have a nice Christmas anyway and that he realizes what he has done and is filled with massive regret and guilt.

 

[LukenDC]

This is a terrible story and it reminds me of something similar that happened to me when I was eight years old. My parents had recently divorced and moved apart. After Christmas I received a letter from my father stating that he had intended to take my brother and me to Disneyland for the holiday. He wrote, however, since we had moved away he took two other children instead and that everyone had a great time. It was a devastating letter for an eight year old to receive. In the end, Dad is the real loser because while I will always love him, I will never forget some of the cruel stunts he pulled.

I really feel for you and your daughters.

 

[Deafmedic]

Kelscross, My DW said to tell you her parents have a shotgun, shovel and 54 acres if you need to borrow them.

 

[#1hockeymom]

Oh how rotten! I don't know what to say, but I can offer you this hug from all of us to you and your girls!