I'm not ready for this boy girl stuff

[disneyjunkie]

DS11 just got a phone call from 2 girls!! When Tyreak answered the phone they were both laughing away. Every time I walked into the living room Tyreak had a huge smile on his face.

I don't think I'm ready for my baby to grow up yet!! He just turned 11 on the 5th.

How common is it for 10 and 11 year old girls to call boys. What happened to waiting for the boy to call you. And why did 2 of them have to call at the same time.

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

Our boys are 12 and 10, they don't get many phone calls that don't have a purpose (meeting someone when, when they will pick them up, etc.)

We have always discouraged sitting and talking on the phone for hours just for the fun of it. Plus they are too busy!

If I were you, I would set a time limit and enforce it.

I just will not tollerate kids calling here saying "Who is this?" If they call and politely ask to speak to one of the boys they are more than welcome to.

 

[Katie]

My 5th grader and her friends when they are together..get the phone and who knows who they call...but I suspect it is BOYS!

They worry about their hair and their clothes.

The last few parties, she has gone too...have been COED......

YIKES...and jr HIgh is next year....

 

[Patricia]

My younger daughter is 12 1/2 now. The boy thing really hit last year, so I would say it's pretty normal for it all to be happening now. It's so hard isn't it? She has a group of friends that are mixed boys and girls and I enjoy seeing them have so much fun together. BUT, I do remember what those days were like and I know the undercurrents are so important. I try to remember my own experiences and keep my head from exploding. It's the toughest thing in the world to know what's ok, what's too much. Best of luck to you and just remember, I am with you on this. It's really a "one day at a time" deal.

 

[janette]

I have an 11yo DD and she still isn't interested at all in boys. Her 8yo sister is sure to make up for it, I think she was born interested.

 

[Patricia]

Janette,
That's exactly how it was in our home. My oldest daughter, now 16 was not interested in boys at all until HS. Even then, she is yet to have a serious boyfriend. Not interested much. The younger one.... makes up for it for sure... God help us.

 

[p-nut]

My DD is Eleven. Will be twelve next month. She got a phone call from a boy about a month ago and my DH went nuts. Thinks she is too young to think about boys. My DD is in Jr High and I think she just wants to fit in. I do not know what to do.

 

[Robinrs]

Mine has had a girlfriend every year since he was 3!

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

you haven't lived until you've seen my 10 year old on AIM and the phone at the same time.

she's chatting with a boy, who wants another girls phone number. and at the same time she's talking with the girl and sharing what the boy says on AIM.

and she's already got a "date" for 5th grade fun night in June!

my 12 year old has the boyfriend of the week club. one day he's great, the next he's "stupid".

 

[Beauty]

What a great day for this post because I have the perfect story. John-Cole came home today and told me that their teacher made a list of everyone in the class (there are only 15 of them) well the list was passed around the room and every child had to write something that the other child was good at by their name. So at the end all 15 children have 15 compliments...I thought that was a great idea. Anyway.....9 of the 15 children put John-Cole is good at dating girls I was LOL! He has had the same girlfriend since the end of the year last year. But he is the one that the other girls come to when they want to "Go out" with the other boys (they go out to the playground by the way)

I just thought that was hillarious...and John-Cole also had a huge grin on his face. When we went to the Harvest Fair last night he left me immediantly and was with his girlfriend Chelsea all night long.

 

[Beauty]

What a great day for this post because I have the perfect story. John-Cole came home today and told me that their teacher made a list of everyone in the class (there are only 15 of them) well the list was passed around the room and every child had to write something that the other child was good at by their name. So at the end all 15 children have 15 compliments...I thought that was a great idea. Anyway.....9 of the 15 children put John-Cole is good at dating girls I was LOL! He has had the same girlfriend since the end of the year last year. But he is the one that the other girls come to when they want to "Go out" with the other boys (they go out to the playground by the way)

I just thought that was hillarious...and John-Cole also had a huge grin on his face. When we went to the Harvest Fair last night he left me immediantly and was with his girlfriend Chelsea all night long.

 

[Amusement Park Junkie]

Seems young to me, but I'm one of those overprotective dads. It seems to hit them at different ages. I know that DD knew a number of girls in school who were interested at that age, but not her. She's 14 and just started high school. She got rid of all the boy crazy friends (that seemed to be all of them by last year) and found new ones who had better things to do.
Since I probably won't let her date until she's at least 16 anyway, I'm glad she hasn't shown too much interest yet. Also glad that she's still shy around boys.

 

[Carl]

Amusement Park Junkie has pretty much told you what to expect. If your son starts the girl/boy thing, he will belong to that group of children. They tend to separate into those 2 groups. Unfortunately, the boy/girl group tends to have a much more limited range of experiences. They spend almost all of their time talking about boy/girl relations and becoming pretty much obsessed with it. The other group tends to talk about and participate in a much wider range of activities.

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

APJ and Carl have said it better than I ever could. In our home, the phone is not a toy. When friends are over, they do not play on the phone. It is just simply not allowed.

Too many parents have accepted that this is 'all part of growing up'. Sure it is, but the boy/girl thing has started creeping into younger and younger age groups. IMO that is WRONG. If my sons are not in the 'in crowd' because they have stricter rules than anyone else, so be it. Their goals are higher than anyone else too, so they might as well get used to being different.

I sure did!