I'm in trouble now!

[SingingMUA]

Does anyone else think the SISTER was confused and thought the ceremony was the first weekend in May- and is now trying to save face saying everyone misunderstood her?

 

[ccgirl]

I don't think it is selfish at all to put your own immediate family first.

But, I would not have assumed the first weekend in May was the 1st full weekend either. Again, I would have asked for the exact date as there are two days to a weekend and I would have wanted to know if it was Saturday or Sunday. But, that's just me. Just saying the OP and sister share the misunderstanding of the date.

OP - out of curiosity, when did your child commit to the play? Did you commit to the play before finding out the date of the Communion? If your child has something then that's fine but don't say it was because your sister gave you the "wrong" date. She said the first weekend in May and that can be interpreted two ways as posters have indicated.

As big as I hold the First Communion to be; I would never hold it against anyone for attending one of their children's events instead. Just offering solutions for you to do both; if you wanted.

Good luck with your decision.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

but please stop blaming your sister for the date snafu.

The only reason anyone is "blaming" the sister is because in the OP she said that the sister is mad at everyone for having plans.

 

[KiminChicago]

Actually, when I called my sister in October to find out the date of the 1st Communion, it was so that I would know whether or not we could commit to the musical.

At our church, all the important CCD dates are given out at the beginning of the school year, so I knew in September when the exact dates were for each of my kids' 1st Communions. Also, at our church, you can choose to make your 1st Communion on the Saturday with all the other CCD classes or you can choose any other Mass during the Easter season. If you made your 1st Communion with all of the others, you were limited to only 10 attendees (including 1st Communicant's parents and sibings). If you made your 1st Communion at another Mass, you could invite as many people as you wanted. Both of my kids opted to make their 1st Communions on a different Sunday at our usual 9:30 Mass. I think it actually meant more for my kids to be congratulated by all the people we see in Mass every week and who remember when my kids were just infants.

It's entirely possible that my sister didn't know the exact date when I called and just figured that it was usually the first weekend in May and only now does she have the exact dates, but based on my experience, I would have thought she knew when it would be. I don't remember the exact conversation since that was almost 4 months ago now, but I would have thought that my sister would have asked about the concert dates before she contributed money toward the tickets.

 

[rascalmom]

Just curious if there are any updates from the OP?

 

[KiminChicago]

Actually, I wish there was something new to report. I saw my mom over the weekend at my brother's house (we were all there to celebrate his children's birthdays) and she says she hasn't spoken to my sister since this whole thing started. My mom thinks my sister is blaming her because my mom didn't call herself to find out when the 1st Communion is.

My mom and I are agreed that if the 1st Communion is on Sunday, we'll be there, if my sister sticks with Saturday, we won't. I'm not sure when my sister will decide to let us know for sure.