I'm going to be late for work today because of my babysitter!

[momof3disneyholics]

She called me last night and said she had to go to the doctor this morning because the boil she has had on the back of her neck for 2 months has been hurting really bad for the last couple of days. Ok, I understand that, but this is what gripes me; she had yesterday off from babysitting and she has tommorrow off from babysitting. Why does she have to go today? I even watched her kid yesterday so that she could go to a wellness class. I love her to death, she is also my best friend, but this just bothers me. My boss is not going to like this at all. I'm going to have to find an alternate source of daycare for times like these.
Thanks for listening, just needed to vent to someone.

 

[Hillbeans]

I just wanted to give you a *Hug*

I had something similar happen with my regular daycare, and one day I just started researching places and found a place to take my DS on those days where something like this happens and I just pay them that day. They're great, and even on the days it snowed really hard and my other Daycare closed, this one was open. It takes awhile to find something, but you'll be glad you did just for peace of mind.

People sure don't make it easy for us working mom's. It's different when they're sick and they want and need to be home, but it sounds like your sitter/friend really didn't think of your situation this time. I'm sure she didn't mean to do it on purpose.

 

[WDWFOREVER]

I'm a working Mum too and you have my utmost sympathy. It is so hard trying to juggle it all.

 

[disneysnowflake]

I've been in your situation.

My boys are 10 and 14, but when they were younger I worked from 3:30 until midnight. I'd drop them off at 2:50pm and DH would pick them up after work at 4pm.

My boys were in day care for 1 hour and 15 minutes per day and still I couldn't find anyone reliable to watch them. I paid $50 per week for them to be watched for a total of 6 hours and 15 minutes per week. Maybe I was cheap. I don't know.

I really feel for you.

 

[Lorix2]

I feel for your situation, but maybe this was the only appointment time she could get??

 

[poohandwendy]

That stinks, hopefully your boss will be understanding. With it being a doctors visit, maybe they couldn't fit her in yesterday or tommorow? I know with many doctors offices, their schedules are so full tha you are sort of at their mercy if you need to be seen with short notice.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

She didn't try to get an appt. She is just walking in. She called me at 10:00 last night to tell me, and in return I had to call my boss. I would have put my daughter in daycare a long time ago, but my friend is a stay at home mom, her husband doesn't want her to work, so the money she makes off of me really does help her. That is why she watches my daughter and my 2 boys (after school for them).

Disneysnowflake, I know your situation well. Most of the time I work evenings, the babysitter only has my kids for less than 2 hours, but we have been really short at work so they have needed me earlier, which is nice to be needed, and my babysitter didn't mind watching my daughter a couple of mornings a week because I paid her extra.
I hope she will be here soon. She left dropped her daughter off to me at 8am. The doctor's office is around 7 mins away. I hope she could get in. I work an hour from here, and I am suppose to be there at 10:00, so I need an hour driving time. I am already going to be an hour late. Gosh, I hope she gets here soon!!

 

[Hillbeans]

Momof3, your friend probably doesn't think twice about doing this, and it may be because she feels she helps you out by taking care of your kids (even though you pay).

The sense of urgency for some people is a lot less than others. Like I said before, she may not even realize what this is doing to you, especially if your job isn't all that flexible.

Try not to stress...can you possibly work a little later to make up the time?? I know it's not the same though...

 

[leahannpen]

OH I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!

Get this: MY babysitter over slept TWO days IN A ROW!

If you did that one day, wouldn't you make sure you get up on time the next day?

I too think my sitter is great, but she is late ALOT! I'd never make a good manager-type person, as I have such a hard time with confrontation. My boss is pretty understanding, so I'm lucky in that respect.

Well, I do hope she feels better.

 

[darrose]

If she is the one watching your child...then isnt she also a working mom or is this something she does for free?

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Originally posted by darrose
If she is the one watching your child...then isnt she also a working mom or is this something she does for free?

Yes, but I guess what her husband doesn't want is her working out of the home

She just called me and told me that she is on her way. If she gets here by 11, then I can be at work by 12, 2 hours late. I called my boss this morning to explain to her that I am sorry, I know this looks bad, I am working on getting an alternate babysitter or daycare and basically this is out of my hands right now. My husband couldn't take off because he has a prenatal class to teach this morning, and basically I am stuck. She said she understood and knows that I am trying. Well, I just called to tell her that I am on my way in a few, her mother answered the phone (she works there too, but her daughter owns the company) and I asked to speak to my boss, and she said "what do you want?!" I said to tell her I am on my way in a few. She then said in a harsh tone "so, you won't be here till after 12 then!?" I said I should get there right at 12. Then she hung up. Now, the daughter owns the company, and the mother is just an operator like the rest of us, but you would never know that. She acts like it is her company and her daughter lets her get away with it. I am in tears right now, because I don't feel I deserve that treatment. I get to work on time, always work extra. I am late maybe once every couple of months. They just hired 9 new people because we are getting another large cruise ship account (by the way, I work at a call center/ answering service), so everyone there is getting a little nervous, because we are doubling our staff. I asked my boss on Tuesday if anyone's jobs were in jeopardy, and she said no, she overhired because she is expecting 3 maybe to work out. But, that still doesn't stop her mother, who I might add has complete job security, to rub it in our faces.
I am just steaming and I just want to get to work. Thanks for listening.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

I'm so sorry your day started out so badly. I hope it gets better.

As far as your babysitter, it seems sooo many people today only think of themselves. Sad, but true.

Your bosses daughter sounds like she's on a huge powertrip for some reason. Also not a very flattering trait.

Keep smiling!

 

[darrose]

Its a good idea to be willing to pay top dollar for good day care. Get moving on that. Also, if you choose a good day care and an employee calls off for an appointment they should have the extra
people to cover with her.

Respect goes both ways. This is your best friend. Talk with her about your feelings, but as others have please dont accuse her of only thinking of herself.
Maybe a pay raise to the baby sitter will give her more incentive to make the doctors appointment on an off working day.
Maybe a written agreement that you two make up together will help you two understand each other side.
Good luck!!!

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Thanks for the advice. I pay her very well, the same I would pay if they were in daycare and also respect the days she asks off. She usually only watches my kids about 2-3 days a week.

When I got to work yesterday the boss's mother (the one that is so bossy) acted like nothing was wrong. I was expecting to get the cold shoulder. It is a very small office and they are usually not more than 3-4 operators are working at a time. Her daughter (the actual boss and owner) was in the room, so maybe that is why her mother didn't say anything to me. I am a very good employee and they see that. I can do the job of 2 operators and alot of the time when we are short actually do, so my boss is very good to me. Things like being late are a big deal to me, but they know I try my best. When I was going through chemo last year, I still worked my normal schedule and they were very good to me. So, I hope I can come to some resolution with my best friend. She gets paid salary from me, but if I miss work because of her, I miss those hours and don't get paid.
Thanks everyone for listening.

 

[Hillbeans]

It's probably best for you and your sanity to at least look into a back up situation. You never know when you may need it, yet it may really help you out one day. Start looking now so you're not rushed into dropping your kids off somewhere undesirable. Ask around in the neighborhood, other families that have kids may know someone good who can be a great plan "B".

BTW, I'm sorry to hear you had Chemo last year. I hope you're doing alright. My 66 yo mom died last year of gallbladder cancer and we only had a short 7 weeks from diagnosis until she died and she wasn't strong enough to do chemo. I know you must have been through a lot, and just wish you the best. Try not to stress!! It's not good for your health! I know work is very important but so is your health!

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Thanks for your concern. I am totally cured. I was released from my oncologist in Feb. I know how scary it can be. I was just so glad to get back to normal again.

 

[browneyes]

I hope she got into the dr and doesn't have to go back. I'm glad you have an understanding boss.

 

[darrose]

Best wishes with your back up plan. I agree with what
Hillbeans said in her last post and also would still consider reccomending a day care center with back up employees.

Maybe, your babysitter could still watch your older children and be a back up person for your youngest??

Also, sorry to hear about Chemo. Wishing you the best and lots of luck figuring out the best solution for your day care problems.

Another thought, maybe show the baby sitter your thread here to
show her your feelings and how her taking off affects you?
Anyways, especially since she is best friend defintely talk to her about this even if you dont show her the thread.
Good luck!!