I'm Giving up on finding a woman.

[disneydeal]

I think i'll give up on women for now. quick history on me. I'm now 40 years old, got married out of highschool, married forever, got a divorce 2 years ago , she cheated i ended the marriage, my oldest son lives with me and my 9 year old daughter lives with me like 70% of the time. anyway it seems like nobody meets my standards. I don't want to date or marry someone with a half dozen kids, I don't smoke, I don't drink... just a family man. Anyway just throwing this out there... I'm content on just raising my kids and let it be. I do have friends that are girls but the ones that ask me out aren't my type. I'm very happy just raising my kids.

 

[smitch425]

I think i'll give up on women for now. quick history on me. I'm now 40 years old, got married out of highschool, married forever, got a divorce 2 years ago , she cheated i ended the marriage, my oldest son lives with me and my 9 year old daughter lives with me like 70% of the time. anyway it seems like nobody meets my standards. I don't want to date or marry someone with a half dozen kids, I don't smoke, I don't drink... just a family man. Anyway just throwing this out there... I'm content on just raising my kids and let it be. I do have friends that are girls but the ones that ask me out aren't my type. I'm very happy just raising my kids.

Sometimes when you stop looking for something, IT finds YOU. Focus on your kids and keep your head up. You never know what might be in store for you down the road.

 

[TB'sWidow]

I know it seems like you will never meet anyone but the minute you stop looking is when you will find someone. Good wishes to you in whatever path you decide. Mary

 

[disneydeal]

I really am happy. these past two years have been great. nothing better than just raising my kids.....go to work, take kid to tap/ballet..go to soccer, go to skating partes for school,go to park, go to disney etc.... staying busy..I've always been the one to pay attention to kids so nothing changed there.

 

[JessicaR]

I think i'll give up on women for now. quick history on me. I'm now 40 years old, got married out of highschool, married forever, got a divorce 2 years ago , she cheated i ended the marriage, my oldest son lives with me and my 9 year old daughter lives with me like 70% of the time. anyway it seems like nobody meets my standards. I don't want to date or marry someone with a half dozen kids, I don't smoke, I don't drink... just a family man. Anyway just throwing this out there... I'm content on just raising my kids and let it be. I do have friends that are girls but the ones that ask me out aren't my type. I'm very happy just raising my kids.

No need to give up. You are just divorced give yourself a chance. Only opyion for dating are women with 6 kids? Why throw marry ANYONE into the mix. Step back, take a breath and enjoy your children.

If you were content these issues wouldn't be raised. Girls are asking you out? You should be flattered. Take a break - what you are looking for will happen - promise.

 

[BroganMc]

I think i'll give up on women for now. quick history on me. I'm now 40 years old, got married out of highschool, married forever, got a divorce 2 years ago , she cheated i ended the marriage, my oldest son lives with me and my 9 year old daughter lives with me like 70% of the time. anyway it seems like nobody meets my standards. I don't want to date or marry someone with a half dozen kids, I don't smoke, I don't drink... just a family man. Anyway just throwing this out there... I'm content on just raising my kids and let it be. I do have friends that are girls but the ones that ask me out aren't my type. I'm very happy just raising my kids.

Be a good dad. That makes you one of the most attractive males around at your age. There's nothing wrong with being a happy single parent.

I gave up looking for someone myself a few years ago. My life is just too full right now to make any relationship feasible besides my current family. But the hopeless romantic in me hasn't given up. Fate will one day step in. Until then I really enjoy my family and the kids in it.

Good luck to you!

 

[alex9179]

Wise choice...especially if you mean it. My cousin says it but still has a relapse now and then

You serve necessity, focusing on the nows in your life, and you will be rewarded beyond what you thought possible. Besides, 40 isn't old. I should know because I'm 42! Lots of good stuff ahead

 

[disneydeal]

Wise choice...especially if you mean it. My cousin says it but still has a relapse now and then

You serve necessity, focusing on the nows in your life, and you will be rewarded beyond what you thought possible. Besides, 40 isn't old. I should know because I'm 42! Lots of good stuff ahead

hey now I never said I was old... having any girl I wanted... then after highschool being married for 18 years then getting back into the market... wow how the market has changed that's all. don't think i'm interested in this dating scene. I have my family.. I'm good..

 

[diznymom]

I've been in your shoes (high heels, though ).

Recovering from a divorce takes time and healing. When you are truly ready and when SHE is truly ready, it will happen. You may get to the point where you are ready for a new relationship; but, she might not be ready yet. All things happen in time.

In the mean time, be the best single parent you can be. Enjoy your kids and life.

I was divorced 5 years before I met DH. Up until that time I was the president of the local male bashing society. I hadn't found even 1 I could stand to be around. DH changed all that in just 3 dates. We have been happily married for nearly 13 years now. I was nearly 40 at the time. DH had never been married and had no children. IMHO one DX in the family is more than enough.

 

[beaucoup]

I imagine you are probably busy, but think about taking up a hobby that you can do as a family. Something that will also involve meeting others doing the same hobby. You never know, you may meet someone. Even if you don't, you'll be having fun with your kids.

We go geocaching as a couple. We also attend local events where geocachers meet & greet. I know of many marriages from geocachers meeting & striking up a relationship.

Others meet at church. You just never know.

In the meantime, nothing wrong with a dating break. Might just happen when you least expect it.

 

[alex9179]

hey now I never said I was old... having any girl I wanted... then after highschool being married for 18 years then getting back into the market... wow how the market has changed that's all. don't think i'm interested in this dating scene. I have my family.. I'm good..

All right! No need to mention what a stud you were in high school The market/society HAS changed. Thank goodness I got married at 30. Just sayin', after the kids are out and living their lives you still have lots of opportunities. I agree, no need to rush into anything and I'm glad you're good with it.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

Stop looking! As soon as I stopped looking the perfect man from my past fell into my fence (litterly!) and now weve been together a year!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds fine to me.

 

[shortbun]

Glad you are content to raise your kids because if I were you, that is exactly what I'd do. I have several girlfriends who dated only casually - children never met the dates-until their kids were raised. Much less complicated and confusing for everyone. The rules were that a man had to become exclusive and be that way for several months before they earned the right to meet the kids. Even then, baseball games-zoo visits, all child oriented activities and meeting there rather than the man coming into their home was the norm. Your kids are young. Why not focus on them for a while since you are happy to do that?

 

[Sgt Mickey]

That is nice to hear. My dad and mom divorced when I was about 10 and my brother and I ended up moving in with my dad. He is the type of person to be with anyone just so he doesn't have to be alone. His now wife is a HUGE loser. I ended up moving in with his sister because when I was growing up we lived with his girlfriend and her kids and it was a HORRIBLE situation for me. BUT my dad never saw beyond him being alone.

 

[disneydeal]

Glad you are content to raise your kids because if I were you, that is exactly what I'd do. I have several girlfriends who dated only casually - children never met the dates-until their kids were raised. Much less complicated and confusing for everyone. The rules were that a man had to become exclusive and be that way for several months before they earned the right to meet the kids. Even then, baseball games-zoo visits, all child oriented activities and meeting there rather than the man coming into their home was the norm. Your kids are young. Why not focus on them for a while since you are happy to do that?

I agree. my girl doesn't meet women that I'd be in a dating situation with (unless they were the one) however we do get out and hang out with (friends)that are women. at tap/ballet class, at zoo, at soccer, at ballgames ...go to theme park nearby, waterpark nearby, library, grocery store, school events, plenty of interacton with women at these places just not the Right One. I'm not complaining just stating I'm Done.

 

[cntrygal]

I totally understand were you r coming from. I have pretty much have given up on finding a guy. I dont drink or smoke either, i go to church on sundays, not just Christmas Easter and funerals. I m involved in my childrens activities. My friends say i just have a tainted view of society, because I work where every day i have contact with felons, sex offenders, drug addicts/dealer etc.. Its not like im gonna find one at work, thereisonly one single guy in thewhole building, he's in his 40's and still liveswith mommy and daddy.

My requirements for dating someone

1 single
2 not a.felon , sex offender
3 not a alcohalic or drug user
4 employed or at least in this economy a long record of employment
5 if he has kids he sees them (or at least hasnt been banned by the court from seeing.them) and pays his child support


Right i too am ok with being single. But im open to finding someone if he happens.to come along

 

[torinsmom]

I've been divorced since 1999, and I guess I didn't know it, but I was done then, LOL. Being a teacher is not a great way to meet good men. As I told someone, the men I meet are married or there's a good reason they aren't Not being very outgoing has worked against me. I've tried online dating a few times, but didn't have much response. Now that I'm 41, I figure I'll just let it be and if something happens, it happens. I don't NEED a man, but it would nice to have someone to share my happiness with.

 

[sparklynails23]

What about your ex-wife? Has she moved on? Maybe you could forgive her. She married right out of high school, too.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I'm with the ones who say "stop looking." About a year after my divorce (and MANY years after my marriage was over, really), I felt it was time to start looking again. I got nothing but losers. That made me realize that I was actually happy being single. At the same time, I told myself to try eHarmony because they match you up and I was just curious as to what was out there. Two weeks later, I was matched up to my now-DH. Didn't expect it, wasn't really looking...found the perfect man

(Note: I'm not advising you to try eHarmony...it's my way of saying that when you give up, you'll do something at some point that will pair you up with the right person.)