im confused

[Darth Sidious]

ok well heres the scoop.

last friday my friend laura had a sweet 16. so i went and hung out with her friend liz the whole night, i also know liz for years since laura and liz r best friends, and im best friend with lauras brother since i was like 1. ok so, everywhere i went liz went, everywhere she went i went. 9 people from that party think we would be such a cute couple. so saturday night im talking to kevin(lauras brother) online and hes like, "yo man u should ask liz out she really wants u to." and copied and pasted from liz, "if u think im not going to say yes then ur wrong" so i saw that and was like to myself, "oo thats good, that means she will go out with me" but i really didn't like her that much so i waited. i waited until the next night where i called her and asked her. her answer to me was, "i can't say yes casue i have to think about it" that upset me cause she was supposed to say yes right? yeah so that wasn't good. so im waiting for a few days and then finally last night online i was talking to liz and i was like, "im sad without u" i was trying to get an answer out of her. so..... she said she was sorry. then i said, "i have the weird feeling that ur going to say no. idk" and she said, "im really sorry but i have mixed feelings and i have to figure myself out" cause she really like(d) this guy joe from her school. so i what i don't understand is y did she tell kevin that she would say yes if she didn't say yes to me??? that both makes me upset and pissed off. but we r going to be valentines for tuesday, although i would like to be valentines while going out. but yeah, thats not happening. plus i think i came in at a really horrible time casue like i said, i think she still likes joe and her friends friend died on friday night. liz went to the wake on monday and was really upset. so i just added to it all and that was bad. should i not have asked her out? should i have waited? or not done anything ever? and y do u think she didn't say yes to me when she said she would? im so confused/pissed/upset.

 

[MuNkY]

Well you were certain she was going to say yes, so I can't blame ya for askin her out.

 

[disneydramadiva]

Aww. I'm sorry that you are having relation ship problems. Maybe you should sit down with everyone involved and talk it our. Give it time

 

[Sparx]

I'm sorry. She probably does like you. But since you are both friends she doesn't want to go out with you because she is scared to ruin her friendship. Its really confusing, but you can't really blame her, if htis is the case. It means she cares so much more about you.

 

[Azure]

Here's the thing, when your friends with the girl and then you ask her out she's most likely to say i don't know. Due to the fact that like Sparx said it would ruin the friendship. I'm really sorry man.

 

[DollfieDreams]

wow..this is a sticky situation.

you guys are bestfriends right? usually bestfriend things could be 1 of 2 situations. 1. you guys are soul mates and you could only improve your relationship by dating...or 2. you guys are soul friends and youre messing with how things flow by dating, ultimately causing discomfort and maybe a ruined relationship.

if shes going through a lot of stuff, id give her time. be supportive, and dont bring it up again. if she honestly wants to date you, and you have asked her out, she'll come and talk to you when shes ready. i would act like ive always acted around her. let her know that youre still her friend even if she says no.

as for what she said on the computer, how much do you trust this friend kevin of yours? it sounds kind of suspicious to me, i mean, he might just be messing with you. its possible, but im not saying thats what happened. i would use your good judgement on this, stay level-headed and leave all doors open. whatever happens..happens. que sera sera.

 

[Darth Sidious]

i trust my friend kevin with my life. hes like my brother, and he copied and pasted exactly what she said.

 

[2HOT2touch]

ok, most girls, expecially when there is a friendship involved will say i have to think about it. sometimes she needs to figure things out, sometimes she just needs to tell her friends and see what they say about it. it sounds to me that her life is kind of stressful right now, and believe me guys coming into your life at a stressful time does NOT help! so like what someone else had said, just be her friend, dont talk to her about couples and stuff for a while, untill everything is okay again. just be her friend, be there for her and make sure she knows you are there to talk or anything. I know its frustraiting but its frustraiting for her too. so just let her cool down and be the best guy friend she could ever want. good luck!!!!

 

[JackSparrow0791]

First of all i have to say i love the man dude big star wars fan right here, but i am also in a dilemma not unlike urs. Sarah and I have been friends for about a year now and we really click always both jokin and having fun. Shes liked this guy forever and she just found out hes been misleading her for the past 2 months. She doesnt like him anymore because of him misleading her. Now we are even closer than before were best friends. I have also started to realize i like her, and its becuase we share the same inerests and ideals. Now i dont no what to do becuase she is awesome and id hate to lose her as a best friend but am also starting to like her. I realize too that a lt of the best relationships start off as friends. Idk what to do, for u though man i hope we get some advice.