Okay, so I'm a week behind on the podcasts, but WOW!!!! I did not see that one coming. I managed a fine dining restaurant for a while and the managers lived by one code...
Servers may each have their own tables, but every person that walks in the door is the manager's responsibility.
We usually allowed the servers to deal with their guests on their own, but if they needed help or a guest flagged us down personally, we did everything in our power to accomodate. Following the managers code, I can honestly say I never had a customer walk out or walk out angry. There were sometimes when you want to react to a customer in a rude way, but you bite your tongue and try to accommodate. "A happy customer will tell 1 person, an dissatisfied customer will tell 10 (or in this case 1,000's)" That's simple business 101.
Kevin, I think your concerns were well warranted and if you were in my restaurant, you would have received a fresh "hot" meal for your inconvienence.
So, to Kevin, John and family, a heartfelt "I'm sorry!" from all the restaurant managers around the country, who are ashamed to have this man in their profession.