If you were married in the last 10 years, who paid for most of your wedding?

[Papa Deuce]

My in laws gave us $3000. The wedding / reception part of getting married was about $16,000 when we got married 10 years ago. My wife and I paid the rest.

 

[Pomlover2586]

We paid a large portion of our wedding- but our parents [both sides] paid for a lot as well.

 

[EthansMom]

DH and I were married just over 10 years ago. My Dad gave us $1000 as a gift. DH and I paid for the small wedding (~$2500) ourselves.

When our kids get married, DH and I will likely do as my Dad did and give each of the children an amount we can afford as a gift to do with as they wish in lieu of paying for certain wedding expenses. We have one daughter and one son and we'd give them each the same amount of money.

 

[RadioNate]

My grandfather. And frankly, I don't want any crap about it. I was the only daughter of his only daughter and he was a dying man who WANTED to provide a fairy tale. And he did. His involvement in my wedding (10 years ago this October) brought him great joy in his final months. It also provided me with cherished memories, not only of the day, but of time with him.

Yes, it was lavish and expensive but believe me, he had the money. I've gotten grief over the years that we should have used the money for a house or investments or what ever more practical thing people like to throw out but the fact is HE wanted a wedding. He didn't give me money for a house or investments or what ever else people think is 'better.' He gave me money for a wedding, so we had a grand one!

And all that money that DH and I had saved for our wedding.....we bought a house.

 

[Aimeedyan]

His parents hosted the rehearsal dinner and both of my parents contributed what they could. I paid for 75% of it myself, and DH paid for honeymoon/his stuff/my rings himself.

 

[skuttle]

Just celebrated our 9th anniversary. My parents pretty much paid for everything. DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner, flowers, and donation to the church. DH and I didn't pay for anything.

 

[Angelhalo]

My DH and I were married last year. My parent's paid for everything but the open bar of $2,000 and the rehearsal dinner. That was paid by my FIL as a gift. My parent's paid $7,000.

 

[Papa Deuce]

My grandfather. And frankly, I don't want any crap about it. ....

Why would we give anybody any crap? I mean we didn't have to know why he was the one.

 

[Jsme]

My grandfather. And frankly, I don't want any crap about it. I was the only daughter of his only daughter and he was a dying man who WANTED to provide a fairy tale. And he did. His involvement in my wedding (10 years ago this October) brought him great joy in his final months. It also provided me with cherished memories, not only of the day, but of time with him.

Yes, it was lavish and expensive but believe me, he had the money. I've gotten grief over the years that we should have used the money for a house or investments or what ever more practical thing people like to throw out but the fact is HE wanted a wedding. He didn't give me money for a house or investments or what ever else people think is 'better.' He gave me money for a wedding, so we had a grand one!

And all that money that DH and I had saved for our wedding.....we bought a house.

I am taking your wedding was very expensive because you are very defensive which means a lot of people have upset you on this subject.

I think your memories are worth what ever the cost. You can never replace or buy memories.

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

we paid for it, 2 years ago. My parents gifted us most of our honeymoon and his parents paid for the rehersal about $1000. but we did it all ourselves.

 

[AustinTink]

We paid about $3,000 ourselves. We were gifted $1,000 by my parents. Dad gave us the check about a month before the wedding. Then he passed away. It was the last conversation I ever had with him. $1,000 was a lot of money to him, but he wanted us to have it.

 

[mamacatnv]

I know you said 10 years BUT 22 years ago DH and I paid for it all.

 

[RadioNate]

Why would we give anybody any crap? I mean we didn't have to know why he was the one.

I am taking your wedding was very expensive because you are very defensive which means a lot of people have upset you on this subject.

I think your memories are worth what ever the cost. You can never replace or buy memories.

Jsme is correct. People have given me LOTS of grief over the years. More than you can ever imagine. I've heard it all. 1000x over. In fact someone who I didn't even know when I got married gave me the old "I can't you got married there, didn't it cost a fortune. I wouldn't waste that much money on a wedding" speech just this past weekend when they saw a photo in our house.

It is what he wanted. There were lots of things I wanted to scale back and he'd contact the people behind my back and order them. It still makes me smile, which is what he wanted. He had plenty of money so it wasn't like I put anyone in debt or borrowed a dime. Over the years many people have tried to make me feel guilty about letting him spend it on me. So yeah, I'm a bit defensive.

This board is notorious for judging people on everything so I figured I'd circumvent the usual questions.

 

[cybrkitn]

We paid a large portion of our wedding- but our parents [both sides] paid for a lot as well.

Same here. DH and I are celebrating 10 years next month. Our wedding cost us about $12K. My parents paid for the reception hall and we paid for everything else. It helped that we were able to get discounts b/c of family/friends working in certain areas.

Funny thing was that DH and I were engaged for 6 years before we were able to financially get married. My father gave us a budget of about $12k a few years before we tied the knot. Amazingly, we were able to stick to that budget. I still don't know how we managed it

 

[LisaZee]

We got married in September 2001, so just about 8 years ago...

My parents paid for the reception - about $6k I believe. The spouse and I paid for everything else - maybe another $12k? His parents paid for the rehearsal dinner.

My brother got married last year and my parents looked at the receipt from my reception and wrote him a check for the exact same amount. Say what you want about my mom - but she's always Even Steven! Lol.

 

[Papa Deuce]

This board is notorious for judging people on everything so I figured I'd circumvent the usual questions.

I expected your response to be just what it was. What I meant was, if you had just said "My Grandfather", nobody would have known the details or been the wiser. Hence, nobody would have judged you, I'm guessing.

 

[RadioNate]

I expected your response to be just what it was. What I meant was, if you had just said "My Grandfather", nobody would have known the details or been the wiser. Hence, nobody would have judged you, I'm guessing.

Oh you know full well that around these parts people look down upon those who have things 'handed' to them.

back on topic.

 

[olena]

We paid for everything.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I was 28 when I got married, and my parents paid for everything.

Looking back, it was an obscene amount of money, but it was a great day.

 

[belle&beast]

We were married in January 2000. My mother in law paid for the rehearsal dinner and the bar tab at the reception, and my parents paid for everything else. My dad offered me $10,000 to elope- I chose the big ceremony and reception. Looking back, I'm glad I had the big day, but that $ would have come in handy!!! (In both my family and DH's family it is tradition for the costs to be split this way.)