If you were married in the last 10 years, who paid for most of your wedding?

[lspst8]

I'm getting married on Sunday in Las Vegas, and my fiancee and I and paying for everything.

We are having a small (maybe 12 people, including us) reception 2 weeks later. I put down a $200 deposit, but my dad said he and my mom would pay the rest of the bill at the restaurant. My friend makes wedding cakes as a side business, and she is givning us a cake for a wedding gift.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

22 Years ago

My parents paid for our wedding. His parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. My husband paid for the honeymoon.

My DH was taking about this last night. He said, "I glad we only have to pay for 2 rehearsal dinners for the boys and one wedding for our daughter." I tried to explain to him how times have changed. It's going to be interesting in about 10-15 years when our children start getting married.

 

[wendy46001]

Got married three years ago…
we paid for it....it was my dream wedding…

my parents and in-laws ended up splitting the cost of the rehearsal dinner...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

15 years ago - my wife's father paid for the reception ($16k, strict budget), my wife's mother paid for the dress ($2k), I paid for everything else ($14k). My wife was, and still is, the most beautiful woman on Earth (inside and out). I am truly blessed.

It was a Long Island wedding, and me a simple man from Alabama. My, was it intimidating...

 

[MichelleinMaine]

We got married 17 years ago, but my brothers have been married in the past 10 years (and got the same deal.)

My mom/stepdad gave us each $1000 and mom (with aunts, etc) did the food (light finger foods). My grandmother made our wedding cake. Our whole wedding was less than $1000. (Ditto both brothers.)

My mother in law paid for tuxes (because I was perfectly content to let the men wear suits and she flipped out.) She also paid for rehearsal dinner (very small affair.)

We paid for our honeymoon (I think it was $300 for the weekend away at a local off season resort

 

[Nennie]

My wedding was 5 years, and my parents paid for most of it. It was around $50K, but in my defense I live in NJ! LOL!!

My DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and also gave my parents $5K to put towards the wedding (which was extremely generous especially b/c their own daughter was married that same year which they paid for).

My sister just got married a few weeks ago, and my parents paid for her wedding as well. Her DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and for the photographer.

 

[claudia]

Jsme is correct. People have given me LOTS of grief over the years. More than you can ever imagine. I've heard it all. 1000x over. In fact someone who I didn't even know when I got married gave me the old "I can't you got married there, didn't it cost a fortune. I wouldn't waste that much money on a wedding" speech just this past weekend when they saw a photo in our house.

It is what he wanted. There were lots of things I wanted to scale back and he'd contact the people behind my back and order them. It still makes me smile, which is what he wanted. He had plenty of money so it wasn't like I put anyone in debt or borrowed a dime. Over the years many people have tried to make me feel guilty about letting him spend it on me. So yeah, I'm a bit defensive.

This board is notorious for judging people on everything so I figured I'd circumvent the usual questions.

Jealousy always rears its ugly head. It was nobody's business but your grandfathers and yours. Sounds like he loved you very much and got a great deal of joy in his gift to you....how wonderful for you both
Now back to the topic.......DS was married 5 years ago, his MIL paid for the wedding, we paid for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon.

 

[ead79]

We got married 5 years ago, and my parents paid for most of the wedding. They paid for around 70% of the cost of the wedding, and I paid for the remaining 30% plus the honeymoon. DH's mom paid for the rehearsal dinner.

 

[RangerPooh]

DH and I paid for the bulk of ours. My father probably contributed about a 1/3 of the cost. My in-laws paid for half of the rehearsal dinner, and complained the whole time. Prior to that they were feeling guilty that they hadn't contributed anything (only complaints).

 

[ZephyrHawk]

We got married 6 years ago when I was 24 and he was 26. He had just graduated from law school, and I was still in the thick of it. My parents paid for the majority. DH's dad paid for the rehersal, DH's maternal side (aunt and uncle) chipped in on the cake. We paid for a number of things ourselves, mainly the videography (which my parents didn't care about) and the honeymoon.

The total came out somewhere around 45-50k. Not entirely sure.

I don't look at it as having taken a "handout" from my parents. I don't think they would have wanted it any other way. I'm an only child, and they're comfortably wealthy. Their snobbish friends would have looked down on them had they hosted anything less than a spectacular party.

 

[sbell111]

We paid for it all.

 

[phisigprincess]

Our parents paid for most of it. They each gave us the same amount and whatever was left over was ours as a gift. We covered the photographer and the honeymoon.

 

[Hercules10]

We paid for everything except the rehersal dinner.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

My parents paid for it all, but we had a very small, but very lovely and nice wedding that only totaled about $5500....my in-laws did give us $1500 toward our honeymoon though.

 

[ccgirl]

My DH and I paid for it all 10 years ago in October. We're going to Disney to celebrate! We dated for 9 years before we got married and I was 29. We still kept it simple though as we didn't have a lot of money. His parents were married by a JP and don't understand people paying for money on a wedding (and we already purchased our own house). They said...it's your wedding; you pay. Then got mad when we told them they couldn't invite their friends that we never met, unless they paid for them. SOrry...I digress...
My mom, God loved her, would have helped if she could. She did help me make the centerpieces though! I just had a friend of the family make a cake ($45). The reception was the most expensive $19 a plate x150 and $2500 room rental. I paid the photographer/videographer/DJ (same company) $3,000 for all three. Someone was kind enough to give us a week of timeshare in Hawaii so we paid for the airfare and 3 nights at a hotel on Oahu. Looking back, I guess $19 a plate was a deal. Now I pay that much per child at my daughters birthday!!

 

[DisneymoonJess07]

We were married two years ago, when I was 22 and DH 24. I started my first job three weeks before the wedding, and DH started his first real job three weeks after the wedding. He had been working doing renovations for family friends to earn money before that. I am an only child and my DH has one older brother who does not seem like he will get married.

At the beginning, my parents came to us with a plan for how to pay for things. They would pay 60%, my inlaws 30% and us 10%. We talked to my in-laws and they agreed. From that point, we used that as a guide for deciding who would pay for what. Our portion came down to the photographer and the videographer, my in-laws paid for the rehearsal, the venue, flowers and the bar, and my parents basically paid for catering, my dress and a small dinner for out of town family. We had a kosher catered (something that was important to everyone involved) wedding, so that cost was significantly more than it would have been for a non-kosher wedding so it came to about 60% of the budget.

The total was approximately 11K. Our starting budget was 10K. We have beautiful photographs & video, including a great panoramic shot of the family and one with my MIL and 5 of her 7 siblings, and lots of great memories.

Because we couldn't take a honeymoon right away because of the new jobs, we waited until we had saved enough to pay for something we really wanted, which will be our Disneymoon in 26 days. We are thrilled to be going finally, for our 2nd anniversary!

 

[Claire L]

We paid all of it ourselves back in 2001, took out extra money on a loan to pay for alot of it.

Claire

 

[dakcp2001]

We are paying for our own, my parents offered to contribute but they really can't afford it. My DF parents are dreaming up a big lavish wedding that they think my parents are obligated to pay for. My mom also wants a big lavish wedding that she is willing to go into debt for. Me & DF are interested in a small private type wedding., we really wanted to keep it small. So therefore:


We are eloping. Sssshhhh Don't tell! !!!!!

 

[SaraJayne]

We got married 13 years ago and we paid for it ourselves, without going into debt. And we were college students at the time.

No, we didn't elope.

 

[scouthawkk]

DH and I married 9 years ago tomorrow. My dad gave us a check for $3500. His mom and dad (divorced and each remarried) split the rehersal dinner and liquor for the bar. My mom bought me my dress ($750) prior to her passing (2 months before the wedding). The $3500 from my dad covered just about everything, including the honeymoon. DH and I paid the remaining little bits, but with wedding gifts, that was more than made up for.

We had a small wedding, less than 100 people. Was in a church I grew up going to, and the rehersal was at the community center in the park across the street from the church. Our one splurge was our cake. It was big enough to feed 300. Everything else was pretty simple. We even made our own invites.