Hi, I know this is a strange place to post this but I really need some help and have always found this to be a pleasant online community.
Basically my Dad has become very ill after a 20 year battle with his condition and it appears he now has months left. I am really worried about what will happen to my mum when something does happen to him as she has now been his full time carer for 20 years and due to the nature of his illness has lead a very isolated life for that time. Once something happens to my dad my mum will not be able to afford to live in their house anymore unless she can somehow walk into a full time job, and to be honest I don't want her to have to go out to work full time, she is 62 and it just seems unfair that she should be thrown into a world she really doesn't understand.
Anyway, they have already put their house up for sale and are looking at "down-sizing" however to get into the lower price brackets it would mean moving to a different area so she would be a good 20 minutes away from us. I also think she is really scared of living alone and being lonely. I just don't want this to happen to her.
DH and I have spoken about the possibility of her miving in with us. We have our first baby due in 5 weeks and although our house is big enough for us to accomodate her for 6 months to a year, it would not be a long term solution, plus I think she would feel too much like she was imposing on our lives.
We do however have a brick-built garage in our back garden. It is only a single garrage but it has a coal shed at the back so I think its a generously sized single garage. It has an Apex roof and the building is in good condition etc. It has electric but obviously no plumbing etc. So we have thought about the idea of converting this to a little "granny flat" for her. There is room at the back where we could extend the building into the garden if we needed to but not sure what this would do to the costs. I am thinking it would need a living room with a small kitchen area (she could always use our kitchen but would need to have a small area where she could do her own thing) a bathroom and a bedroom. It wouldn't have to be huge, just nice for her.
Is this doable? I have looked online and there isn't a lot of information so I have no real idea where to start as at the minute I just want to know
-is it possible?
-how expensive would it be?
-how long would it take, with planning permission etc???
I don't think we could actually do it before something did happent o my dad as I think he would find it pretty rude of us to already be planmning life without him, and I know that it is a harsh thing to be doing, please don't get me wrong, I love my Dad to pieces and hope that he has many years left, but I don't want to see my mum left out in the cold if something does happen.
If anyone could give me some advice, where to start or if this is a totally stupid idea I would be eternally greatfull
Basically my Dad has become very ill after a 20 year battle with his condition and it appears he now has months left. I am really worried about what will happen to my mum when something does happen to him as she has now been his full time carer for 20 years and due to the nature of his illness has lead a very isolated life for that time. Once something happens to my dad my mum will not be able to afford to live in their house anymore unless she can somehow walk into a full time job, and to be honest I don't want her to have to go out to work full time, she is 62 and it just seems unfair that she should be thrown into a world she really doesn't understand.
Anyway, they have already put their house up for sale and are looking at "down-sizing" however to get into the lower price brackets it would mean moving to a different area so she would be a good 20 minutes away from us. I also think she is really scared of living alone and being lonely. I just don't want this to happen to her.
DH and I have spoken about the possibility of her miving in with us. We have our first baby due in 5 weeks and although our house is big enough for us to accomodate her for 6 months to a year, it would not be a long term solution, plus I think she would feel too much like she was imposing on our lives.
We do however have a brick-built garage in our back garden. It is only a single garrage but it has a coal shed at the back so I think its a generously sized single garage. It has an Apex roof and the building is in good condition etc. It has electric but obviously no plumbing etc. So we have thought about the idea of converting this to a little "granny flat" for her. There is room at the back where we could extend the building into the garden if we needed to but not sure what this would do to the costs. I am thinking it would need a living room with a small kitchen area (she could always use our kitchen but would need to have a small area where she could do her own thing) a bathroom and a bedroom. It wouldn't have to be huge, just nice for her.
Is this doable? I have looked online and there isn't a lot of information so I have no real idea where to start as at the minute I just want to know
-is it possible?
-how expensive would it be?
-how long would it take, with planning permission etc???
I don't think we could actually do it before something did happent o my dad as I think he would find it pretty rude of us to already be planmning life without him, and I know that it is a harsh thing to be doing, please don't get me wrong, I love my Dad to pieces and hope that he has many years left, but I don't want to see my mum left out in the cold if something does happen.
If anyone could give me some advice, where to start or if this is a totally stupid idea I would be eternally greatfull