tinkerbellandpeterpan
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what would you do?
I saw this asked on another message board I participate in and I really gave it some thought. My answer would have been different 5 years ago. But I’m living my best life I think right now that I have in 43 years but not from the financial perspective. Around the pandemic I asked myself what the heck I was doing because I was miserable. I quit my very well paying job that I hated and was slowly killing me and took a very low paying job. But I’m happy and don’t hate going to work every morning. DH and I can pay our bills. We commute and work together 4 days a week and I babysit one day a week for a child I absolutely love and adore (DH and I are childfree so this little one brings me lots of joy!).
We have plans at the shore almost every weekend this summer. We love spending our time together and that's how our life has ended up and we have created a rich fabric of friends of all age groups and walks of life. We have loving relationships with our parents on both sides and spend a good amount of time with them. We have a niece and nephew, one on each side, whom we adore and we make it a point to send cards, FaceTime, visit when it works etc. I’m good if I found out I have one year to live. Wouldn’t really change much except maybe take one more cruise. I would probably have a couple of hard conversations to just clear the air. Where I’m really in trouble is if we both live long lives as we have no kids to manage our care (not that it is guaranteed but it’s something we need to consider) so we will be possibly be a burden on our siblings or niece and nephew even just in terms of logistics and have relatively (especially for here) small retirement savings. We continue to work to plan for that.
I saw this asked on another message board I participate in and I really gave it some thought. My answer would have been different 5 years ago. But I’m living my best life I think right now that I have in 43 years but not from the financial perspective. Around the pandemic I asked myself what the heck I was doing because I was miserable. I quit my very well paying job that I hated and was slowly killing me and took a very low paying job. But I’m happy and don’t hate going to work every morning. DH and I can pay our bills. We commute and work together 4 days a week and I babysit one day a week for a child I absolutely love and adore (DH and I are childfree so this little one brings me lots of joy!).
We have plans at the shore almost every weekend this summer. We love spending our time together and that's how our life has ended up and we have created a rich fabric of friends of all age groups and walks of life. We have loving relationships with our parents on both sides and spend a good amount of time with them. We have a niece and nephew, one on each side, whom we adore and we make it a point to send cards, FaceTime, visit when it works etc. I’m good if I found out I have one year to live. Wouldn’t really change much except maybe take one more cruise. I would probably have a couple of hard conversations to just clear the air. Where I’m really in trouble is if we both live long lives as we have no kids to manage our care (not that it is guaranteed but it’s something we need to consider) so we will be possibly be a burden on our siblings or niece and nephew even just in terms of logistics and have relatively (especially for here) small retirement savings. We continue to work to plan for that.
