If you had it to do over again, RE: having children

[peg2001]

If you had it all to do over again, would you change if/when/how you had children?

Peggy

 

[RUDisney]

Since we adopted ours at ages 5 and 6, when we were very financially stable, I would not change a thing. I never wanted to experience childbirth, but definitely wanted to experience motherhood. I got everything I ever dreamed of, and more.

 

[bananiem]

I need another box for the poll:
I would check "Would have had 1 or 2 more."

 

[Love_Mama]

I have five children, would have loved to have had ten. I LOVE kids.
Mine all grown so have grandchildren....

 

[pnelson]

How about another option-Would have had a second child sooner. Our son is 10 and we have had a foster baby with us for several months-It's very difficult navigating the age gap and there is no common ground between the two kids. As difficult as it would have been at the time, I wish we would have had another child so they would have been 3 years apart or so.

 

[CamColt]

My option isnt there. I wanted my kids about 2 years apart. Once we started trying for the second we were ready then, and never expect to deal with secondary infertility. After a year of trying and 3 months on chlomid, I finally got pregnant. My kids turned out to be 3 years and 1 month apart. If I could do it again, I would start trying asap after having DS#1. Even if they turned out closer than 2 yrs apart, I would prefer closer than further, like I got.

 

[Gette88]

I also wish mine were closer in age. They are 9 yr.s apart.

 

[Jeafl]

I wish I would have had mine closer together as well. Mine are all about 3 1/2 years apart and at times it's like having three "only" children. It doesn't help that the girls are the youngest and oldest and my son is in the middle. None of them have much in common and rarely play together.

Having said that, I really wouldn't change anything else. 99% of the time I enjoy them and wouldn't know what to do if I didn't have them.

 

[4greatboys]

I picked have kids with a different partner. If I could do anything differently I'd rather all 4 of the boys be by my dh. 2 are from my 2
we dont get along. I dont like or agree with the way he parents.
My dh is a great dad, he always helps out and is very patient.

 

[Deb in IA]

Would have had #3 . . .

 

[Sonya]

I am 32 and just had my 1st, I would have had kids earlier if I'd known it was this fun!

 

[wdwnutze]

I would have had kids when I was older and I would have had them closer together(19, 11, 4). They fight all the time.

 

[snoopy]

I wouldn't change a thing. My boys were both planned (also 3 1/2 years apart, I didn't want them closer together in age, or further apart). And I thought as they got older I might (perhaps?) have had regrets about not trying for a girl, but that hasn't been the case. I like two parents, two children.

 

[Zurg]

I would have bought DVC sooner and had more vacations with them at WDW, other than that no regrets.

 

[bumcat]

I have 3 ages 20,17 and 9. They never ever fight, I guess I'm lucky there. Glad I had them later in life but I wish I had a couple more. Will have to wait for grandkids.
And I was one of those that swore I would never have any!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>I've got two, 15 & 14, 14 mos. apart, and they don't fight each other or me.

And even though their father wasn't a good husband, I wouldn't have got my two without him - so I chose wouldn't change a thing. I love mine too much.

 

[zurgswife]

Don't' think I'd change a thing....Love my partner, waited until my late 20's and had the 4 health kids I always wanted...Perfect...

 

[SeaSpray]

Originally posted by snoopy
I wouldn't change a thing. My boys were both planned (also 3 1/2 years apart, I didn't want them closer together in age, or further apart). And I thought as they got older I might (perhaps?) have had regrets about not trying for a girl, but that hasn't been the case. I like two parents, two children.

DITTO!! I have 2 boys, 3 years and 1 month apart, and it's great, I think this age span is perfect. I don't regret a thing and do NOT feel like I'm missing something because I don't have a girl. (Don't get me wrong, if one of my 2 children had been a girl, then that would've been great, but I feel no desire whatsoever to have a third child, to "try for a girl").

 

[cgcw]

No regrets or changes here.

If our two DS's would have been born at any other time, then they would not have been who they are today. They would have been different individuals because we would have been different people.

 

[aprincessmom]

I wouldn't change a thing...and like Mary Jo, my ex wasn't a great husband but if I hadn't married him, I wouldn't have my daughter so I would do it exactly the same way because she's the greatest gift I've ever received.