If you could go back and have a chat with yourself

[KristaTX]

Dear Krista - Don't get that bachelor's degree in nursing just because you'll be able to "get a job anywhere, anytime." You have no passion for it. Instead, do what you really love and get a degree in interior design or architecture.

 

[Handbag Lady]

This is to my 17-year old self because by 18, I was already a goner.

1. Your parents are not always right, but they mean well. Go ahead and go to Cal State San Diego and ignore the offers of a totally free ride. You'll learn in two years it is better to be yourself and get a job for yourself.

2. You are worth it. Take care of yourself and make more friends that like you for you, not just because you have a car and endless gas. You ARE interesting.

3. When you get that job at Knott's don't laugh and do put more than the minimum into the 401k they offer you. Good job on joining, and good job on keeping it up, but 4% isn't enough. (But I'm very proud of you for immediately jumping in and insisting to have the highest risk stocks.)

4. Yes, you ARE right. Dump him, he's a piece of trash. (Please don't waste 8 years on him. Again.)

5. Punch that credit card pusher right outside of the student union. They lied to you.

 

[Rora]

Although my 18th year isn't too far behind me...

Dear Rory,
First of all, breathe more. You don't do that enough. And let go. It's okay to not be in control all the time. Life is short and it's more important to be with the people you love than anything else.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Well, it was only 10 years ago but I have learned a lot in those 10 years. I'd go back and tell myself (not that I'd listen ):

1. Focus on your future and not getting into debt, especially for guys.
2. Do not buy your boyfriend a boat.
3. Get rid of your "friends" all they do is cause drama and drain your wallet.
4. You will have an amazing job one day so don't sweat the horrible jobs you're having to do now.
5. You think you have a nice body now? Wait until you fall in love with running
6. One day you will care less what anyone thinks of you, you will be incredibly happy being single, and you will think your parents are the greatest people on Earth; that's hard to see now.

That's really it. I wouldn't tell myself to go to school as that would mean I wouldn't end up where I am today.

 

[browneyes106]

It has been 7 years. This is what I would say
1. Plan your college goals more clearly
2. Try to keep your brother from associating with bad people
3. Loosen ties with a few relatives

 

[peanut1967]

OOhHHH interesting....

1. The guy you are about to marry.....DON't
2. Dont start Dieting you will get fat....and BTW you are not fat now, even though you think you are.
3. Travel - Work at WDW - Travel - Work at WDW
4. Dont do things to please others.
5. Go and talk to someone, sort everything out before you settle down.
6. Trust your instincts....really they are usually right.
7.Tell your Dad how you feel, ask him why? Then get on with it, have a relationship with your Dad on your terms.
8. Follow your dreams, the career you wanted you can have.
9. Treasure every moment with your kids...boy do they grow up quick. ( My son just turned 21 I so want him to be that little boy who thought the world of me...just for a day)
10. Dont settle...find a partner who loves you for you, understands you and gives a damn...and who can talk instead of hiding everything....if you dont find them...you can enjoy life on your own....remember sex not socks..lol
Angie

( I feel a bit fed up now..lol)

 

[parrothead365]

Dear self,

1. Two Fingers tequila will make you do strange things...stay away from it
2. Yes that is her real age
3. Never ever buy a boat or anything that has a 2 cycle motor on it.
4. Learn all you can about Soccer....it will come in handy later.
5. Ya know that Disney trip you took....It will NOT be your last...and the whole Disney thing kinda take on a life of it's own.

 

[themilesfamily]

1) Love and value your family. You'll miss them when they're gone.

2) Having a man and getting married ISN'T the most important thing in life.

3) Don't throw money away on the latest fad thing. Save it.

4) You ARE pretty enough, good enough, smart enough.

5) Get rid of toxic friendships.

 

[ilovesugar]

1. Get out of that toxic relationship you are in with that guy. He is trash and will haunt you for years to come.

2. Don't listen to your parents about your career choice as a choreographer. I know they were just looking out for you, but you will resent them for a very long time for telling you it was not a good choice and you would never make it OR make any money.

3. On that same note, never stop taking dance classes. Dance is your passion and it will be so hard to start back up after getting married and having kids. You love it, stay with it. It is a great way to stay in shape too.

Other than that, I really don't think I would tell myself anything else. Everything I went through made me the person I am, and I learned a lot along the way.

 

[JessicaR]

Chat with myself - no I don't think so just a hard slap upside the head might have done it.

I think I would have told myself to calm the wild child down a bit. Respect my parents more (I do now) and LISTEN to what they had to say. Evidently they did know more than I did at 18 - huh imagine that!

At 18 I made a lot of $, worked hard, partied harder and never slept. Hmm not much has changed since then. Kidding. I have to say though no regrets I have had lots of fun and the memories will be entertaining during old age.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

"1. All that decent money you're making? DON'T WASTE IT. Put it in your bank account. You'll appreciate it later.

2. That guy you're going to marry in 6 years? DON'T.

3. In fact, since you're not going to marry that doof, go back to your original plan of going to Western New England College. Get the degree in history that you're going to want in 20 years but won't have. But while you're at it, also take some finance classes. Because the REAL love of your life will be at that school at that time, getting his degree in Finance "

 

[whogirl'smom]

1. Ditch the high school bf NOW, not 9 months later.

2. Go farther away to college or at least live on campus, starting now.

3. This is one of the best years of your life--appreciate it.

4. Don't be such a good girl ALL the time.

Actually, I think I did pretty good at that age...now a few years later, oh boy!

 

[X and G's mom]

To my 18 yr old self:
1. Dump boyfriend and don't look back, it will only last a few months longer anyways.
2. Go to the University instead of wasting time at the Tech school, you will end up at the University anyways.
3. After your 2nd child throw their dad out, he cheats on you during pregnancy and continues for the next 4 years until you 'get smart'. (I can't imagine not having my kids )
4. Really, don't pay the bills for your kids dad, it's a stupid idea.
5. Here are the lotter numbers from 2007 (after I 'get smart')
6. Invest in Microsoft, Amazon no matter what.
7. Call Grandma and Grandpa more often just to tell them you love them
8. Oh yeah, when dad offers to pay your way on Spring Break to Florida (Through the University) DO IT!!!!!!!!!

Then I would just hope I would listen to myself!

What a great idea for a thread!

 

[NotUrsula]

Yes, he's a nice guy, but stick to just being friends -- he's going to come out of the closet in about 4 years.

Don't aim for law school; it turns out that you're lousy at it.

 

[Tinkerbell3014]

dear self:
1. dump that guy you are with, he isn't worth it.
2. go to other school's track meet and find soulmate and save him from his big mistake. Start life with him sooner!
3. Save all that hard earned money instead of buying things simply because you want them. Someday you will buy a house, have kids, and want to be at home with them instead of at work.
4. invest in google
5. never stop believing in the magic of Disney

 

[ZephyrHawk]

If you ever get it into your head to go to law school (I know, I know...it sounds crazy, but let's pretend you do someday just for the heck of it), don't. Just....don't.

 

[The 4 "Quay"balleros]

I wouldn't tell me anything because I have the best kids and wife and I wouldn't want to take the chance of changing them!

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

1. Cut up the credit cards
2. I know you're busy with family issues, but start on easy college classes like writing and math and get them out of the way.
3. Take all the money you have and invest in Apple stock.

 

[Northstar]

Hey, you! The one standing shyly at the back waiting for someone to notice how brilliant, competent, and absolutely amazing you are....

It's not going to happen. Nobody is going to discover you. Nobody is going to recruit you. If you want a good job and a good life, you're going to have to figure out what you want, then go out and chase it down. Run hard. Others have already figured this out, and they are out there ahead of you.

 

[Tiana]

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