If you can go back and change something about your wedding

[Mrs. Darcy]

what would it be?

I'd not have the flower girl sprinkle rose petals down the aisle, they kept sticking to the bottom of my shoes!

 

[AKL_Megs]

I would have just eloped.

I was never a wedding person, so our tiny wedding was really just for show (and DHs family.)

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Nothing. Twenty years later, I still look back and smile. We had a huge affair, 300 + and it was perfect. Typical PA slovak type hunkey wedding as we call it. We still had over 3/4 of the place there when the band announced it was the last song. The whole crowd was screaming encore. It was great!

Now the honeymoon a different story. I didn't know then what I know now. I let a travel agent talk me into something and it was horrible. I have told DH more than once, wish we would have done something different.

But after 20 years we're still married and I guess thats what actually counts.

 

[Hemlock]

I would have purchased the dress that I loved. I tried it on and loved it, but my sister didn't so I passed on it. I later bought a dress that I liked because time was running out. I still think of that dress every time that I watch "Say yes to the dress".

 

[Kit'smommy]

I would have just eloped.

Ditto.

It was beautiful, it was fun and I was glad when it was over. It wasn't worth the stress leading up to it.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I would have walked down the aisle alone or with my mom instead.

I would have sprung for the limo.

I would have PURCHASED a veil.

I would have NOT allowed my mom to make wedding favors...OR I would have micromanaged better. Not being a bridezilla, I left her to her own devices and on the morning of my wedding she had made all of 3 out of 80 when I went to pick her up to go to breakfast and get our hair done. She wouldn't let me nix it and knowing my mother...intervention was the only sure way to get these things done that she insisted having at my reception. So--would have managed that a bit better. (ETA: Forgot to mention that some part of the favor had the materials exhausted by the time we got to favor #5 necessitating a run to Walmart for more material. I am still puzzled by the whole ordeal.)

And after seeing my actual wedding pictures, I would have hired someone different. (Tturns out I hired what ended up being the "lucky" shot photographer. Only gets good pics when she gets lucky. Some of our photos are just )

I also would have had a mass--though evidently my husband's family liked that our wedding was SHORT.

All else was just WONDERFUL!!!

Would have done Disney for the honeymoon and if money was no object, would have done our religious ceremony privately and then do the whole shebang at Disney. But they really charged a lot back then and you had so much "minimums" you had to do. They seem to be a lot more flexible now for all kinds of budgets.

 

[SC Minnie]

We would have had a small ceremony 6 months earlier so my grandmother could have been there. On her death bed she said she was sad she was going to miss seeing me get married. Still makes me cry 19 yrs later.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Nothing about the wedding, but I would change the honeymoon.

 

[HM]

I would have made my honeymoon start the next day, instead of getting on a plane two hours after wedding. Too rushed.

And I'd make sure that everyone that was in the wedding party was in town the night before. One groomsman didn't make it to the wedding in time....we had to get a tux fitted for another family member the morning of the wedding, making DH late and worrying everyone else.

 

[Tuffcookie]

The groom!

TC

 

[HM]

We would have had a small ceremony 6 months earlier so my grandmother could have been there. On her death bed she said she was sad she was going to miss seeing me get married. Still makes me cry 19 yrs later.

That's so sad. I'm sorry you still feel badly about it.

 

[Katieinwonderland]

I would have had my dress made bigger, so at the reception I could eat something! Cocktail hour nibbles, a five course meal, gorgeous cake and I couldn't eat any of it because I could barely breathe in my dress!

I asked for all the food (caesar salad, crab cakes, lobster, white chocolate glass slipper etc) to be boxed up - when we got back to our room that night I could finally take the dress off and I ate the whole lot!

 

[Miniefan]

The one thing I would like to change is that I had a wedding, lol. We got married at the courthouse, so we never had our chance to "have the big day" it doesn't really matter but over the years I have thought about it and wished that I could have been the beautiful bride and have some awesome photos of me and hubby. I have tried to plan a vow renewal a few times but something inevitably happens and it doesn't work out. I am glad that we are still together, and maybe one day we'll get to "tie the knot" properly.

 

[acejka]

I would have went on bridalplasty first because I was way too big... I hate looking at my photos because of that. Also I wouldn't have settled on a dress and I would have picked a different photographer. Seeing the amount of attention to detail girls put into their weddings now, I wish I had the chance to do that-I'd never even been to a wedding and didn't do enough research before I got married.

I'm happy how it turned out because I did walk down the same aisle as my grandma and had the same cake from the same bakery and she was there and in the end I am still married to the man I love with my grandma there and those were the only really imporant things.

Oh yeah and I wouldn't have let my mil take over the favors and close them with freaking pipe cleaners! ahh!

 

[eeyoremum]

I would have just eloped.

I was never a wedding person, so our tiny wedding was really just for show (and DHs family.)

Me too. DH family was the reason for the wedding. Then complained that they were embarrassed because we didn't invite enough of their friends. We already invited his entire family and in comparison to mine that was huge.

 

[LuLuO]

The ceremony was lovely, the reception was lovely. We had fun, but I wanted a small intimate ceremony in a unique setting and DH has a huge extended family that "had to be invited" according to MIL. To be fair to MIL DH wanted the big wedding too.

I hope that someday, maybe at our 10 year anniversary, or even 20 year that we will be able to renew our vows in the way I had hoped that our actual wedding would be.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Checking out this thread and hoping that I won't be returning next year (see my sig)!

This is my 2nd wedding (my fiance's first, though), and we're really trying to do it our way. Thankfully, we're on the same page so far. And our parents seem to all be okay with what we want, although my mother has already made a comment about our desired processional music (a hard rock, albeit slow tempo version of Canon in D - it's very "us").

I guess the only thing that's an issue at the moment is my shoe choice. I cannot wear fancy heeled shoes, for physical reasons. Now, I absolutely love Converse Chuck Taylor All-Star hi-tops, and I found a pair in metallic silver. I say, if I leave my dress long, nobody will notice. My mother says no way; wear "nice" shoes for the ceremony and we'll get a pair of slippers or something for the reception. And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

 

[mickeyboat]

I would have eloped and used the money for a kick-*** honeymoon!

Well, I say that now, but I do look back and have wonderful memories of that day, so I wouldn't trade it for the world. But with hindsight it's the marriage that counts, not the wedding.

 

[minniebeth]

We would have had a small ceremony 6 months earlier so my grandmother could have been there. On her death bed she said she was sad she was going to miss seeing me get married. Still makes me cry 19 yrs later.

I'm sure it will always stay with you! I'm sure your grandmother was there with you in spirit!

What I would have done differently about my wedding is that I would have included more of my family in the planning process and have been more thoughtful that it's everyone's day to celebrate, not just mine.
I would have spent more time visiting with family at the reception, not just partying with my friends.

I would have delayed our honeymoon another day as to have time to spend with guests and family after the reception.

I think some of my reflection just comes with maturity.

 

[mjkacmom]

I wish I had hired a videographer. I thought it would be annoying, plus I thought I might look fat in my white dress (5'8", 125 pounds, now I really wish I had that video ). Everything else was perfect.