If you are an adoptee....

[Snowysmom]

I am adopted and it actually makes me feel kind of special. I was always told I was adopted. MY parents read me the book The Chosen Baby until I was old enough to read it myself. I have recently gotten nonidentifying birth family information from the agency where I was placed for adoption. It made me see that my birth mother made a tough decision that she thought was best for her baby. The only thing I miss is my medical history. They didn't get that in the 1950's. I may follow through and do a search for my birth mother. I have to do it soon as if she is still alive she would be in her early eighties. I do believe that adoption records should be unsealed once the adoptee reaches 21. I have seen books that discuss how awful it is to be adopted and all the problems adopted people have. I think those people would have problems no matter what. Their problems have nothing to do with being adopted.

 

[Robbi]

This isn't the OP's thoughts. They were simply saying what the theme seems to be of a facebook group. The OP never said these were their feelings.

Apologies from both of us!

 

[Luv'sTink]

This isn't the OP's thoughts. They were simply saying what the theme seems to be of a facebook group. The OP never said these were their feelings.

This is correct, not my feelings at all.

Members of my family are adopted.

Apologies from both of us!

It's okay. I will admit when I read your reply my heart dropped because I thought I had written that statement wrong, until I re-read it.

 

[ddwwelsh]

This makes me incredibly sad.

You can only play the victim so long before you need to start looking at the real reason you have issues OR start dealing with them!

I did not have those issues. My son does not have those issues. If you met him you would agree he is simply an amazing kid. He is helpful, nice, gets along with everyone, is incredibly smart, and just loves life. We are beyond lucky to have him.

Dawn

Oddly, my name is Dawn, also!

I don't think that I play the victim, but all of my years of anger, rage, and sadness were a result of being the victim of a mentally ill mother who manipulated the truth and even went so far as to have false birth documents drawn up for me. And even now, she does not see where I have any reason to be upset or angry.

Now, my brother has a totally different adoption story. He knew "for forever", and he also has an older sister who was adopted. He practically had a fairytale life, and pretty much "forgot" that he was adopted until I contacted him. In the past year, he has told his father, his two kids, and a small number of friends about me. He's hesitant to tell his mother for fear of upsetting her.

It truly is a different situation for every adoptee.

 

[superme80]

I am adopted and it actually makes me feel kind of special. I was always told I was adopted. MY parents read me the book The Chosen Baby until I was old enough to read it myself. I have recently gotten nonidentifying birth family information from the agency where I was placed for adoption. It made me see that my birth mother made a tough decision that she thought was best for her baby. The only thing I miss is my medical history. They didn't get that in the 1950's. I may follow through and do a search for my birth mother. I have to do it soon as if she is still alive she would be in her early eighties. I do believe that adoption records should be unsealed once the adoptee reaches 21. I have seen books that discuss how awful it is to be adopted and all the problems adopted people have. I think those people would have problems no matter what. Their problems have nothing to do with being adopted.

That is how I always felt. My parents made it clear that I was adopted and wanted. They were thrilled to have me. Personally for me being secure in their love made me realize I don't need to search my biological family out. I do not have any deep longings. I don't care about medical records. I am happy with who I have as a family.