If you are 30-35yrs old, please help me!

[DVC Gma]

In May, I went to WDW with my middle daughter & her family, Husband, 5 yr old and almost 3 yr old. They do not know I own DVC. We stayed BW 1 bedroom, with my Annual Pass discount that was available. My daughter had never been to Disney & my son in law was a child when he last went. When we returned home, they are already planning another trip next year & want to stay longer than the 8 days we did in May. It was my first time Not staying in just a Studio. Amazing for have little kids. I know why they loved it. Washer/dryer in room and kids ate better in the kitchen with familiar foods, room to run around/play.

Here is the question to you 30 year olds...What/How do I bring up DVC as a viable option? That 7 night BW 1 bed was just over $5,000. I do not really want to "spill the beans" on my DVC. Mainly, because NONE of my family knows I have this, except my mom. That is who travels to WDW with me.
I can't figure out how to explain the Upfront cost where this would make sense. House, daycare, possible private school for 5 yr this year, regular bills, etc. They both are Highly educated & have very good jobs. Still..... I am not sure how to bring it up or word this.

I know resale would be the best option for them, at first. Due to their young age they need a long term 2060+ DVC. Should they talk to Disney DVC Sales Cast Member? Or is that more confusing?
Explaining every other year trip with less buy in points, paying the yearly dues is still cheaper than booking with Disney? Maybe start with a SS/OKW, because it is less to buy in? I know my son in law will not want to be so far away, from parks. (SAP is all I have! LOL) Explaining SAP will not be fun.

Sorry this was long!

 

[matt_in_nh]

Why do you have to be in the age group of 30-35 for this question?

 

[Sandisw]

Not in that age group but a mom of thee who are…

If you prefer not to reveal your ownership to them, then I might simply say ..Hey, since you might want to go regularly, maybe you should look into DVC?

Going into too much detail could have them ask how you know so much or directly, do you own and you’d have to tell them…or lie…

Or, wait until they visit again and bring it up when you are going by a kiosk etc.

 

[Tumnus]

I don't know all the family dynamics, but my POV would be if you are trying to help them with DVC but you want to hide your own DVC usage, it is going to be a difficult situation. This feels like a place where it makes sense to just be honest and tell them hey I actually have this and that's what I used, if you want to make this an every year thing, I'd recommend you look into it as well. Anything else where you try to keep it quiet but also get them on board feels like a sitcom level mishap just waiting to happen.

 

[sethschroeder]

I would simply explain the benefit of renting DVC as the starting point. After that then you can inquire how it went.

Its super easy to say if they are going to Disney. "Hey you should be looking at renting DVC as its an easy way to save a bunch off your hotel room, I have done it a few times so if you have questions let me know."

I think just a 2nd trip planned really isn't enough to jump in to buying DVC. We went twice when we were first married but then took a break before going back then buying DVC after that. You also might not actually know their financial status even if they put on the outward perception they are of a certain level of comfort.

EDIT: One big thing is if my parents brought this up I would be cautious but likely look it up. Thats only because I am very detailed oriented and exhaustively research topics lots of times which is how I found DVC to start with to rent.

 

[buzzrelly]

In May, I went to WDW with my middle daughter & her family, Husband, 5 yr old and almost 3 yr old. They do not know I own DVC. We stayed BW 1 bedroom, with my Annual Pass discount that was available. My daughter had never been to Disney & my son in law was a child when he last went. When we returned home, they are already planning another trip next year & want to stay longer than the 8 days we did in May. It was my first time Not staying in just a Studio. Amazing for have little kids. I know why they loved it. Washer/dryer in room and kids ate better in the kitchen with familiar foods, room to run around/play.

Here is the question to you 30 year olds...What/How do I bring up DVC as a viable option? That 7 night BW 1 bed was just over $5,000. I do not really want to "spill the beans" on my DVC. Mainly, because NONE of my family knows I have this, except my mom. That is who travels to WDW with me.
I can't figure out how to explain the Upfront cost where this would make sense. House, daycare, possible private school for 5 yr this year, regular bills, etc. They both are Highly educated & have very good jobs. Still..... I am not sure how to bring it up or word this.

I know resale would be the best option for them, at first. Due to their young age they need a long term 2060+ DVC. Should they talk to Disney DVC Sales Cast Member? Or is that more confusing?
Explaining every other year trip with less buy in points, paying the yearly dues is still cheaper than booking with Disney? Maybe start with a SS/OKW, because it is less to buy in? I know my son in law will not want to be so far away, from parks. (SAP is all I have! LOL) Explaining SAP will not be fun.

Sorry this was long!

Maybe they also secretly own DVC already just like you but don't want to spill the beans either.

I'm kidding...kind of. But I find it odd that you are hiding the fact that you are a DVC member and yet want to weigh in on a major financial purchase for them, as well as knowing a LOT about their current income and expenses already. It sounds like you don't have the kind of open relationship with your daughter where you should be interjecting your opinion on how they spend their money one way or another. I would say nothing.

 

[juliebee]

I would simply explain the benefit of renting DVC as the starting point. After that then you can inquire how it went.

Its super easy to say if they are going to Disney. "Hey you should be looking at renting DVC as its an easy way to save a bunch off your hotel room, I have done it a few times so if you have questions let me know."

I agree that mentioning DVC rental would be the way to go, if you mention anything at all.

 

[🍀TwinsMom]

I am honest to a fault, so hiding owning DVC from my kids is . . . hard for me to grasp. I do know some families are petty/boundary pushing with trying to get freebies and/or thinking you're dough loaded, which sucks. I have had that assumption put on me and I definitely bristled.

My advice is always to be honest, but maybe ask them to keep it on the down-low from nosy relatives who would want to hit you up or something. I'm a HUGE DVC fan and would love to have so many friends and family own it so we could coordinate trips or even just meet up for a dinner down there, but most folks don't want to sign up for a $15-$?,000 timeshare commitment, let alone tied exclusively to Disney. I had to back off of my initial overly enthusiastic spiels, LOL, because I don't know other people's finances, priorities, or interests.

Since they had a great time in a 1B at a great location, next time they talk about it, bring it up. I happen to keep track of all our trips on points, rack rates -25% usual deluxe discount, cost of APs for OOS DVC, airfare r/t, and which style room/resort we were at. We do 1B/2B, so we recouped our initial sunk cost very quickly, and I do feel like we're vacationing for free until 2070 (Riviera) and 2066 (Poly.) I have my spreadsheet stored on my phone and print up copies ONLY FOR FOLKS WHO EXPRESS AN INTEREST. But I do have it all laid out. The numbers are insane, how much WDW/DVC room inflation has risen since we started going in 2019. Sounds like you have tons more years of experience and trips, so your spreadsheet is probably amazing!

To me, the kitchen/laundry/parental privacy/space to move around on what can be a stressful "vacation" is priceless, and they seem to have agreed! But you don't know for sure that they may not want to travel internationally, do the Great Lakes, National Parks, RV'g across the USA, or going to the same beachfront all their other family members go to every single year. Maybe feel them out when they bring up another trip and ask if they have any other plans for travel. I have friends who are die-hard RV'rs who HATE the idea of WDW. All our extended family goes to the same cold-water, rocky beach every summer and schleps their own bedding and food. No thank you. Not for me, but that doesn't mean Disney DVC is for them, either.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Why the deception? I assume there's concern that you'd have people asking to use your DVC but goodness you want to beat around the bush just to convince them to join on with you, are you envisioning group trips for the foreseeable future where they will join you but you get to keep your points just for your usage and are looking for the easiest way to have group trips?

DVC is a huge investment and one that doesn't always match the desires over time. Just because you saw it as an investment doesn't mean someone else will. You generally have to travel at Disney destinations enough time to recoup the costs (even resale) as well as continuously to make the dues work. That isn't something everyone just does because they had ONE great trip.

The ONLY suggestion I would make is for them to look at DVC rentals because that has no continual nor prolonged investment on their part. It also allows them to have another trip under their belt to evaluate things and in similar accommodations.

I wouldn't go into any further discussions with them as it stands you already seem to have too much of an investment on their financial decisions and haven't mentioned them actually asking for your input.

 

[DVC Gma]

Why do you have to be in the age group of 30-35 for this question?

Because my kids' are that age. No other reason.

 

[DVC Gma]

Maybe they also secretly own DVC already just like you but don't want to spill the beans either.

I'm kidding...kind of. But I find it odd that you are hiding the fact that you are a DVC member and yet want to weigh in on a major financial purchase for them, as well as knowing a LOT about their current income and expenses already. It sounds like you don't have the kind of open relationship with your daughter where you should be interjecting your opinion on how they spend their money one way or another. I would say nothing.

No, not telling them to do it. It always is their choice.

 

[DVC Gma]

Why the deception? I assume there's concern that you'd have people asking to use your DVC but goodness you want to beat around the bush just to convince them to join on with you, are you envisioning group trips for the foreseeable future where they will join you but you get to keep your points just for your usage and are looking for the easiest way to have group trips?

DVC is a huge investment and one that doesn't always match the desires over time. Just because you saw it as an investment doesn't mean someone else will. You generally have to travel at Disney destinations enough time to recoup the costs (even resale) as well as continuously to make the dues work. That isn't something everyone just does because they had ONE great trip.

The ONLY suggestion I would make is for them to look at DVC rentals because that has no continual nor prolonged investment on their part. It also allows them to have another trip under their belt to evaluate things and in similar accommodations.

I wouldn't go into any further discussions with them as it stands you already seem to have too much of an investment on their financial decisions and haven't mentioned them actually asking for your input.

No, I do not care what they decide. I go on my own. As far as deception, it is none of any of the other families business. This is why I was looking for their age group thoughts. Someone mentioned rental, I do like that idea.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

No, I do not care what they decide. I go on my own. As far as deception, it is none of any of the other families business. This is why I was looking for their age group thoughts. Someone mentioned rental, I do like that idea.

All of us posters are talking about your deliberate actions to conceal your DVC status from your adult child. It's my impression, like I hinted at, that you feel they would then want to use some of your points to do trips, you've deemed only your mother as the person who "needs" to travel with you thus only she is able to be privy to your DVC status. Frankly, I think, like another poster has mentioned, you are interjecting much more into your adult child's life while also expecting ultimate secrecy with yours which is easy to glean that you merely don't want them to ask to use your points for a trip.

This entire conversation would be quite a different tone and advice if it weren't for your information in the OP, it's why you're getting push back on your hiding your own status. Most people who genuinely want to impart knowledge because they think it would be a good fit don't at the same time try to hide their own affiliation with it. You don't have to disclose anything to anyone and no one said otherwise but I'd look at why you don't want to disclose this information to them at the same time as being so eager for them to join.

 

[DVC Deac]

As someone in that general age range, I’m not sure how I’d feel about a parent bringing up the idea of buying a timeshare. Typically, parents are the ones to advise their kids to pump the brakes on such purchases. Unless you’re willing to be up front with your children about your ownership interest, it’s probably best to hold off on bringing it up.