I *was* FURIOUS at my DH---please send some prayers, good thoughts...

[allicat]

DopeyRN
I am in a similar position like your DH with a disc problem. I have it radiating down my leg. I have not explored surgery as an option because Im scared.
However, my friends husband just underwent surgery for his disc problem. It took all of 45 minutes and he was home the next day.DH disc problem isnt going to go away on its own, so maybe you and DH could explore that option. Otherwise, its going to keep reoccuring. I know I will probably need to look into it in the future.
I know the pain your DH is feeling and I wish him and you the best!

 

[JerseyJanice]

{{{hugs}}}

Here's hoping it's not that bad an injury.

 

[Rajah]

Hugs, P&PD on the way, Donna. I can understand your frustration. *HUGS*

 

[SeaShelley]

Sending prayers and PD your way. Keep us posted!

 

[aahmom1]

I'll be thinking good thoughts for you and your husband Donna.

My anger IS subsiding. And anyone who thinks I will not take care of him can go take a flying leap. Last time this happened I was 2 weeks out from a C section/hysterectomy and had to assume full responsibility for him and 3 kids and a house.

My husband has 2 herniated discs, he threw his back out the day I was coming home from the hospital with baby #2. That was an extremely rough couple of weeks. I totally understand. We all know you'll take good care of your husband, don't for a second think that one 'persons' opinion matters.

 

[faith]

Don't stay angry. He needs your support more than ever right now. Hugs and prayers for you both.

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by aahmom1
don't for a second think that one 'persons' opinion matters.

LUV YA, aahmom .......

 

[CookieGVB]

Sounds to me more like frustration than anger...a very valid emotion.

Good luck to both of you!

 

[gina2000]

Originally posted by EROS
Dopey, I feel that you should show your DH a little more EMPATHY and a little less ANGER. Sure, he may have contributed somewhat to this exacerbation , but so what?????? It's like "blaming" a smoker who sadly develops lung cancer.

The time for "blame" is over. He NEEDS you............

Eros, the OP may very well be showing her DH EMPATHY. She is showing US her anger. It works. Get it off your chest somewhere else so you can cope with the problems of day to day living.

Somehow I'll bet you may do the same thing.......

 

[Kermit]

I'm praying that he'll be better soon and that he'll be better for good. {{{Hugs}}} My DH also has a bad back that he doesn't take care of, and I know exactly what it's like to feel very sorry for him but at the same time know that he could have taken better care of himself. It's not that you don't care, but it's hard not to have a little resentment when you have to rearrange your life for something that probably could have been prevented.

 

[Deb in IA]

DopeyRN, don't be so quick to dismiss the surgical option.

I had radicular pain for 2 years before my L5-S1 disc finally decided to rupture, resulting in such severe pain that I literally could not move. A week later, I was in the OR for a laminectomy/discectomy. Without a doubt, it was the BEST thing that could have happened. I am now 2 years post-op, and pain-free.

If, heaven forbid, it should happen again, I'd go for surgery again in a heartbeat.

Best wishes to you and your DH . . .

 

[DisOrBust]

Before surgery I would try a PT evaluation by a Mekenzie CERTIFIED (PArt A-D) PT. If you get one who is gifted it can make all the difference in the world. I am not sure what aera of RNing your in but a Laminectomy is a shorter recovery then a Laminectomy with fusion, thats the big gun! Too bad the MD you trusdted isn't practising anymore. Do you know anyone in Ortho you could get a referal for?

 

[nativetxn]

I'm sorry that your dh has a ruptured disc. I know they are very painful. My brother-in-law had his repaired last May and they did it laparoscopically. He went home the same day as the surgery and only missed a couple of weeks at work, although they said that he couldn't participate with the Swat team for several months because of the heavy shields and stuff they have to deal with.

I hope your dh doesn't have to have surgery, but if he does, I hope it is easy and successful.

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. I know this is frustrating and upsetting for you. Come vent to us anytime, it's better than slugging him

 

[helenabear]

You and your DH will be in my thoughts and prayers Donna. I do hope that his back gets better soon. Feel free to vent here anytime {{hugs}}

 

[EROS]

Thanks for your kind thoughts, DAN .......

 

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and prayers being said. Please keep us posted.

 

[Planogirl]

Good luck with this situation. Anger is understandable too IMO and if you're like me, a wake up call can sometimes help. Or at least knowing that those who make those calls mean well.

I hope that your DH heals quickly and that it's not as bad as it seems right now.

 

[ead79]

I'm so sorry you and your DH are going through this. I'm saying a prayer that he feels better soon, avoids surgery, and takes the initiative to get the weight off to prevent future occurances. {{{HUGS}}} for you, Donna.

 

[Saffron]

{{{{Hugs}}}} Donna. No one really understands how you feel because we're not in your shoes. I think one of the reasons the CB is a wonderful place is because of the support we receive from our fellow DIS members when we need a shoulder to lean on. Vent all you want. It sounds to me like you love your husband and are frustrated and maybe a little scared about what's in store for him now and in the future. I wish the best to both of you.

 

[TennVolTony]

Some folks you just have to learn to IGNORE Donna........