I think I will stop dating for a while...

[Cindy B]

Barry.. poor guy...


It will happen, truly it will.

I had no idea when I was doing cast stuff for Rocky Horror, that I would meet my husband... I was just busy hanging out with friends, and doing my thing.. and well 11 years later, you know..


But I do have to disagree with Jeff's not calling advice. I personally liked a phone call a day or two later. The aloofness made me MAD! It comes across as selfish, but again thats from a womans perspective.


Be yourself Barry! Thats all, don't worry, and it will come.

 

[vickyBaby]

Originally posted by Jeff in BigD
At the end of the date give them the standard line of "I had a great time & I'll call them." Don't call for a 7-10 days. They'll be iritated that you haven't called before, yet intrigued that you aren't falling all over yourself for them.

Ummm, Jeff, 7 to 10 days??? They'll be "irritated" is putting it lightly (and, might find someone else to date because the first date was not showing interest). I understand the "Hard To Get" play and waiting a few days, but don't get yourself "Kicked To The Curb."

Ugh, I hate head games.

 

[vickyBaby]

Originally posted by Cindy B
I had no idea when I was doing cast stuff for Rocky Horror,

It's astounding;
Time is fleeting;
Madness takes its toll...

(Vicky hijacks the thread)

 

[Cindy B]

LOL Vicky!

Yes, a former Magenta/Janet/and other things speaks...

Seriously though, there were two couples that I am aware of that met at the show and got married. My other friends kept on saying "I've got to go"

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by Cindy B
But I do have to disagree with Jeff's not calling advice. I personally liked a phone call a day or two later. The aloofness made me MAD! It comes across as selfish, but again thats from a womans perspective.

Like I said, he shouldn't be aloof. It just seems his current MO wasn't working out for him & I was suggesting another he might want to try.

 

[luvdsny]

Barry, here is some advice...........Speak Louder! She probably just got tired of you not saying anything....when in fact, she just couldn't hear you. Oh, and don't take unflattering pictures of her (and especially don't post them on any boards ) but do say 'nice' and 'complimentary' things...Oh, and you have to mean them. Okay, now you're armed with the good stuff!

 

[Cindy B]

Tia... too funny about the pictures comment...

I'm sure with his next movie there will be doozies of me in them...

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by vickylan
Ummm, Jeff, 7 to 10 days??? They'll be "irritated" is putting it lightly (and, might find someone else to date because the first date was not showing interest). I understand the "Hard To Get" play and waiting a few days, but don't get yourself "Kicked To The Curb."

Ugh, I hate head games.

Ok maybe 7-10 is extreme (you don't want them to forget your name), but I know plenty of guys who call the very next morning or even worse, later that night. I agree that head games suck. I don't think waiting a few days is playing head games though. Acting completely interested, then completely disinterested & back & forth are head games.

 

[Cindy B]

Yes, 1-2 days is acceptable for a call back in my book. The same night, that is well, a bit much..

And a card goes a long way. I've seen many guys in our church do that, write a small card saying how much they enjoyed the date, etc... and the women go CRAZY over that.

 

[Tony-NJ]

I agree with the others who say you will meet that special someone when you least expect it. That's how it happened for me. And so many others I know.

Good luck!

 

[figmentvi]

Yup Barry....dating is like my golf swing. Try too hard and you don't get anywhere.

Hang in there........your perfect match is out there.

 

[Serena]

Be yourself, Barry.

 

[helenabear]

Aww Barry... I think what most said was good advice. Don't try too hard and relax because when you least expect it is when the right one comes along (that's what happened with my DH and I). And of course just be yourself. I am sure your right lady will come along soon!

 

[TigH]

Good luck! Dating sucks! I met my husband the day after I declared that I wasn't going to date losers anymore. I also made a list of all the qualities I wanted in a person (and some that I didn't want). It was a miracle!!!

Take some time off, be good to yourself, live your life HAPPILY as a single person and when you least expect it, a new friend will arrive in your life and you'll both fall in love. Yep! It's true!!!

P.S. Just read some of the other respones. Don't listen to Jeff. If you like someone and you think they like you, then CALL! Playing games is immature and could ruin things. Just be yourself!

 

[Mamu]

Barry while I have never entered the world of dating. Got married right out of Highschool. I have many single friends. I hear the same thing from them.

I can only say someday the right person will walk into your life. Probably when you least expect it. I have a friend who is in his forties and had given up on dating. This past year a woman has become a very important part of his life. He wasn't looking it's something that happened.

Barry Mrs Right is out there, somewhere.

 

[BarryHom]

Thanks for the kind words. All I feel is hate now, but I think it will soon pass.

I feel foolish for falling for a DIS'er (who shall remain nameless). It was a big mistake.

 

[browneyes]

Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

We're all only human, Barry. I'm sorry you got hurt by whomever. I hope you get to feeling better soon.

 

[TigerBear]

Barry, believe me, everyone feels foolish at one time or another when it comes to dating. Don't let it get you down. Learn from it and move on. You obviously have a lot to offer a woman. It just needs to be the right woman. When it is, you will know and she will know.

 

[WillyJ]

Now c'mon buddy; there's no need to feel so down on yourself or anyone else. . . dating is like hitting the casinos- you're going to pick the wrong game and end up losing almost everytime, but when you're finally at the right place at the right time and you hit the jackpot, you're set for life. .

I'm no longer looking myself, so I can give you one of my best pick-up lines. . .

Dress nice, walk into a bar, whip off your sun glasses, then look around and say in a loud voice; "Man, I haven't been in this joint since I won the lottery. . . "

Trust me bro; you'll get plenty of attention. . .

 

[Buckalew]

Barry,
I'm sorry that you are feeling mad and sad. I'm sorry that you were hurt or that you feel like a fool because of an experience here. But remember, you always have me to make yourself feel like less of a fool. I mean, how many times have I played the fool right here on these boards??LOL

I hate the ol' saying about trying to hard etc. but, alas, tis true. I am sure you are a great person with a lot to offer someone deserving of your love. Remember, the good Lord knows who she is!! (well, what did you expect to hear from me? )

{{{hugs}}} and good luck!