I think I POed somebody on the comm board

[NYBlue1]

Hey everybody, Take a look at this thread if you dont mind and let me know if I said anything out of line to this spider poster guy to have him jump all over me. I explained myself to him, I thought polietly and after he responded and I reponded back and well...ill just post the link...may need some help here

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=21272398&posted=1#post21272398

 

[mickeyfan1]

It's the CB. That should be all you need to know.

Sometimes it's best to not go there!

Actually, I didn't see anything wrong with what you said. I don't believe that Jerry Springers audience has the final say so for anyone's sexualy orientation, likes, etc.

 

[OrlandoMike]

I agree, the CB crowd can be rough at times.

I think the minute some people hear the word "trans" they automatically think "gay person who likes to wear womans clothes".

 

[NYBlue1]

It's the CB. That should be all you need to know.

Sometimes it's best to not go there!

Actually, I didn't see anything wrong with what you said. I don't believe that Jerry Springers audience has the final say so for anyone's sexualy orientation, likes, etc.

Oh I enjoy the CB ,crazy as that may be..this guy just confused me, I explained the diffrence between the two, he got that, made a coment about surgery or no surgery he still thought they were gay. I pretty much thought that was that.

Then he started the whole mess over, which confused me LOL and wanted to know what my sexual orientation was.. I thought that was pretty out of line. I am not one to be sensitive about stuff like this just really found it out of line. And im not sure why

 

[rosiep]

I'm with you...I think the poster is baiting you. I'm sure he understood your post..he just doesn't care.

Stay here with us.....we love you

 

[NYBlue1]

I agree, the CB crowd can be rough at times.

I think the minute some people hear the word "trans" they automatically think "gay person who likes to wear womans clothes".

I hear ya mike and agree!

It just got to me for some reason , it was just downright insulting to transgendered folks and I guess im not use to seeing stuff like this on the disboard all that often. I dont know...very unsettled by the whole thing.

 

[NYBlue1]

I'm with you...I think the poster is baiting you. I'm sure he understood your post..he just doesn't care.

Stay here with us.....we love you

Awww thanks Rosie

I bet he is doing just that, I just think its pretty messed up, ive been out for many many many years well maybe not that many, that would make me much older than I am and stuff like this usually does not get to me, for some reason this one is making me see bright red.

maybe because I was looking to educate and was not expecting a fight

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

The CB is that way. You can say something completely innocuous and all of a sudden it sparks this raging controversy.

It's the nature of the CB beast. I don't venture over there very often anymore, although DH likes nothing better than threads being locked for personal attacks and whatnot. (He just lurks, he never posts. He prefers to observe from a safe vantage point. )

 

[OrlandoMike]

The "My kid threw away her Chicken Salad sandwich" thread has been going on for days now!

That ought to give you a hint!

 

[NYBlue1]

The "My kid threw away her Chicken Salad sandwich" thread has been going on for days now!

That ought to give you a hint!

Oh im sucked right into the grown man that wants to see the reaction of a princess if he trys to kiss her hand cause he heard the reaction would be "interesting"

 

[NYBlue1]

The CB is that way. You can say something completely innocuous and all of a sudden it sparks this raging controversy.

It's the nature of the CB beast. I don't venture over there very often anymore, although DH likes nothing better than threads being locked for personal attacks and whatnot. (He just lurks, he never posts. He prefers to observe from a safe vantage point. )

I think you may have hit it right on the head , maybe was subconsciously hoping others may jump in and give this guy a bit of a hard time for his comments.

 

[mickeyfan1]

Ok, here is my question. A man dresses in womans clothing. He is a transvestite. A woman dresses in mens clothing is just wearing pants and a jacket? Many transvestites are straight, correct?

I think that most of us would not hop in to defend anyone on that type of thread once the person who is "right no matter what" starts in. THey have made up thier small mind and will only try to p you off.

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

That board scares me...I'd much rather hang out here.

 

[NYBlue1]

Ok, here is my question. A man dresses in womans clothing. He is a transvestite. A woman dresses in mens clothing is just wearing pants and a jacket? Many transvestites are straight, correct?

I think that most of us would not hop in to defend anyone on that type of thread once the person who is "right no matter what" starts in. THey have made up thier small mind and will only try to p you off.

Well there are actually many diffrent types of cross dressing, some are in the gay community others are not. Some men that are straight like to dress in womens clothing, this is more of a fetish that anything. Its usually in private and alot of times their friends and family are unaware.

Then you have folks that are Gay and like to cross dress and do so on a regular basis, they are proud to be men or women and this is a way of life for them. Some just do so socialy or entertain, you have heard of drag queens , well there are also drag kings, which as you may have guessed is women dressing as men.

Women that wear pants and jackets are just women that wear pants and jackets. You just dont see men wearing skirts and dresses cause they are more comfortable in them to work and such.

You have transgendered people who feel they were born in the wrong body and are really the opposite sex traped in the wrong gendered body, they take hormones and often have surgery to change there bodies into the sex they really are. They are not considered to be Gay but some when they do change their bodies are with the same sex.

Ive overly simplified this for the sake of not typing a short novel, feel free to ask any questions you may have or dont understand.

Understanding our fellow human beings is always welcomed and encouraged as far as im concerned as long as its done respectfully

 

[darlak]

Spidey7 was baiting you. He likes a good fight, but you shouldn't have any expectation of changing his opinion or even educating him. That's not his agenda. It's probably wisest to ignore him, but I'm rarely that wise.

 

[mickeyfan1]

Silly man, I knew all that! But it does seem to prove a stereotype of men wearing womens clothing get all the bad press and us gals in pants, well no one says a word anymore.

I now a lot of gay men and women, and I have spoken online to one man who was getting ready for surgery to begin the transformation to a woman. I think there is such heartache when people step out of societies "norm", my hope is that one daty soon no one will care or worry over any of it. I never thought I would see legal gay marraige, but it has happened. There is always hope that people will move beyond ignorance and embrace thier fellow man for what ever he or she is.

NYBlue1, you are an eloquent writer and have a level head. I am glad to have made your aquaintance here.

 

[NYBlue1]

Spidey7 was baiting you. He likes a good fight, but you shouldn't have any expectation of changing his opinion or even educating him. That's not his agenda. It's probably wisest to ignore him, but I'm rarely that wise.

Thanks for the advice , I enjoy a good back and forth as well, but not when its ugly like this was turning. I cant take that bait or I will get banned I guess he didnt take kindly to my responce of it being just his opinion.

 

[NYBlue1]

Silly man, I knew all that! But it does seem to prove a stereotype of men wearing womens clothing get all the bad press and us gals in pants, well no one says a word anymore.

I now a lot of gay men and women, and I have spoken online to one man who was getting ready for surgery to begin the transformation to a woman. I think there is such heartache when people step out of societies "norm", my hope is that one daty soon no one will care or worry over any of it. I never thought I would see legal gay marraige, but it has happened. There is always hope that people will move beyond ignorance and embrace thier fellow man for what ever he or she is.

NYBlue1, you are an eloquent writer and have a level head. I am glad to have made your aquaintance here.

Oh silly me I misunderstood *cant find the embarrised smiley *

hopefully some that didnt know will read and get a bit of education

Thank you for your kind words you made my night!

 

[OrlandoMike]

Did anyone catch the woman who got kicked out of a restaurant/bar for using the womens room this morning on the Today show? She really did look like a man, but geesh, did they have to go so far as to kick her out of the place?

 

[NYBlue1]

Did anyone catch the woman who got kicked out of a restaurant/bar for using the womens room this morning on the Today show? She really did look like a man, but geesh, did they have to go so far as to kick her out of the place?

Yes I did! I thought the same thing, gee she really looks like a guy, in a dark bar with her dressed in masculine clothing I could really see the mistake. Where it gets fuzzy for me is when or if it was ever discovered that she was not. I think thats the key in this whole thing. If they knew it was a woman than they were dead wrong if they really didnt than I would want to get that person out of my bar as well.