I think I have lost a long time friend

[gemmie214]

I helped her child into a program that she really wanted him in. It was for a trial basis and it did not work out. She was told last week and I have called her she has not called me back. I have absolutly no control over this decision. I used all my influence to get her the original chance. Since we talked a few times a week I know she is angry with me. I think I should have known better than to get so involved. I don't think it is a good idea to mix bussiness with friendships.
I am actually getting quite POed myself

 

[preshi]

If she stops talking to you because of this... she was so not your friend... I am sorry you are going throught his {{{hugs}}}

 

[JasonLyons]

give her sometime

 

[Beauty]

I'm so sorry. Give her some time and let the madness go away where she can really stop and think. Hopefully she will see that there was nothing you could do. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[olena]

She may come around. I*HUGS* I hope she does. Good friends are hard to replace.

 

[RitaZ.]

Sometimes when friends behave a certain way it's not because of something that we have done or said, it's could be something happening within themselves. Maybe she is embarrassed over what happened and can't bring herself to talk to you. {{hugs}} Just give her some time.

 

[browneyes]

Maybe she's just been busy?

Jana, just explain you didn't have any control over the decision. If that is the problem, I hope she copes with it soon and your friendship will endure. If she can't cope with it, you did nothing wrong, just tried to help.

 

[debster812]

Sorry Jana. It is so hard mixing business (or your expertise in some area) with friendships. Sorry she is making you feel badly.

Hey, You've still got all of us

 

[ripleysmom]

If you lost her then she wasn't a friend.

 

[alabamaalan]

It could be that she is embarrassed her child did not make the program and knows she will have to talk about it the next time she sees you and is avoiding the coversation.

Or she could even feel guilty/be embarrassed that you pulled strings and it amounted to nothing.

Or she may not be mad at you at all, but seeing you is a reminder that hurts her again.

I agree with Jason; give her some time. She'll probably come around when she is ready; don't write her off too quickly.

 

[gemmie214]

She is not embarassed to talk to me about it. We knew it was a big possibility and discussed it often. I am positive she is angry at me and the program (my co-workers). I know she is very disappointed but the situation is not my fault. I feel that all the support and time and energy I have given to her through the years is being thrown right back in my face We all did the best we could and I really love her child

Thank you all for your support but I am starting to think that maybe it is time for us to take a break. I put my professional reputation on the line to give this a chance and it seems that was not enough

 

[Wagamama]

maybe she's just upset and needs to leash out at someone...somone who she can make a scapegoat until she cools off. just my 2 cents...

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. It's not fair if your friend is angry with you but that's the way life works sometimes

I hope she gets over this and your friendship survives.