I think DW is having a breakdown

[mhopset]

It started last Thursday. She had a check off in doing an IV. Well she has been certified in doing IV's for about 4 years and does them all the time. The equipment she was using (the fake arm) was faulty becasue it had been used so much. The catherter would not advance in the arm so her instructor failed her (she has 4 more times to try and do it) Becky has never failed anything. She is doing great in school A's & B's, deans list the whole 9 yards.

One of her class mates was being very rude to her. She got into a heated dicussion with Seth's teacher. House was a little dirty (my fault) Her student loan check was $500 short. Needless to say she had a very, very bad day.

She just cried and cried and cried. I mean the bad cry. I thought she was having a breakdown. Scared me to death. She just want this to all be over. June can't come quick enough. Please send her some good thoughts. Thanks

Tony

 

[poohbears5]

Ugh been there when life just seems to kick you, sending pd that June gets here for her with more ease .

 

[chell]

Good thoughts and pixie dust on the way!

 

[Tiggeroo]

when my twin sons were 4 and dd was 7 I was a full time student, pre-physical therapy. Every once in awhile it just got too much. The best thing you can do for her is to take over as much of the other responsibilities in her life as you can. Take the kids out for a long while so she can get some studying done. Try to make sure the house is clean first, of if she is like me she will spend the time cleaning and not getting school work done. If she can spare the time, take her out to dinner by herself, and pour her a big glass of wine. It does get better.
Is she going for RN? Then she will finish and still have her exam ahead of her.

 

[zurgswife]

Good thoughts that June comes really quick and the stress goes down....

 

[SeaSpray]

*hugs* All that, and she just started chemo, right? The poor thing I am so sorry she had such a bad day. Dealing with cancer and then dealing with life's little problems sure can up to a huge load to have to bear I hope June comes quickly for her, and all of you. That's when her chemo ends, I think I read in one of your other posts?

 

[Dan Murphy]

Please pass on our good wishes to Becky, along with a {hug}, Tony. My best for her.

 

[bobcat]

Sometimes we need a good cry to let all the tension out. She's lucky to have you to care about her. Hugs to both of you.

 

[holycow]

Can I give a bit of advice ...you don't have to take it if you don't want to...Get the house cleaned up...have everyone pitch in...let your wife take a bubble bath or do something nice for her...

I remember going through times like those and I thought they would never end....and sometimes my DH just didn't get what I needed and made the problems worse..bless his heart!...

Good luck to you...before your DW knows it it will be June and she will be so thankful she stuck with it all!

Holycow

 

[KarenB]

Uhg....I "kind of" know how she is feeling......I am student teaching right now, have 2 teenage busy DSs, DH works 12 hour days, I work on the weekends and believe me, I bet my DH wanted to post a thread similar to this one last week.


What helps me the most is thinking that I will be graduating in May and this isn't forever. While your DW and my professions will still be hectic, it will be much more rewarding when it is "ours." (and when we are earning some money for all this hard work instead of paying to do it! )

My DH and DSs will help areound the house when I ask, but it is MUCH nicer when someone just takes the trash out, throws in a load of laundry, vacumes, or picks up milk and bread without any one asking. Let her know what she is doing is a wonderful thing, that you are proud of her, and soon she will have that diploma in her hand!!!!

I hope this helps a little......

Karen

 

[mhopset]

Tigeroo- Yes she is going for her RN. She has been an LPN for 13 years. We will all be glad when it's over.

Seaspray- DW does not have cancer. Thank God!!! must have goten me mixed up with Steve H.

 

[SeaSpray]

OMG, I am so sorry!! I have to admit, I do get a few of the male DISers confused with each other When you mentioned how stressed your DW was, I automatically thought she was also going through chemo at this same time.

I apologise to you, your DW, and Steve and his DW for the confusion!!!!

P.S. I did wonder where the pic of you and your family was at the bottom of your post, now it makes sense because it's Steve who has the pic, not you.

 

[snoopy]

I'm so sorry your wife is having a tough time of it lately.

In addition to all the good advice given here, remember this: most women need to cry ocassionally. Its a release of sorts, and after its over and done with, we feel all better. DH always freaks out when I cry, thinks someone died or I'm having a breakdown, but its really just a much needed release of emotions. Not sure if this is the case with your wife, just something to think about.

{{{hugs}}} to you, it sounds like you are a very caring husband. I hope your wife feels better soon.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have to second that Snoops as I feel like exploding today and have done at poor DH...
Crying may have been a better alternative.
I think he thinks I hate his guts
Crummy PMS...very bad now...hate everything.

I will muster up the strength to send you some good thoughts....:::::::::

 

[helenabear]

Tony, so sorry to hear that Becky had such a rough day. I do know that a good cry can seem to help a lot! Sending tons of good thoughts and PD her way {{hugs}} to you both!

 

[Disney Doll]

I'm a nurse too but I went through nursing school when I was 18 years old, living home, and having people take care of me, not the other way around.

YOU MAKE SURE THAT HOUSE IS PICKED UP YOUNG MAN!!!!!!!!! It's a little thing, but if a tidy house means something to your wife (as it would to me) then keep it tidy. It doesn't have to be spotless, but don't leave crap all over the place. I know how I hate it when I come home from working 3pm-11pm(which these days translates into 3pm-1am!!!) and there's DH "waiting up for me" (translation:sleeping in the recliner), supper dishes are in the sink dirty or still on the dinner table, soda cans all over the end table next to his recliner, his socks and shoes in the middle of the floor, the newspaper all over the floor next to his recliner. I then stomp around the house for 10 minutes cleaning up after him after having just gotten home from work, and it is not fun!!!!! My level of frustration at that time is through the roof and the only thing keeping me from beating him with a shoe is the threat of prison(I don't look good in horizontal stripes...they are not at all slimming!) So, if you want to know the one thing you can do to ease her level of frustration, it is KEEP THE HOUSE TIDY!!!!!!!! You have now been told. You have been told in very plain English. There is no way that my statement can be misconstrued. So do it, no excuses.

BTW, it aggravates me to hear they are using defective teaching equipment and then penalizing the students because they cannot perform properly on it. And the world wonders why there is a nursing shortage??????????

 

[DopeyRN]

Sounds like she has a lot on her plate. Clean the house for her...nothing will ease her mind more than that!! Hope she feels more together soon!

 

[nativetxn]

Bless her little heart. {{{HUGS}}} for her. June will be here soon. I hope she is feeling better after her cry.

 

[Buckalew]

Hugs to you, Becky. Stressful times get to all of us. Hang there, June will be here soon.
One of my favorite sayings is, "This, too, shall pass."

Good luck.

 

[DixieDreamer]

That is wonderful that you are so worried about her. When things pile up and the news always seems to be bad... that is when having your best friend be your partner is most important. Many capable women take on the world and feel solely responsible when things don not go well. Help by pitching in with the household chores, taking the kids off her hands for a bit, and being a good listener (no need to provide answers - just let her talk it out). You will be rewarded by a love that endures beyond the daily troubles.

Hugs to you both.