I Still Miss My Mother

[florida-again]

Shoes, my mum is having a rough day and I was going to stay well out of her way at risk of being on the receiving end of her bad mood....

but your post has reminded me how nothing lasts forever....

so I'm going to log off and go downstairs and see if I can cheer her up.

I hope you remembering all the nice times with yours and smiling

 

[Cinderella94]

Awwww I am so sorry.

 

[Snowysmom]

Anniversary dates are very difficult days. I hope you can think of the good times you had with your mother and maybe smile a bit. After 32 years I still think of my mother but now it seems a little easier. I like to think of her as being with us and watching over the kids. Take care.

 

[marybet]

It's been 5 years since my wonderful Mother died. I miss her a lot and somedays I just want to call her up and talk to her. No matter how old we get, we still need our Mothers.

 

[anewvance]

I'm sorry, that's so sad. You have every right to be sad...

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[DawnCt1]

Ten years in March and there isn't a day goes by that I don't think about her. I also think about what she would say if she saw me feeling sad. She wouldn't want any of us to not enjoy our lives. When I feel sad, or I want to save something that I know she would have thrown away if she felt better, etc. I can hear exactly what she would say to me at those moments.

 

[justhat]

Thursday will be 8 years that I've been without my father and even though I'm now used to the anniversary date, I do think about him a lot more in the days leading up to it. Some of it is thinking about the good memories I have but other times I can't help but think about what the final days were like and that's rough. I find now though that it's harder when something new happens than his death or birth date. What I mean is that my wedding was very hard for me to do without him, the birth of my daughter, etc. He died when I was 17 and I didn't think it could have been harder than my high school graduation, but each new event seems worse to me. It does seem to get better with time in general though, so keep that in mind when things seem hard.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. There isn't a day that passes that I don't want to call my mother at least once. I still miss my mother too

Don't feel lonely today, we are all here for you.

Katholyn

 

[Gramto6inPa]

I'm so sorry.

 

[ADisneygirl]

Loss is so hard, there really are no words but we are sorry. Here is a hug for today Hope you feel a little better tomorrow.

 

[Chris2597]

Shoes,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time....The hurt and raw feeling does diminish but never totally goes away... My dad died 10+ years ago and I still get teary at times..I will hear a song that reminds me of him, see a picture, or pop in a family video and there he will be laughing and enjoying the kids and family time. My mom is 85 and has had a very rough year health wise..She lives in her home but I am her primary caregiver..I appreciate your post because I forget how precious time is and I think I have taken for granted that I still have her here with me..I have gotten so wrapped up in her daily care, drs appts, and getting things done....I have forgotten to enjoy her and let her enjoy me..She asked me today if I could take her to the mall sometime next week to use a gift card she has....I heemmed and hawed and said I would try....I felt guilty as I was trying to get out of taking her,but I reasoned that it was so difficult to take her out to shop as if involves planning, loading the wheelchair in and out of the car and dealing with potty issues at the store (when she has to go, she has to go)..and it would be one more thing I would have to fit in next week..but it really made me think after reading your post...that time is too short and I better take advantage of the time with mom....Thank you for the reality check....
Chris

 

[mrsstats]

I am so sorry for your pain. I lost my mom a year ago Sept 1st. I too thought it would get easier but it doesnt. I miss her every day. Try to think of all the good times and remember she is no longer in pain.

 

[Alice28]

Reading your post choked me up a little- I don't want to think of the day when I lose my mother. I hope you were able to get through the day with a little smile thinking about some sweet memories of your mom.

 

[robertsmom]

Four years ago today my Mom died at the age of 79 after a long illness. I know it is supposed to get better, but I do miss her so. Feeling quite lonely today.

I know how you feel. My father passed away five years ago after a long fight with cancer. It is easier than it was in the beginning, but there are times when the pain of missing him makes it feel like he passed yesterday.

 

[TDS373X]

I so understand your pain..this thursday marks 2 yrs since DH had his heart attack and unfortunatly Thanksgiving Day is the day he passed away. I understand these feelings and was wondering if I was alone in my thinking about it so much but I see I am not from reading these boards. hugs and prayers to you.

 

[Nik's Mom]

I lost my Dad only 7 months ago, so I can relate. I know it's hard, but just think of your loved one smiling down at you. She'd want you to be happy.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Shoes, just want to send a hug out to you! I understand how you feel - I'm missing my two boys like crazy right now. The holidays are always tough for me, and it's usually when I'm the saddest. It's ok to be sad. Hang in there.

 

[Beastlover]

Hugs to you and all others with losses. I am still grieving the loss of my mom, August 9, 2005. Its a horrible feeling to deal with.

 

[tiggerlover]

{{{{HUGS}}}}