I seem to be the only one excited

[pixiewytch]

Hey everyone, maybe this is more of a vent than soliciting advice post but our trip is two days away and it seems like I am the only one really excited here. DS is four and has been to the park for the day a couple of times this year already (he has an AP) so I suppose that is why he is rather indifferent. DH is stressed about the money that has been spent and won't think about anything else.

Our second child is due in the beginning of December so this trip is really special to me. Neither my husband or son seem to really grasp the fact that this will be our last trip all together before we have a newborn and our family dynamic changes again. I just want them to appreciate it and enjoy the three of us before we introduce a high maintenance newborn into our lives again.

It has reached a point where I can't even express my anticipation about anything because it always turns into a money discussion with DH....a reservation, our resort, a food item, anything. Friday night I was in tears because I had brought something up and he turned it into an argument about finances. Everything is paid for at this point except for some dining and frivolous expenses. Yes, we overbudgeted and money is tight but at this point can't we just enjoy it instead of complaining about it?

I just wish I had someone to share each little detail of my excitement with that would appreciate it. DH doesn't hate or dislike Disney by any means but he is just so apathetic about it. I guess I can't see how anyone could possibly be apathetic about a five day trip to WDW.

 

[Principessa Alba]

Please don't let them rain on your parade! It's going to be great, you know it is! DS is just too little to realize how nuts he is going to go and DH will relax when he gets there.

You're going to WDW! Have fun making the plans and know they'll appreciate it later!

 

[Addicted2TheMouse]

I just wish I had someone to share each little detail of my excitement with that would appreciate it.

Uhhh, hello, here we are! I'm excited for you and I bet tons of others here are, too! Maybe you won't get your DH to come around until you get there so for now, I say work on your DS. Talk to him about the rides you'll go on, the characters you'll see, etc. And be really excited. Excitement is contagious. Maybe look at videos or pictures from previous trips. And the bonus is, if your DH sees your DS getting excited, he might start to also.

Now get out there and work on your family.

 

[tripplanner]

I tend to have a "non-excited" family as well. I used to try to get their involvement when choosing resorts, restaurants, and other planning stuff. It used to bother me a bit, but I've gotten over it. I've learned that my family tends to be "in the moment". Once we get there, they will have a great time and really be into the trip.

 

[Principessa Alba]

I just wanted to add that my DD never really started getting pretrip excitement until after her trip at age 6. Before that, she was happy, but not in that addicted way that she is now. (It's kind of like we are turning them on to heroin - isn't it? )

 

[littleprissboutique]

Hey! I am so excited for you


I know how you feel. My DH is sitting this trip out, so I dont have to worry about him. But I am taking my 23 brother(his first trip to any Disney property), my mother-2nd trip, DD and myself.

My brother has no clue. He thinks that WDW is like Dollywood!! LOL We live in TN and visit Dollywood all the time. Man is he in for a treat. I dont think he will get excited until we get there and he see's how big Disney is. My mom is excited! But my DD has not been all to excited. She is almost 4. I can tell you that I have been a little upset with my Brother and DD. I am so excited that I get to take my Baby Brother to Disney, and he could care less.... URGGGGG. I keep telling myself once we get there he will be bouncing off the walls--- I know he will. Then my dd was getting me down. I would say "Kaylee where are we going for your bday" she would say "disney ---again" Well, yesterday there was a tv show on about Disney and she went NUTS!!!!! Made my day. She kept saying---daddy daddy Disney Oh boy I be there on my bday!!!!

So I say go online to the WDW website and let your son look at Disney, maybe download the Stitch game and play with him. Kaylee loves the stitch game.

I was down, but I am on a high again. Your hubby will change his mood when you get there--kinda like my baby brother, and it should be easy to get your DS in on the magic!!!!!


I hope you have a blast

Happy dance for you!!!

 

[ilovejack02]

Hey everyone, maybe this is more of a vent than soliciting advice post but our trip is two days away and it seems like I am the only one really excited here. DS is four and has been to the park for the day a couple of times this year already (he has an AP) so I suppose that is why he is rather indifferent. DH is stressed about the money that has been spent and won't think about anything else.

Our second child is due in the beginning of December so this trip is really special to me. Neither my husband or son seem to really grasp the fact that this will be our last trip all together before we have a newborn and our family dynamic changes again. I just want them to appreciate it and enjoy the three of us before we introduce a high maintenance newborn into our lives again.

It has reached a point where I can't even express my anticipation about anything because it always turns into a money discussion with DH....a reservation, our resort, a food item, anything. Friday night I was in tears because I had brought something up and he turned it into an argument about finances. Everything is paid for at this point except for some dining and frivolous expenses. Yes, we overbudgeted and money is tight but at this point can't we just enjoy it instead of complaining about it?

I just wish I had someone to share each little detail of my excitement with that would appreciate it. DH doesn't hate or dislike Disney by any means but he is just so apathetic about it. I guess I can't see how anyone could possibly be apathetic about a five day trip to WDW.

Trust me when I say my husband would be the EXACT same way if we had a newborn coming and a big trip to WDW right before baby is being born.
In fact we are wanting to get pregnant and we discussed me being prego in WDW BUT i knew this is how he would react because of the added cost of the new baby coming up. SO i am waiting to try after we get back from WDW ( or while we are in WDW ) I understand you being sad and hurt by this, but unfortunatly when my husband is worried about money he wont get excited about anything involving spending extra money, . Yours maybe the same way. Good luck, let him know how upset about this you are..( in a sweet calm way) and then if he doesnt get it just leave it be.. we cant make everyone feel like we do, esp when we are pregnant Just get on the DIS boards and talk to us about how excited you are about going to WDW. I bet yall will have a great time when you get there!!!
Congrats on the new baby.

 

[crisi]

I understand where your husband is coming from. In my family, its my job to worry about money and my husband's job to spend it. Sometimes he spends more than I agree to, and then - even resolved to "hey, it got spent" every time he talks about it it hurts. It reminds me that I haven't done a good job budgeting. It reminds me that he didn't respect me enough to listen to me when I said "budget is tight right now, we shouldn't spend that much." It reminds me that whatever he spent money on was, in his mind, more important than whatever I wanted to spend it on that I can't now, because its spent, i.e. his needs are more important than mine and he can trample all over them - although often I haven't bothered to tell him "hey, we are saving for new carpet." It reminds me that - although I picked a wonderful husband - I chose poorly in picking someone who understands long term money issues - he isn't they type to bother to save for retirement or kid's college - but those things are really important to me.

Its taken us almost fifteen years to learn how to work it so he isn't mad at me for not getting excited about his new toys and I don't get mad at him for having the toys to start with. And really, the only thing that did it was getting to the point where I was financially comfortable enough that I wasn't wondering if we'd eat cat food in retirement.

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

I'm excited for you!!

I've learned over the years that you cannot be the excitement police. You can only manage your own levels, and let everyone else manage theirs.

Have fun and enjoy yourself. If you have fun, it's contagious and will spread to those around you. Don't make yourself nuts before your trip. You're the pregnant one, take care of your needs and dh can take care of his. Just believe, that no one really has a terrible time on vacation.

 

[pixiewytch]

Thanks everybody for the encouragement!

I can kind of understand why my son isn't that excited. I don't think he grasps the scope of the trip because we normally camp everywhere and we don't stay in "resorts". I just know that I would have killed to stay at Disney, even for one night when I was little. My parents were very poor and couldn't afford it. I know I shouldn't compare my son's reaction to mine as a child. I just remember talking for months about even a day trip to the parks I was so excited. Then again, I do the same thing now, lol, so maybe I'm just a nut.

Fortunately DH is a great guy about going with the flow but I guess getting him to be thrilled about it may be asking too much. He has his photography hobby which he is very passionate about and of course I am not. So I guess it boils down to realizing that you have differences and you can't always expect people to perceive things the same way you do.

And yes....he is the breadwinner in the family so he is very stressed out about money. I'm the stay at home mom who has nothing better to do than spend hours reading disboards and insignificant details like which TS has better creme brulee.

Oh, and littlepriss, I am so excited for your little brother! He compares Disney to Dollywood, that is so cute! I absolutely love going with newbies to the parks. I think it thrills me to experience their first time more than it does them.

 

[ilovejack02]

And yes....he is the breadwinner in the family so he is very stressed out about money. I'm the stay at home mom who has nothing better to do than spend hours reading disboards and insignificant details like which TS has better creme brulee. .

I was betting you were a SAHM.... I am too and your DH like i said sounds just like mine!

 

[maxtomsmom]

My brother has no clue. He thinks that WDW is like Dollywood!! LOL We live in TN and visit Dollywood all the time. Man is he in for a treat. I dont think he will get excited until we get there and he see's how big Disney is. My mom is excited! But my DD has not been all to excited. She is almost 4. I can tell you that I have been a little upset with my Brother and DD. I am so excited that I get to take my Baby Brother to Disney, and he could care less.... URGGGGG. I keep telling myself once we get there he will be bouncing off the walls--- I know he will. Then my dd was getting me down. I would say "Kaylee where are we going for your bday" she would say "disney ---again" Well, yesterday there was a tv show on about Disney and she went NUTS!!!!! Made my day. She kept saying---daddy daddy Disney Oh boy I be there on my bday!!!!




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Your brother is what we like to refer to as a Disney Virgin. He has no idea what to expect. No video, website or pictures can do it justice in the sheer magnitude of fantasy and fun he'll experience there. We know people who were like that, but boy did they change their tune when they came home. Right now it's just a vacation, but on the way home he'll wish he could live there. We do!!!!!!

 

[sconnell]

My DH hardly ever shares my excitement. (At least in a way that I can tell!)
He swears he is excited, but IDK.
I think I can see it a little. For the first time ever:
He picked up the milk yesterday and said, when this expires, we'll be leaving for WDW! (Now mind you we will finish it long before time to go, but he noticed!)