I really didn't need to know that.....

[torinsmom]

Why do people post private stuff/conversations on Facebook? I really don't want to see your lovey-dovey comments back and forth on my page when I open it. That especially goes for my ex husband(of 11 years) and his new sweetie. He has 900 "friends" and they all have to read their little schoolgirl/schoolboy comments. Well, I guess they don't have to, but they are right there in your face.

I know he knows how to send a private message, because he sends them to me. Poor woman, she has no idea that he is always like this when he starts a relationship, but after 6 months or so, she will be poorer and wiser, LOL. Just ask me, his second wife, and the 5 or 6 other women he has been with between us. He is a master at playing the game. I can only imagine what she has been told about us. Plus, he is such a winner, living with his mom and paying child support on two children with two separate women I guess there is a fool born every moment........

Oh, and no I am not jealous. I have had my chance to take him back between every two relationships, including his last one. I am just too smart now to even consider it. We have a civil relationship for our DS's sake. He is a good dad, but a terrible boyfriend/husband.

Marsha

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

It IS amzaing what some people post on their FB accounts!

Too bad this new woman can't fast forward 6 months......she should take off those rose colored glasses!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Another reason not to be on FB.

 

[Allison]

Another reason not to be on FB.

Just what I was thinking.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Just what I was thinking.

Same here...

 

[OceanAnnie]

Another reason not to be on FB.

No desire to join FB.

 

[Rora]

Facebook is.. interesting, to say the least. I'm thinking about deleting mine.

OP- so sorry about your ex!

 

[Imzadi]

Add me to the list.

Marsha, can you delete what they posted?

. . . Or better yet. Make a comment like, "Oh, I see he's still on his lovey-dovey good behavior with you. You both must still be under the 6 month mark.

 

[dizluvah]

Savvy facebook users know that you can set your privacy settings and completely control what posts you see - you can keep your ex as your "friend" - but block his posts from appearing on your wall - so you can go to his profile when/if you need to but not be subjected to his random thoughts/posts. He will never know you have blocked his posts - he is not notified or anything.

The top right of each post -if you mouse over that corner - a drop down will appear and you can block the user or the application, etc.

On your profile page you can scroll to the very bottom of the page and see "options" - this is where you go if you have blocked someone and now want to reinstate them and see their posts.

I believe in free speech, even those annoying posts on facebook - if you don't like it, don't read it.

I have a difficult time siding with you when tools are available to you to block the very items that you are complaining about but you have either not learned how to use facebook properly or simply can't be bothered.

Just think each post you see from the ex to his new girlfriend you can be thankful you are rid of him...

 

[pipersmom]

OP, I would say the best thing to do for your mental sanity is to block his posts. You can do that with anyone's, just click on it next time a post from him comes up.

Christine, apparently we were posting at the same time, lol.

 

[SaraJayne]

Savvy facebook users know that you can set your privacy settings and completely control what posts you see - you can keep your ex as your "friend" - but block his posts from appearing on your wall - so you can go to his profile when/if you need to but not be subjected to his random thoughts/posts. He will never know you have blocked his posts - he is not notified or anything.

The top right of each post -if you mouse over that corner - a drop down will appear and you can block the user or the application, etc.

On your profile page you can scroll to the very bottom of the page and see "options" - this is where you go if you have blocked someone and now want to reinstate them and see their posts.

I believe in free speech, even those annoying posts on facebook - if you don't like it, don't read it.

I have a difficult time siding with you when tools are available to you to block the very items that you are complaining about but you have either not learned how to use facebook properly or simply can't be bothered.

Just think each post you see from the ex to his new girlfriend you can be thankful you are rid of him...

I was just going to post that you can either hide his updates on your page or just completely block him. Then you won't see anything he writes anywhere.

 

[lillygator]

if he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

 

[Tink888]

I probably wouldn't want to see that either but I agree with the other poster about the free speech thing. People can post whatever they want to on Facebook. It's their space. Just block him or hide his posts and you won't have to read them. Problem solved.

 

[Darsa]

If he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

This was my thought as well; I'm pretty sure that if I divorced someone, that someone would NOT be a "friend" on Facebook!

Also, I **love** having Facebook, to help me keep in touch with the members of my family that live far away. We have family members from Maine to California, and it's great to see what's going on with them all and even be able to comment!

 

[FireDancer]

Facebook has privacy settings for these kinds of things.

It isn't the lovey dovey stuff that baffles me, it is some of the pictures that people post. Once that stuff makes it to the Internet it is out there forever, usually even once the original instance is posted. I don't put anything out there that I wouldn't want a potential employer or my future children to see.

I can't believe the lack of long term thinking that people apply before deciding what to put out there for the world to see. This is true of both teens and adults. Think people!

 

[Imzadi]

if he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

The OP said, "We have a civil relationship for our DS's sake." So she probably grudgingly befriended him for DS.

 

[agnes!]

if he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

Maybe because he is the father of their child together? FB can be an easy way to keep in touch with folks.

agnes!

 

[Nom]

Maybe because he is the father of their child together? FB can be an easy way to keep in touch with folks.

agnes!

I tried to stay FB friends with my ex until he started posting passive aggressive comments as his status updates, aimed at me. So to keep a more civil relationship with the father of my daughter, un-friending him was the best thing I did.

OP, if his posts bother you (and they must since you had to vent here), I would un-friend him and be done with it. FB is not the only way to keep in touch with the father of your child.

 

[ogreenlee]

Facebook has privacy settings for these kinds of things.

It isn't the lovey dovey stuff that baffles me, it is some of the pictures that people post. Once that stuff makes it to the Internet it is out there forever, usually even once the original instance is posted. I don't put anything out there that I wouldn't want a potential employer or my future children to see.

I can't believe the lack of long term thinking that people apply before deciding what to put out there for the world to see. This is true of both teens and adults. Think people!

no doubt!

i don't accept everyone's friendship, and i block users that bug me. i don't allow any kids under 18, as a general rule, on my FB. it's not because i'm doing something shameful, but adult conversation takes place a lot of the time and i can't control what others say unless i delete their posts. i shouldn't have to delete b/c there are kids on my page. i also don't want to read what teens are saying. i was linked to a picture of my friend's daughter with a band member of this group she likes, and one of the comments to this 15 year old from her 15 year old friend was NOT something i wanted to read.


FB is awesome for my business as a photog. I keep a fan page for that, and allow clients to "friend" me. However, they go into a category and can only see info and a few other things. I don't want them reading my personal conversations on FB. Not to mention, we get into heated political debate on my page, and I don't need to lose clients over it. I can't help getting into them, though. I majored in Political Science and was very involved. Oh well. That's why there are settings!

 

[ilovejack02]

Why on earth would you have your ex on your facebook?


Yeah .. I get the whole lets get along for the kiddo. That is what cell phone calls, email and being nice to each other is.
Not being his facebook friend so he can see what is going on in your life and who your friends are etc.
I have lots of divorced girlfriends who get along with the ex.. but not one of them has the ex on F.B.
My hubby has an ex wife.. like her well enough. I would never friend request her and neither would he. I am pretty sure she feels the same.

Put an ignore on him, you cant see his page unless you look him up, he wont know you dont see all his post and you will still be on his friends list.