I need your prayers... a decision has been made....

[Cinderella Fan]

As many of you know, DF's father has been very sick for the last few months. He has a disease called scleroderma - which in many cases is terminal. Tuesday he was placed in ICU at our local hospital, due to lung and kidney failure. He was transfered to Duke yesterday, and we are having to remove him from all of his machines today. The only thing left to due is to make him more comfortable....

Here is the question - BG still wants to go through with this wedding as planned, which as you can see from my ticker is not far off. What do I do? Do I move the date? I know all of our guests will understand, they are very close to our family? OR, do I honor BG's wishes and continue, hoping this will give him and his mother something to look forward to?

Please send your prayers, I don't know what else will help with making this decision...

Thank you all so much....

 

[jdybnsn]

Ciderella fan sending you lots of and prayers - the situation must be so difficult for you right now.

I think you and your family have to take a very difficult decision either way.

Personally, I think I would postpone the wedding, as I would not want two major and such opposite events going on at one time - either one is enough to deal with, let alone both.
Since you have no control over the first, sad situation, I would put the wedding back (but with a definite date) and concerntrate on dealing with DF's father and supporting his family.

You wedding day should be memorable for the right reasons, it would be unfortunate if this was a day of mixed emotions for you all (and the days leading up to it) - my feelings are that your wedding should be your own very special day of celebration and joy....which could be difficult state of mind for either of you to reach at this point in time.

Whatever you decide (and only you & your family can decide) I wish you well.

 

[PrincessShanShan]

I'm so sorry.......I wish there was something I could do or say to make things better. Reading this this morning is really hitting me hard as today is the anniversary of my grandmother's death (3 years ago today). She was like a second mother to me. I decided to log on for a few minutes before heading to the cemetary.................this just really sucks and is so unfair!

I know the decision you have to make will not be easy. I'm sure everyone will honor whatever the two of you decide. I think if I were you, I'd sit down and talk with my df and his family and then make a decision. Sometimes people need something happy to look fwd. to in order to get through a tragic time. Others need time to accept the sadness and just grieve. I wish I could give you an answer or make things better for you. I'll keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. {{{ to all of you }}}

 

[janine]

Just wanted to to send you lots of hugs too. I am sure this is a very traumatic time for all of you. Today is also the 9th anniversary of my FIL's death too. I think if it were us I would postpone the date also. I think it would be a solemn day rather than the happy day it should be. It's sometimes not easy to hide emotions, and your wedding day does make you think how precious your loved ones are at that moment of marriage, especially when everyone is around you.
I am sure your friends, family and Disney would quite understand if you delayed the date slightly. You know even a few months can help a little.
Only you know yourself whether it would be too much for you, but what ever you decide I wish you and your family all the best at this difficult time.

 

[JJClemson]

I am so sorry you and your DF and family are going through this. What a difficult time this must be for you, especially with the wedding and holidays. I do not have any advice to give, I just wanted to let you know I will pray for you. You and your DF will make the right decision for you. Best of luck getting through this difficult time.

 

[Belle1981]

I too do not have any advice to give other than to say we are praying for you and your DF at this time. This is a time to spend all together and no matter what decision you make it will be the right one. We are thinking and cheering for you both!

 

[Gabrielle0625]

If it was me.....
If he is in the hospital and is unable to attend the wedding, then I would postpone the wedding.
If he is somehow able to attend the wedding, then I would have the wedding as soon as possible.
My husband and I had a similar situation with my father in law.
He has cancer and we realized we needed to have the wedding ASAP.
Worked out pretty well.
God bless you and your family.

 

[happylalagirl]

You and your family are in my prayers. I agree with what someone else said. You and your DF should sit down with his family and see how they feel about it. Good luck and let us know how it turns out. Just remember we are always here for you.

 

[tchan03]

I am sorry to hear that. Best of luck to your family .

cheers

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Cinderella Fan,
I am soooooooooooooooo sorry to read this. . It's really hard to make these decisions in normal circumstances, much less in your situation. I agree with some of the other posters to sit down with DF and his family (mother) and talk about real expectations and reservations if any on going ahead or postponing. Whatever you decide, know that your DIS family will be here for you. Your family is in our prayers!

 

[sefny]

I think everyone else has given excellent advice, so I'll just add that I too am keeping you and your family in my prayers!

 

[Cinderella Fan]

Thank you all so very much for your thoughts and prayers. BG's father passed away yesterday afternoon. This is a very trying time fo all of us, and your prayers are really helping us (especially me) get through all of this.

We will keep you updated as to what we decide...

Again, thank you all so much...

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Big hugs and prayers to your family. Sorry for your loss.

 

[heatherlynn444]

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I cannot imagine what a tough decision it is. I don't really know what I would do...but of DF and his family wants it I would honor their wishes. praying for you and your family

Romans 8:28

 

[JonetteA]

Angela, You are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[jdybnsn]

Lots of - so sorry to hear of your news.

 

[JJClemson]

Cinderella Fan- I am so sorry for your loss I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time.

 

[Deesknee]

Prayers of comfort and peace are sent to you and yours in the loss of your loved one.

 

[jasnal]

You are in my prayers. I was in a similar situation. As I was in the middle of planning my wedding a year ago my father passed away from a heart attack. The situation was slightly different. It was very unexpected but I do know it took me a year of grieving before I felt like I could really enjoy planning and participating in my wedding. If I were you I would change the date. It will work out for the better, I know it did for me.

 

[Cinderella Fan]

I want to thank you all again for so many prayers and kind thoughts.BG and I appreciate it more than you will know....

Bobby was a wonderful man, but he was very adament about NOT being the center of attention. In fact, he didn't even want a service, AT ALL!! So, we are honoring his wishes, which is hard because without a service, so many people are coming to the house. BG and I moved in with his parents about 8 months ago to help take care of him, so it has been tough the last couple of days.

BG and I sat down and had a long talk last night. He has made the decision to go on with the wedding, as planned. His mother has also been sick the lasst couple of years with a heart condition, and doesn't want to miss out on her being at the wedding as well. Plus, he said the final stages of planning will get some of this off his mind and he and his mother something to look forward to. I realized that this was his decision, so I needed to go with whatever he may choose.

Again, I appreciate ALL of your prayers - my heart has felt them so often.