I need to vent/need some advice.

[JulielovesDisney]

kick the kid to the curb. no girl deserves that bs.

I'd at least try to see what he has to say. It's not like he cheated and everyone has different deal breakers in a relationship but I tend to take dating seriously. Clearly this was affecting the relationship but it wouldn't be an immediate deal breaker (for me)..I'd give it a chance. I hope it works out for you Julie!

The joke you mention is not really offensive but if it was a constant thing it would drive me insane because it's immature. It seems he really needs to work on maturing. You have to decide whether he is worth it. Do you think he'll always have an immature side? There's nothing wrong with being immature, I am at times, but when it is affecting the relationship it is a problem.

The jokes aren't offensive, I know that. They are just really stupid. It's just really, really, REALLY annoying because he does it a lot. lol And he does have to work on his maturity. He has actually gotten a lot better since when I knew him before we got together. Not sure if that says anything..lol

 

[Sparx]

The jokes aren't offensive, I know that. They are just really stupid. It's just really, really, REALLY annoying because he does it a lot. lol And he does have to work on his maturity. He has actually gotten a lot better since when I knew him before we got together. Not sure if that says anything..lol

If this is the improved state, I'm scared of the "before" stories.

 

[DisneyWriter627]

I completely understand your situation. I have friends who used to make jokes about this one thing that was really, really personal and even though that was a while ago, sometimes, they still do it and it really hurts me. So I completely understand where you are coming from.
Honestly, I wouldn't worry to much about your parents. I don't think it is their decision to make, so again, I wouldn't put to much thought into it.
And honestly, your boyfriend probably is unaware of just how personally you're taking it. One problem I always have is thinking people understand things that I think, when really, they have no idea. That recently happened to me with this girl who I thought didn't like me. She's one of my camp "teachers" but, she is only a couple of years older than me. Anyway, I emailed her (there is NO time for us to talk in person) and said that if I did anything to offend her that I was genuinely sorry and never meant to disrespect or offend her. I told her I thought she was cool and I respected her, and she took that and turned it all around, telling me that somehow I hurt her and she fed me all these lies and it really hurt me. I don't think she realizes how much that hurt me and what exactly that meant to me. It sucks.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

If this is the improved state, I'm scared of the "before" stories.

Bahaha..yeah..it wasn't pretty.
But that was when we first met, which was a while before we got together. AFter he met me, he started growing up a lot. Plus, he was put in a lot more difficult situations that will make a person grow up.

I completely understand your situation. I have friends who used to make jokes about this one thing that was really, really personal and even though that was a while ago, sometimes, they still do it and it really hurts me. So I completely understand where you are coming from.
Honestly, I wouldn't worry to much about your parents. I don't think it is their decision to make, so again, I wouldn't put to much thought into it.
And honestly, your boyfriend probably is unaware of just how personally you're taking it. One problem I always have is thinking people understand things that I think, when really, they have no idea. That recently happened to me with this girl who I thought didn't like me. She's one of my camp "teachers" but, she is only a couple of years older than me. Anyway, I emailed her (there is NO time for us to talk in person) and said that if I did anything to offend her that I was genuinely sorry and never meant to disrespect or offend her. I told her I thought she was cool and I respected her, and she took that and turned it all around, telling me that somehow I hurt her and she fed me all these lies and it really hurt me. I don't think she realizes how much that hurt me and what exactly that meant to me. It sucks.

Aw, I'm sorry you're going through all that.

 

[DisneyWriter627]

Bahaha..yeah..it wasn't pretty.
But that was when we first met, which was a while before we got together. AFter he met me, he started growing up a lot. Plus, he was put in a lot more difficult situations that will make a person grow up.



Aw, I'm sorry you're going through all that.

It's okay, she's not worth it. I mean, you can't fix other peoples' immaturity. I feel sorry for her that she is so insecure, that she couldn't just say sorry. I mean, if anyone came to me and told me that I made them feel like I hated them, regardless of whether or not I meant to, I'd be so embarassed and ashamed, I'd have to apologize. I find it sad that she doesn't even have the security to do that.
The worst part is, that girl is just like me. She LOVES Disney and she's into theatre, but she still chose to keep me out of her life. I didn't ask her to be best friends, or even friends with her, but she clearly pushed me away, which is probably the worst part of this whole situation. I just feel sorry for her.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

It's okay, she's not worth it. I mean, you can't fix other peoples' immaturity. I feel sorry for her that she is so insecure, that she couldn't just say sorry. I mean, if anyone came to me and told me that I made them feel like I hated them, regardless of whether or not I meant to, I'd be so embarassed and ashamed, I'd have to apologize. I find it sad that she doesn't even have the security to do that.
The worst part is, that girl is just like me. She LOVES Disney and she's into theatre, but she still chose to keep me out of her life. I didn't ask her to be best friends, or even friends with her, but she clearly pushed me away, which is probably the worst part of this whole situation. I just feel sorry for her.

Mhm..she's gonna have a rough life if she doesn't grow out of that.

 

[DisneyWriter627]

I wanted to just delete this message because my computer said it wouldn't post it and then posted it twice, but it won't let me delete is so I'm just gonna write this...

 

[DisneyWriter627]

Mhm..she's gonna have a rough life if she doesn't grow out of that.

Ignorance is bliss. She has more friends at that camp than I do, and I can gurantee she hasn't thought about this situation as much as I have. In a lot of ways, as much as I know that being the bigger person will help me in the end (hopefully!), I'm jealous of her in a lot of ways...
.... okay, so maybe I'm jealous of her because she went to the premiere of World of Color (where she got to meet Jodi Benson) and walks around in a WED Imagineering sweatshirt... but jealous is jealous...