I Need To Vent About EX

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I have got to vent. Actually I do not know what emotion it is. I can't figure out if I am angry, sad or both. I have an ex-husband. We have a DD12 together. She lives wit me but visited him. He was being neglectful and borderline abusive and a judge revoked his visitation to supervised until throughout counseling and drug rehab could take place. Well he never did either. He was suposed to see DD every week but out of the time period of 15 weeks he saw her 3 times. Each time he tried to convince her that she made things up or I told her to say them and pleaded with her to tell everyone she was wrong. He told her how much he loved her, ect.

Fast forward to Jan 2009. He leaves the state. Moves back to his homestate. Never says a word to her. Around April I get a nasty phone call from a relative stating he is gone and good luck with child support. Well yesterday my friend emails me and asks me to go on facebook. Ex is on there. He has written numerous messages about what a good father he is and how much he loves all his children. All 2 of them...he has 3. My DD is not mentioned. He has totally written her out of his life. Now I am glad he is gone. I won't deny that. He was an unstable person and it wasn't safe to leave DD alone with him. I was hoping that he would get the help he needed and maintain a relationshipo with DD. Not so much for me but for her.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[cepmom]

I'm sorry for what you and your DD have been and are going through with this guy......he sounds like a real winner. I have a brother that is doing the same thing with his DD. He has had Dniece taken away from him and he has had the opportunity to clean up and get sober, but he chose not to. The hearing for custody is coming up in September; he refuses to change his ways and he has stated he does not want her back

I guess it's a blessing though even though these guys make you want to throttle them. Kids don't understand why their Dads don't want them and it's incredibly damaging. With lots of love and support, I know both your DD and my Dniece can overcome that

 

[FireDancer]

Coming from the son of a horrible father I say good riddance. I broke all contact with my father and have never regretted it. It may be painful for your daughter now but in time she will learn it is probably best.

I feel bad for the kids of terrible parents but we don't get to chose our parents. I do admit I would have liked to trade one though.

 

[JoiseyMom]

I am sorry you have an ex like this. Mine just disappeared. Do yourself a favor, and print out his facebook page and save it. Show that he has no interest, for when he might try to see her again. Make sure you protect your daughter!

 

[MineMail]

I am sorry you have an ex like this. Mine just disappeared. Do yourself a favor, and print out his facebook page and save it. Show that he has no interest, for when he might try to see her again. Make sure you protect your daughter!

Maybe instead of printing it out, save a copy on your computer. Less chance of the DD coming across it on her own, if you put it in a strange place. NOTE: Don't put it on the Desktop or in My Documents! She'll find it in a heartbeat.

<file><save AS>
pick the location and give it a name like FB20090626
Choose the file type of "Webpage,complete (*.htm, *.html)"

I've done that and then emailed the file to myself before deleting the copy from my hard drive. (I use this for copies of craigslist webpage descriptions.)

 

[Disney Doll]

I'm sorry for your DD that she will be sad, because kids don't understand all the intircacies of adults, relationships, the adult psyche and all the things that go into making someone a screwball like your ex is.

be that as it may, it sounds as if she will be better off without him in her life.

 

[*pixie*dust*]

I know this is so hard. My ex has some mental health issues as well. The hardest thing in all of it is how it impacts your child. It sounds like you are a loving and caring parent. Hold your head up high, love your daughter and know that she is going to be ok with your love and support.

 

[Pakey]

I'm so sorry for your daughter. My ex husband wrote my son out of his life but remarried and had two more sons who are 10 years younger than my son (who is now 28). My son now says he feels nothing about that man but there were a lot of years of hurt. And while it was great never having to deal with my ex, I would have exchanged some pain/suffering if it would have meant my son was given even a scrap of a relationship with his father.

 

[ericamanda01]

Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone great to be a dad. Your daughter is better off without him in her life.