I need some serious help. (please)

[Ms.Squeakers]

I'm afraid my friends mom hits her.
Actually, she does.

I was sitting having a chat with my friend, and she doesn't say this with a sad face, just like a normal conversation which basically went :


Did you get that text I sent you about the dog in my neighborhood?

Her : ah, nah. My mom broke my phone yesterday

Me: what??

Her : yeah, shes been trying to get a divorce with my dad for a year, and it was time for him to sign the papers, and he wouldn't do it. So she drove by his house, took my phone and broke it.

Me: why?

Her : because that was the only connection i had to my dad, and she doesn't want me talking to him. Which I'm glad, because hes mean.

Me : oh...I'm sorry

Her : its fine, just letting you know, then later I was in my house, and i got upset (i dont remember what happened) so my mom hit me, then i started crying and she hit me again

Me : Oh..oh my god. Are you okay??

Her: Yeah, its fine. My mom hits me all the time


and..its just..
its really hard to hear this
because my friend REALLY loves her mom (its true) but, when i hear her talking about how she sometimes hits her...it makes me upset, and i dont know how i should react.


Thanks a lot
-Mouse

 

[Shelton123]

Give her this for me

The best way to do this is to call one of those child abuse phone numbers. The number slips my mind, but I'll edit once I find it. Also, just be with her as much as possible. Just call to check up on how she is, she may seem like she doesn't like you intervening, but it will help her out a lot.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Give her this for me

The best way to do this is to call one of those child abuse phone numbers. The number slips my mind, but I'll edit once I find it. Also, just be with her as much as possible. Just call to check up on how she is, she may seem like she doesn't like you intervening, but it will help her out a lot.

Mouser, if her momma is hitting her, that's clearly not good. True, she could be stressed from the divorce, but that gives her no right to take it out on her daughter.

I've encountered quite a few friends who've endured child abuse, and they've been able to get out of it.

Keep an eye on her, and if it gets any worse, TELL AN ADULT! RIGHT AWAY!

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Thanks, but its just...i'm not sure how bad it is, she doesnt seem to be bothered by it (but maybe she doesn't know any better?) she just, she really loves her Mom, and if soemthing were to happen that her and her mom would be seperated, I would feel absolutely terrible.

I mean, i've never seen her with bruises, but i guess it just bothers me to hear that she sometimes hits her.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Thanks, but its just...i'm not sure how bad it is, she doesnt seem to be bothered by it (but maybe she doesn't know any better?) she just, she really loves her Mom, and if soemthing were to happen that her and her mom would be seperated, I would feel absolutely terrible.

I mean, i've never seen her with bruises, but i guess it just bothers me to hear that she sometimes hits her.

If her mom is hitting her for NO REASON, it's a problem.

She probably hides the bruises (I know my friends did). She's probably scared inside, but has to hide it, to show that nothing is wrong.

 

[Shelton123]

Thanks, but its just...i'm not sure how bad it is, she doesnt seem to be bothered by it (but maybe she doesn't know any better?) she just, she really loves her Mom, and if soemthing were to happen that her and her mom would be seperated, I would feel absolutely terrible.

I mean, i've never seen her with bruises, but i guess it just bothers me to hear that she sometimes hits her.

I know she loves her Mom, and it's going to be hard for her, but she needs to seriously get away from her mom. If there's a friend she could move in with, or just anything to get her away from mom. Her mom's a dangerous woman, and if we don't do something, it won't be long before something seriously bad happens.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Mkay. I'll just keep a really close eye on it.

I just didn't know what i should do. If i SHOULD be concerned, or not worry about it.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Mkay. I'll just keep a really close eye on it.

I just didn't know what i should do. If i SHOULD be concerned, or not worry about it.

I'd be concerned, honey. A woman (or man) hitting their own child is just wrong.

 

[Shelton123]

Mkay. I'll just keep a really close eye on it.

I just didn't know what i should do. If i SHOULD be concerned, or not worry about it.

You should definitley be concerned.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Thanks everyone.
I'll keep these thoughts in mind.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Thanks everyone.
I'll keep these thoughts in mind.

No problem, Mouser

 

[chisnpeke]

Mkay. I'll just keep a really close eye on it.

I just didn't know what i should do. If i SHOULD be concerned, or not worry about it.

You have every right to be concerned. There is no reason for anyone to hit their child.

 

[crazytp93]

I'd talk to your guidance counseler when you go back to school tomorrow.

Tom

 

[BabyPiglet]

I had the same problem. I thought my friend's step-dad might be molesting her, & I told my mom about it. Well my mom works for the state & she is required by law to report any abuse she hears about. So eventually my friend was put in foster care, & well honestly, she absolutely hated me after that. She literally made my life hell.

Last time I talked to her she didn't seem mad at me anymore, & I believe she has been living long term with a very good family whom she loves.

I don't regret my decision at all, even though I lost a really good friend (and subsequently a bunch of other friends).

Tell an adult. Your counselor. Teacher. Whatever.