I need some advice...

[Idol_Fan]

What do you do if your crush likes your bff and she hates him and they both trust you for advice!? IM SOOO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO!

 

[tinkerbell12]

Tell your crush the truth and tell your BFF the truth.

Seems easy but it's not. Trust the truth, it's not easy but it's right. Don't be giving false info to them -- don't be stuck with all the lies.

 

[Idol_Fan]

Tell your crush the truth and tell your BFF the truth.

Seems easy but it's not. Trust the truth, it's not easy but it's right. Don't be giving false info to them -- don't be stuck with all the lies.

Thanks but actually i told him and her a long time ago...they said "you feel that way? oh ok but anyways..." ITS SOOO ANNOYING! My friend talks trash about him and asks me how to turn him down and he asks me how to win her over. It makes me feel really awful sometimes. I hate this! ugh! I'll move on eventually.

 

[shellybellypolo]

First thing to do is calm down . The more you struggle, the harder this seems. Have you tried telling them nicely that if they want advice they shouldn't come to you as if you were an advice machine? Explain to them how you really feel about this. What could solve this without anyone getting hurt or mad? That's the hard question. Well, maybe you can nicely explain to your crush (since you already said how you feel) that whenever he talks about your friend or asks you for advice, it makes you feel (_Insert_how_you'd_feel_here_). Then explain to your friend that if she doesn't like the boy and wants to know how to get rid of him, maybe suggest that she should ask another one of her friends because you can't handle giving out advice to two people with the same scenario. Maybe have the two of them talk with you. Find some time after school, at the mall, or even a restraunt. Have them discuss their feelings and ask them if there's any agreement they could come to, so that everyone is happy. Think up some kind of compromise before you leave home, so that if they can't think up one, you'll have one. Once the rules are set straight, ask them if they agree to what your saying. If nobody agrees to any of the things and they won't stop pestering you, this would be considered harassment. If the problem continues, tell a trusted adult what is going on. Adults are good at solving things like this .

I used to be a Peer-Mediator at my school

The DIS is always here for you, Idol_Fan!

 

[EeyoreFan1]

First; Tell the crush that your best friend doesnt like him. Duh. Tell it to them very heartfelt and nice. Then go to the best friend and tell them before you tell the crush what your going to do. Then wait until the crush gets over the best friend and then go in.


(BTW I'm just typing what my friend is telling me to...I'm not sure if/ or what I typed, so if its confusing or whatever Blame my head not my heart.) haha

 

[Sparx]

To crush:
"Hey ______, I'm really sorry to have to tell you this, but you know that girl you like? _________? well, she doesn't really feel the same way. I dunno why, though. You're a great guy."

Later, ask him out.

 

[StitchfansJr]

What do you do if your crush likes your bff and she hates him and they both trust you for advice!? IM SOOO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO!

l'm gonna edit this, since I don't want a tag about it. :l

 

[DisGirlAllie]

I am in the same situation. I did the same thing sparx suggested. Except I didn't ask him out. But he asked me out! But when he asked me out it was of course when my friend realized that she now likes him! So what I did was say no when he asked then had her explain it to him.

 

[Idol_Fan]

Thank you so much everyone!

Well i worked it out w/ my friend. One more to go

 

[life of the party]

Yeah.. thats happened to me a couple times and it really is HORRiBLE!! but.. i've never had my friend not like the guy lol. well.. try and hook your crush up w/ someone else if he doesnt like you. and try to tell ur friend thatyou dont like her trashing him and that you really like him. things always happen for a reason, maybe your were suppost to experience this.

 

[Idol_Fan]

Yeah.. thats happened to me a couple times and it really is HORRiBLE!! but.. i've never had my friend not like the guy lol. well.. try and hook your crush up w/ someone else if he doesnt like you. and try to tell ur friend thatyou dont like her trashing him and that you really like him. things always happen for a reason, maybe your were suppost to experience this.

OMG THANK YOU!!! You dont know how re-assured that made me feel for some reason!

 

[CastawayJ]

not that anyone cares but

i (as a guy) think you shuld go up to him and say, "look, she doesnt like you but(drow this word out like your collecting your thoughts) i(say i like pain and panik say if(first) in "if, if is good") like you"

hopefully this will work good luck