I need help with potty training...

[finallygoingtoWDW]

I learned the hard way that there is a window, and if you take advantage of it, you can pt in under a week.

There's no magic window. They're ready when they are ready. Some kids take under a week, some kids take longer.

When we started potty training, the diapers were taken away. They weren't an option anymore. The only option was underwear.

Yes that is one way to do it. But not many moms are willing to clean up messes. I know I wasn't. And it doesn't matter, because if they aren't ready, nothing is going to work.

You can't schedule potty training. You can give your child the tools they need to figure it out, but they have to do it on their own. It is a bodily function. They are the ones in control of their body.

 

[diznygirl]

And pssssst ~ it's SARAJayne.

Well, whatever. It's still bad advice. More smilies for you.

OP - Every child is different and different things work. My son would sit all day in his poopy underwear - he didn't care. Such a guy. Daughter couldn't stand being dirty, but she was independent enough to go get her own diaper! Don't get in her way. Bribes didn't work, and neither did fancy underwear or potties.

I was actively involved in potty training, because that's what parents do, right? Wrong. The kids do it when they are ready.

The majority of moms know that it's all good, just be patient and love your little guy. It will happen when it happens.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

OP- Don't stress. Give your kid the diaper to poop in. When he is ready he will go in the potty. It is very common for kids to have an aversion to pooping on the potty.
What I did do though was leave the diaper on but tell them they had to make the poopy in the bathroom so they could have privacy. It got them used to being in the bathroom for poop time and they still got to wear their diaper.

I firmly believe that kids will train when they are ready and not when you are ready. Don't sweat it. In the overall scheme of things this is small stuff. I am sure he won't graduate college in a Pamper.
Good luck!

P.S. Tell Grandma to MYOB. She had her kids these are yours.

 

[rluey29]

OP here...I just want to thank MOST of you for the encouragement on this matter. I agree, my mom should definitely butt out and I may have to tell his teacher that as well. My little guy is just precious and it made me so sad to see him crying that hard over something that shouldn't have been forced on him. I'm so proud of him already for picking up so quickly on the pee'ing in the potty. I do think that he'll get the pooping down when he's comfortable with it. I would never want to sit with my son at the hospital because I wouldn't let him poop in a diaper! for all the parents who have went through that. Thanks Again!!!!

 

[Pooh Crew]

Having had four children in a span of 16 months (triplets and a pleasant surprise), I was not willing to deal with four children peeing and pooping all over my house. I listened to my ped who said they would get it when they were ready...and they all did at varying ages, but all between 2.5 and 3.5. And all were fully trained (day/night/pee/poop) in a single weekend. No messes, no fussing, no accidents, no tears. Their body, their accomplishment!

My advice is more geared towards dealing with the well-meaning family members. Next time someone asks why your son is not potty trained, ask what time you should drop him off at their house without the diapers because you must be doing something wrong and are certain that they could show you the error of your ways. That'll hush 'em up! Show up at Grandma's just once in undies with no back up plan and she'll never ask you again.

 

[MsLeFever]

Would he poop "on" the potty if he was wearing a diaper? Just sitting there? Then maybe you could move to the "crotchless" diaper (You'd have to cut them but you know what I mean) and then to just the potty?

 

[Tinijocaro]

I've never heard of that crotchless diaper but it's pretty clever. Worth a try.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I have one Dear Relation who did not potty train until he was almost four. Bribes didn't work, none of the usual tricks worked. What worked? His younger sister potty trained herself one day in exchange for a REAL LIVE BARBIE doll.

Let me repeat. His YOUNGER sister (she was less than 2) pottied trained herself in exchange for a doll. (She had observed the bribes with older bro and asked if she was potty trained what would she get? Before her mother could even answer, she said she wanted a REAL Barbie. Yes, this child is one of the smartest two kids in her 200+ class today. . .)

Anyway, back on topic. The next day Dear Relation was completely potty trained.

The point is, I don't even have kids, but from my rather involved interactions with Dear Relations, I know that they potty train themselves, more or less.

 

[NLK]

My DS is 3 and is having a really hard time with the potty. My DD was hard to she did a lot of holding. My son on the other hand enjoys pooping in his underware and than playing with it. For the past week that's all he does. Sometimes he even goes on the toilet and then plays with it in the toilet. HELP!!! ANYONE!!!