I need help/advice

[Jigsaw]

I tend to be attracted to people I cant have.

A year or so ago I became attracted to a friend of mine, who is straight. She ended up finding out..I think I told her (I cant remember though) well then eventually I became unattracted to her (I have this weird habbit of one week I'll like something and next week I'll like something else..thats probly why I'm not good with relationships). Well about 4 or so months ago while we were working on a film (I write and direct short films and I had cast her as the lead..because the person I orignally had for the lead ended up not being able to do it and she was my 2nd choice) I noticed that I had become attracted to her again. I think it had something to do with the character she played in the film.

I didnt say anything this time except I did tell one of my close friends. I ended up once again unliking her but recently its come back. We just got back from California a few days ago inwhich me and her shared a bed. Now I'm attracted to her again and I dont want to be. What should I do? I'v been trying to think about other things to get my mind off it but it doesnt work.

 

[jlewisinsyr]

WOW...where does one start...

And to think, straight guys are afraid of us gay guys hitting on them, when most of us wouldn't waste our time with a straight guy.

I think you need to look into yourself and figure out why you jump around a lot. I don't know how old you are, but it could be maturity (not to create drama), but it also could be you just are confused and don't know how to focus.

I know in the past when I was single and was well...a little...um...familiar with the same sex...if you know what I mean...I came to a realization eventually, that I just needed to change my focus, so I did, I focused on my career. I believe that helped me a lot in terms of settling down and its safe to say I've been with the same boy for 6 years...so something's working right.

 

[jennynoel]

If you want professional help, I would highly recommend finding a counselor through http://www.hendricks.com/

My GF and I go to a couples counselor trained by Gay and Katie Hendricks and she is fabulous! Ours specializes in couples counseling and counseling for people "looking for love".

You could also check out the Hendricks' books, but for me talking with a counselor is about a hundred times more effective than reading a book.