I need a shot of courage- how do you do this?

[Bornteach]

Kathy-

Just tell her what your heart says. Don't hide the emotion, she is probably wondering why people are on eggshells around her. Say what you would want her to say to you....

Hope that helps....

Kristin

 

[DisnyMama]

Kathy, I too agree with what Mindy said. The most important thing is to just be there for her and make the call which you have been trying to do.

Prayers and are going out to both of you.

Shannon

 

[drakethib]

My best friend that lives in Pittsburgh is dying with cancer. (This isn't my sister in law) The doctors have given her less than a month. She refuses to believe she is as sick as she is.

She lived alone and she ended up in a long term facility in November. She always believed she would be going home.

One of her friends gave me her phone number to call. She hasn't been able to take calls up till now.

This is going to be a tough phone call. I am not very good at hiding my emotions.

Trust me when I say I have lots of experience with cancer in the family but when it gets down to where I can't do anything I just don't know what to do.

Please keep Beverlee in your prayers. Thanks for listening.

I was there a few months ago.

It is never easy, but if you don't make the call you will never forgive yourself.

Our prayers are with your friend in her time of need.

Be strong.

 

[Mouse Skywalker]

I don't have any answers Kathy, but I just wanted to lend my support, encouragement, and best wishes. All my best to your friend and her family.

 

[pal-mickey]

As many others have said, just being there for your friend and telling her how much she means to you is all you can do. There are certainly no magic words to say. Sending prayers to you and your friend.

 

[cdotla]

Hugs Kathy!

Honestly just your voice will work wonders!

 

[SamSam]

Kathy, my thoughts, prayers and support go out to you. IMH, calling and letting her know that you love her, that you're there for her, and recalling some of your favorite times together, will be good for her.....but probably very emotional (which can be good).
Hugs to you.

 

[katscradle]

I agree with Mindy, just tell her how much you love her.
This is a rare chance, as none of us know when we will go. The thing I hear alot from people who have lost a loved ne is that they never got the chance to say, I Love You!
I hope you get through to her.

 

[adsrtw]

I'm sorry Kathy! That is a very tough call. Let us know if you need help finding a number. I have some search engines at work and I might be able to squeeze an extra in under the table.

 

[daneenm]

I hope you get through Kathy. Having just lost someone unexpectedly on Friday, I would give a lot just to be able to say goodbye.

Thinking of you!

 

[farmergirl]

Sorry to hear about your friend Kathy. I will say a little prayer for Beverlee. I hope you get a chance to have a nice conversation with your friend. What a hard thing to have to do. One never knows just what to say in such situations.

 

[FireDancer]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend Kathy. I don't think there is a way to make it easier but as for the how, just pick up the phone and dial. I hope that the power that comes from the knowledge you are doing what you can to make a friend's day better while they are facing something so terrible overpowers the sadness and fear.

From some of the stories you have told on the podcast you seem like a very strong person who can do it, I wouldn't bet against you.

 

[Halbleib1]

I agree with the others. The most important thing you can do at this time is to listen and let her know you are there for her. Let her take the lead and go from there. It is a difficult situation to be in but you can do it. Good luck getting through. Sorry you are so far away and can not be with her.

 

[Yvet]

When you make the call and get her on the phone just tell her how much you love her.
Then the conversation is started and you will see that when you hang up the phone that it was a tough call to make but that it has been a good call to make.

It's never easy but it doesn't matter what you say and how you say it.
It matters that you have called and spoke to her......

 

[bcvdreamer]

Kathy, I'll keep Beverlee in my prayers. I hope you had the opportunity to talk to her. Don't worry about what you say, she knows that you love her.

 

[safetymom]

Thank you everyone for the moral support and prayers. I talked with her this morning. We had a good conversation. It was like old times.
We didn't talk long but I am so glad I finally got to talk with her.

 

[SamSam]

Thank you everyone for the moral support and prayers. I talked with her this morning. We had a good conversation. It was like old times.
We didn't talk long but I am so glad I finally got to talk with her.

Kathy, I am so glad you were able to get through to her.

 

[parrotheadlois]

I hope you get a chance to visit her, the years will melt away and you'll both be happy to see each other - glad you got the chance to talk to her!!

 

[rtobe]

Kathy

Like others, I do not have answers. I do know that just having a friend to talk to means a lot. The hardest part is getting the first call made. Do what you heart says. You will find the courage and the words. We're here for you!

 

[SamIAm21]

I'm sure that phone call meant the world to her. It was a very hard thing for you to do, but it was invaluable to her and that makes it all worth it. A lot of people wouldn't be able to summon up that courage.