I love my husband, but.....

[ccgirl]

Because I feel bad. She was a single mom when I was growing up. Doesn't have retirement and never really had high paying jobs so she doesn't get much in social security. Top it off that she has some medical issues that require expensive meds. So....I agreed to let her watch other children in my home but am very much looking forward to when she is not providing the daycare in my home and I can save some money.

You are a very good daughter.

Thank you so much. Brought a tear to my eye.

 

[Kit'smommy]

Everyone in my household is expected to put things back the way they found them. If you get a snack, everything needs to be put back away, crumbs cleaned up, drawers and cabinets shut. I will cut some slack on the dishwasher being emptied in a time crunch, but dishes need to at least go in the sink.

If you take a bath, hang your towel back up, put your dirty clothing in the hamper and clean up spilled water or other messes.

Wrappers and other refuse needs to make it into the trashcan.

I seem to be the only person in my house to actually clean (DH only vacuums) and I am fine with that. However, I refuse to be responsible for cleaning up every little mess my family creates.

SAHM v. working parent should not enter into this.

 

[Sandy V.]

I truly believe that everyone should be allowed to sit down and relax after a long day at work. It shouldn't just be something that is occasionally allowed.

This makes no sense. So . . . if at the end of the day YOU sit down and relax, and your SPOUSE sits down and relaxes, who does the necessary stuff regarding dinner and family? Does everything get neglected because everyone's taking a break? Of course not.

In a FAMILY (couple with kids or not), everyone pitches in. Hooey to sitting on the couch and WATCHING others work because you think you "deserve" it.

 

[wvjules]

This makes no sense. So . . . if at the end of the day YOU sit down and relax, and your SPOUSE sits down and relaxes, who does the necessary stuff regarding dinner and family? Does everything get neglected because everyone's taking a break? Of course not.

In a FAMILY (couple with kids or not), everyone pitches in. Hooey to sitting on the couch and WATCHING others work because you think you "deserve" it.

It is not an either/or situation. Come home, sit down, relax and unwind from the day, then after that take care of the household chores. I dont' want to come home and jump right into sweeping, mopping, cleaning toilets, etc. I want to unwind from the workday first.

However, I will still say that if I were the DH I wouldn't be cleaning up after the MIL's business either. She made the mess.

 

[Sandy V.]

It is not an either/or situation. Come home, sit down, relax and unwind from the day, then after that take care of the household chores. I dont' want to come home and jump right into sweeping, mopping, cleaning toilets, etc. I want to unwind from the workday first.

However, I will still say that if I were the DH I wouldn't be cleaning up after the MIL's business either. She made the mess.

I was speaking to the husband's tendency to sit and watch television while his wife does household chores, after a long day of BOTH of them working. I fully agree that some down time when you get home is nice, heck most of us who work outside the home do that and that's needed to make your evening feel enjoyable. But I don't buy into one spouse putting forth all the work effort in the evening while the other puts their feet up. And I ESPECIALLY don't buy into the thought that MEN deserve special relaxation privileges at night compared to their women who work just as hard.

The MIL mess is a whole other issue.

 

[ccgirl]

I was speaking to the husband's tendency to sit and watch television while his wife does household chores, after a long day of BOTH of them working. I fully agree that some down time when you get home is nice, heck most of us who work outside the home do that and that's needed to make your evening feel enjoyable. But I don't buy into one spouse putting forth all the work effort in the evening while the other puts their feet up. And I ESPECIALLY don't buy into the thought that MEN deserve special relaxation privileges at night compared to their women who work just as hard.

The MIL mess is a whole other issue.

Exactly...my mom's daycare is a whole separate issue. I'm talking about the daily chores/responsibilites needed to run our home. The making the kids lunch, baths, cleaning bathrooms, etc. Those still need to be done. We don't get home from work until 6pm. Dinner needs to be made right away as we have two children to feed who go to bed at 8pm. I'm not going to sit down because I need to relax and end up feeding my children late because I was lazy. Luckily, it is not a nightly occurence and he does help out some nights. I just get frustrated when I have to remind him or when he tells me to sit down and not worry about the house. I just can't sit and relax when stuff needs to get done. Guess that's just me.