I lied to my husband this morning

[lecach]

My husband come home late last night from playing poker (I have no problem at all with that - he waits until our 1 year old is asleep before he goes and if I asked him not to go he wouldnt). I was already asleep when he got home. I got up this morning and noticed a card and a box on the stove that had not been there the night before. I of course looked at them - it was my Christmas card and a boxed CD set that I had asked for (Garth Brooks). Clearly he brought my present and card in from the car and just forgot to put them away. Since I knew he would say something when he realized what he had done, I asked him why he had left my Christmas card on the stove. Of course he immediately realized what he had done. He asked if I had seen what was under it and I said "no, as soon as I realized that the card was mine I turned it over. I figured the box was mine too and I didnt want to see what it was". So of course I lied to him, but what else could I do? I knew it would disappoint him greatly if he knew his surprise was ruined. Did I do the right thing?

 

[stinkerbelle]

Did I do the right thing?

Yep

Work on your "omg - it's just what I wanted!" face.

 

[DawnCt1]

So of course I lied to him, but what else could I do? I knew it would disappoint him greatly if he knew his surprise was ruined. Did I do the right thing?

Of course. I wouldn't call it lying, I would call it necessary amnesia. Why hurt his feelings?

 

[lecach]

Thats what I was thinking. Why hurt his feelings? He actually did this one time before when we were dating. I went to his apartment at lunchtime which is something I did a lot since I worked closeby. He wasnt home. He had this stained glass nativity set on his coffee table. I knew it was probably for me and that he would know I had seen it so I called him and said "that nativity set you have is SO pretty, where did you get it? I would like to buy one".

 

[CapeCodTenor]

Yep
Work on your "omg - it's just what I wanted!" face.

That's just too funny.

I wouldn't call it lying, I would call it necessary amnesia.

I like this answer...I'm going to have to remember this.

 

[luvwinnie]

YOu did the right thing. My DH's co-worker ruined TWO of my gifts at separate times, I never told DH.

 

[ducklite]

That's the type of little white lie that was said for all the right reasons. Do'nt sweat it. Some day down the road the time will be right to 'fess up and you'll both laugh about it.

Anne

 

[THESCHULTZFIVE]

Yes, you did the right thing. I did the same thing a few years ago b/c I knew DH had worked hard to surprise me.

 

[tikilyn]

You did the right thing. One year (2001 I think) my dh bought me a portable DVD Play for xmass. He actually hid it really well in our junk room. We'll wouldn't you know it I found it by accident! I was looking for my Christmas cards that I bought earlier that month. I didn't tell dh I found it and acted so supprised when I open it up on Christmas day.

 

[Kaycee]

You definitely did the right thing. We need a different word for "lies" that are told to protect someone's feelings. It's just not right to call that lying.

 

[JESW]

Yes, you did the right thing.

I also have to work on my surprised face for Christmas morning as the camera lens I asked for is sitting downstairs on the kitchen counter and I happened to look in the box to see if it was just trash.

Jill

 

[Stitchfans]

Little white lies are alright when it is saving the feelings of someone you care about. just make sure like someone else said that you look surprised when you open it.

 

[laurietg]

I found my husbands christmas present to me as well. (he hid it with all the presents I have to wrap) I told him. I also know he went out and bought me a new present so that I would still be surprised. So, while I don't think there is anything wrong with that little white lie, you may want to rethink it!!!

 

[Serena]

I call them christmas lies. They're allowed.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Of course you did the right thing. That is more of a "saving face" type thing.

 

[MamaLema]

I call them christmas lies. They're allowed.

 

[poohandwendy]

Yep, you did the right thing.

Now I, OTOH, wouldn't ever have the opportunity to find my Christmas gifts from DH...because he makes sure to always procrastinate until the very last moment, so it is never sitting around for me to see LOL. Bothered me at first, then I realized that as long as my shopping is done, what do I care if he is in the stores during the last minute rush? All the power to him. And he always manages to find something I really want.

 

[stinkerbelle]

I found my husbands christmas present to me as well. (he hid it with all the presents I have to wrap) I told him. I also know he went out and bought me a new present so that I would still be surprised. So, while I don't think there is anything wrong with that little white lie, you may want to rethink it!!!

LOVE the reasoning behind telling him! heheheh

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

The same thing happened to me last year at christmas. My SO got me the Bob Marley box set and left it out on the counter when I went to his apartment and he quickly asked if I saw anything. I told him no and he kept asking how I missed it, I finally confessed and he said well he will return it and get something else. I knew he wouldn't because he never keeps receipts so I had to act suprised when I opened it up on Christmas day!!!! We now live together and he told me no looking around or going through receipts (he has finally learned to save receipts!!!!)

 

[Madjock]

You definitely did the right thing. We need a different word for "lies" that are told to protect someone's feelings. It's just not right to call that lying.

In our house this would be referred to as "fabricating the truth"

Yes you definitely did the right thing