I just found out youngest DS pulled over by police last night! Update #64

[Tuffcookie]

He was given a warning for following another car too closely but he didn't mention a word about this to me! I work for the police dept so he should know I would find out! On the call sheet he told the officer he didn't like the way the person in front of him was driving! He's lucky he only got a warning!

Wait until I see him at lunch time!

TC

 

[kaytieeldr]

PLEASE let us know how that goes - but only if you're comfortable doing that, of course!

 

[iwrbnd]

Oh, I know your pain! Our 16 year old son got pulled over for speeding! I will forever be thankful to the wise police officer that pulled him over! Instead of giving him a ticket worship he followed my son home and talked to us! That was waaaay worse for my son than getting a ticket that makes our insurance go up!

Take a deep breath, though. Your son isn't the first teen to get pulled over. I visited an old high school friend last year who reminded me about when she got a ticket on the first day of having her license! And how I drove her to the police station so her mom wouldn't find out. Today my friend is a responsible citizen and a very good driver! It's a miracle teens ever make it to adulthood but somehow they do!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

PLEASE let us know how that goes - but only if you're comfortable doing that, of course!

Good grief, what is there to be interested in?

Clearly a personal family matter that is best kept in the home.

 

[Heidict]

Good grief, what is there to be interested in?

Clearly a personal family matter that is best kept in the home.

I'm sure if that were the case, then the OP never would have mentioned it. My goodness, we are talking a driving ticket not murder.

I can't believe he thought you wouldn't find out. Did he forget where you worked?

I got one a couple of weeks after getting my license. I didn't get a warning or anything, just a straight up ticket. I paid it and my parents never knew about it. I got lucky on that end.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Good grief, what is there to be interested in?

Clearly a personal family matter that is best kept in the home.

Uh, which is why my original (not edited after the fact) post included "but only if you're comfortable doing that, of course!"

 

[Tuffcookie]

I don't have a problem sharing what happens!

DS has been driving for a little over 1 year now. He is 18 but still in HS (birthday was in Dec). He has a convertible Camaro, which his dad bought. I made sure his dad signed for his license and the car is in his dad's name. I made sure of that so his dad would be responsible for the insurance!

Maybe a call to the ex is in order. He will be none too happy if the insurance goes up. Lord knows it's high enough for an 18 year old male in that kind of car!

TC

 

[DVCLiz]

Why in the world would you get involved in this at all? If your son didn't get a ticket then it's over, right? No points on insurance or any ticket to be paid? Why would you put yourself in the middle of this at all - especially with an 18 year old?

It happened, he handled it fine, and life goes on. Stay out of it, mom.

 

[waltsgirl]

If it was a warning and not a ticket will that cause the insurance to go up?

 

[korzmom]

he may be 18 but he still lives under moms roof and is on dads insurance. i hope he learned a lesson from the experiance and should thank you because he probably would have gotten a ticket but the officer probably knew who he was because you work there.

 

[DVCLiz]

he may be 18 but he still lives under moms roof and is on dads insurance. i hope he learned a lesson from the experiance and should thank you because he probably would have gotten a ticket but the officer probably knew who he was because you work there.

What difference does that make? If there weren't any charges and he didn't get a ticket or have to pay a fine then it should be his business and his MOM should not be getting in the middle of it, no matter where she works.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Why in the world would you get involved in this at all? If your son didn't get a ticket then it's over, right? No points on insurance or any ticket to be paid? Why would you put yourself in the middle of this at all - especially with an 18 year old?

It happened, he handled it fine, and life goes on. Stay out of it, mom.

You certainly are in an argumentive mood today!

He is still under my roof and in HS. He did not get a ticket this time but he will certainly be advised by me at lunch time that he was lucky this incident happened in our city, where they recognized whose son he was.

TC

 

[castleview]

That was quick. I didn't tell my dad about my first warning (age 17) until 10 months after I received it.

 

[happygirl]

Why in the world would you get involved in this at all? If your son didn't get a ticket then it's over, right? No points on insurance or any ticket to be paid? Why would you put yourself in the middle of this at all - especially with an 18 year old?

It happened, he handled it fine, and life goes on. Stay out of it, mom.

Really, you wouldn't be made if your 18 son got pulled over, and didn't tell you. I would be furious.

 

[JessicaR]

Oh boy does this bring back memories. My Dad was a police officer. Poor boy needs to get a clue. This should prove to be a good lesson.

 

[DVCLiz]

Why in the world would you get involved in this at all? If your son didn't get a ticket then it's over, right? No points on insurance or any ticket to be paid? Why would you put yourself in the middle of this at all - especially with an 18 year old?

It happened, he handled it fine, and life goes on. Stay out of it, mom.

You certainly are in an argumentive mood today!

He is still under my roof and in HS. He did not get a ticket this time but he will certainly be advised by me at lunch time that he was lucky this incident happened in our city, where they recognized whose son he was.

TC

I'm not argumentative today - at least not any more so than usual. I just think an 18 year old is old enough to handle this and I don't think his mom should be getting involved. He did something wrong, he got caught for it, and he's dealing with the consequences. Let him do it on his own.

 

[happygirl]

I'm not argumentative today - at least not any more so than usual. I just think an 18 year old is old enough to handle this and I don't think his mom should be getting involved. He did something wrong, he got caught for it, and he's dealing with the consequences. Let him do it on his own.

You do know that he is in highschool, and lives with his mom. It's her car I'm guessing her insurance

 

[JessicaR]

I'm not argumentative today - at least not any more so than usual. I just think an 18 year old is old enough to handle this and I don't think his mom should be getting involved. He did something wrong, he got caught for it, and he's dealing with the consequences. Let him do it on his own.

Yes but the flip side to this is if he knows his mother is going to find out about it and possibly deal with those consequences he may not do foolish things while driving in the future. And, that would hopefully keep him and others safer. I dont see how it can hurt but then again I lived it.

 

[DVCLiz]

Really, you wouldn't be made if your 18 son got pulled over, and didn't tell you. I would be furious.

Well, I have girls and they cry and tell everything - - but my point is that he needs to learn how to deal with things like this on his own, and I would feel the same way about an 18 year old girl. If a parent interferes it just becomes another, "See, I told you if you did that you would get in trouble" speech they've heard a thousand times.

In real life, sometimes you get caught and you get a warning and sometimes you get caught and you get a ticket. If you get a warning you got lucky and hopefully it should teach you to be more careful next time. That's a real world life lesson an 18 year old needs to experience. I just don't see how having mom get involved adds anything. There are plenty of things high school kids do and get away with - at 18 they need to stop telling their parents everything and learn to cope. What, is he still going to be calling home next year when he's in college to fess up that he slept through class because he was hungover?

 

[Inigo]

Last spring, DD and I were zooming down the highway when I got pulled over for speeding. She was laughing as the state trooper came up to the car. I make a joking comment to the trooper about her laughing at me. He told her that she needed to remember this incident, so that if she ever got pulled over I wouldn't be able to grip at her.

As he was in his car running my license, she looked at me and said, "Umm, mom. Remember last fall when I had to drive brother's car when mine was in the shop? I got pulled over and given a warning ticket for speeding by a state trooper."

Thanks for letting me know doll. I never knew, although I wondered why one of the dispatch officers at the Sheriff's Department asked me what my daughter's full name was. I thought that was odd. She didn't have her license with her either, so they had to call it in to verify she had a license. Fortunately, the dispatch officer thought he recognized the name, so he told the trooper who DD's mother is (a county probation officer), and the trooper decided not to ticket her, but just gave her a warning.

Oh, and the state trooper who pulled me over just gave me a warning because we were laughing about the whole thing. I didn't pull the "I'm in law enforcement too" card to get out of the ticket. He just found it hilarious that she told me about getting pulled over while he was running my license.