I have decided I really don't like my husband

[ZADS]

Sorry, OhioDisLover, I missed your last post there!

Glad to hear you went out for a drink. That's such great news.

Keep it up.

Regards,
ZADS.

 

[Poohbear123]

Same here. Only it includes my teenagers, as well. We all know teenage girls are notorious for distancing themselves from their mothers...well I am going through this and the husband thing. We are both so ambivelent about it. And I'm sick, but not a "real illness", so no one in this house really wants anything to do with me. I stay back in my bedroom and stay online. I'm so lonely I could..I don't know. No, not hurt myself or anyone else.

Sorry...I'm not trying to compare notes with you. I know how you feel with your DH, though.

Oh, I have the same problem with my 28 year old DD...she is a REAL pain in my....well, you know. She thinks because she "gave me Grandchildren" I should bend over backwords to Babysit them...that will be a no, and when I tell her that, she doesn't talk to me for MONTHS! I did NOT ask her to have children and the way she has treated me IN the past I could write a Book about. So, YOU are NOT alone, just thought I would tell you that.

 

[136368]

No advice here - just sympathy.

 

[disykat]

I agree with all the others. There are many times during marriage when you start to feel disconnected and need to revive things. A drink is a great start. Since you're this frustrated, I think counseling would also be good.

I recommend spending time doing something that involves laughter. A night out with fun friends, a comedy club, a funny play or movie, etc. DH and I have been super busy lately so we're making reservations for play that's supposed to be hilarious. Sitting next to each other laughing together is a real boost.

 

[rie'smom]

Oh, I have the same problem with my 28 year old DD...she is a REAL pain in my....well, you know. She thinks because she "gave me Grandchildren" I should bend over backwords to Babysit them...that will be a no, and when I tell her that, she doesn't talk to me for MONTHS! I did NOT ask her to have children and the way she has treated me IN the past I could write a Book about. So, YOU are NOT alone, just thought I would tell you that.

I've already told my kids, none of whom are married or have kids yet, that I have raised my 3 children( well, almost Rie is 16), and not to plan on me raising theirs. If they want me to babysit and if I don't have plans, I'll babysit. Just don't think that they are entitled to my time.

My oldest was born when I was 17 and my husband and I are looking forward to travelling and kicking back when he retires.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Thanks everyone. I am going to try, and really do hope it is not too late for us. We did go out for a drink after work yesterday. Didn't go to dinner cause we didn't want to leave the girls at home without notice. But maybe that is a step in the right direction.

Thanks again.

Great news. This is a step in the right direction for sure. Most of the time when I felt like you are feeling, it was because I wasn't getting the attention from DH that I was wanting, and I am sure deep down he felt the same way because we all need this. We would let life get in the way of "us". It's easy to let this happen too because most everyone stays so busy.

I remember that just after Mike asked my Daddy for permission to marry me, my daddy told him that she is like a little kitten, and as long as you love her and show her attention she will be fine, but if you ever make her mad her claws will come out! It's funny, but it's true for most of us. Everyone wants to feel loved, needed and appreciated.

I hope things get better for you.

 

[lattemomof3]

Same here. Only it includes my teenagers, as well. We all know teenage girls are notorious for distancing themselves from their mothers...well I am going through this and the husband thing. We are both so ambivelent about it. And I'm sick, but not a "real illness", so no one in this house really wants anything to do with me. I stay back in my bedroom and stay online. I'm so lonely I could..I don't know. No, not hurt myself or anyone else.

Sorry...I'm not trying to compare notes with you. I know how you feel with your DH, though.

to you too.