I have a strange question...

[tzolkin]

I can always count on the dis to have a thread on every random topic that crosses my mind. I was just thinking yesterday when I heard the "Mommy, I pooped so can you wipe me" what DD4 is going to do next year when she starts kindergarten.

I honestly don't remember wiping my older DD this long, but this one just doesn't seem to do a thorough job without using the whole roll of paper. She was wiping herself when she was first potty trained, but I actually told her to ask me for help when I realized she wasn't doing it right. So, I guess I brought this on myself. The funniest part is that she needs privacy to go to the bathroom-- she'll hold it and tell anyone that they need to get out before she can go, but as soon as she's done she calls me to wipe her.

 

[wehavesix]

That whole unconditional love thing, thinking of creating a "We". Then one moment you wake up and realize you have been wiping someone else's butt for 5+ years, and you turn them around and say:

"When I am old, please pick a REALLY nice retirement home. If not I'll make you come do this for me!"

This reminds me of when I was in the hospital this summer after breaking my leg. I was unable to get up to go to the bathroom the first 2 days I was there and had to use a bedpan. That was so gross and difficult to do with a broken leg that wasn't yet stablized. After my surgery and after the catheter was removed, I needed to go. My oldest son, who is 28 years old, and my husband were there so I told them I was NOT going to use that bedpan again. I made them get on either side of me and carry me to the bathroom. My son was so freaked out by that! He couldn't see anything "personal" and I certainly didn't make him stay in the bathroom with me. All I wanted was to be carried to the toilet. My husband told him, "Circle of life, Josh, circle of life."

 

[Fintastic]

DD just turned five and we still wipe for her about half the time. She attempts to do it herself, but it'll probably be a few more months before I'll trust her to do it all herself. lol

 

[Fintastic]

If I listen real hard I can hear him yelling, "MOOOMMMMMM I"MMMMM DOOOONNNNNEEEEE!!" hahahahaha

This is exactly what DD does.

 

[tonilea]

How long did you wipe your kids butts for them? My son just does not do a thorough job at it, so I still help. He's four and I know my daughter was taking care of her own behind by then. Is it a boy thing or is my son just strange?

ETA...only for number two

I'm in the same boat. But, DS only goes every other day and ONLY at home (little worried about our upcoming vacation ) so it isn't a constant job.

 

[Minnie_me]

Kindergarten/Pre-K teacher here --- PLEASE teach those kids to wipe their bums and make them do it at home every time (practice makes perfect!).

Every single year, I'll have kids who don't know how to wipe, and the parents will actually ask me if I'll do it!!!! Uh, NO!

I'm not a daycare provider. I'm a TEACHER. My job is to teach your child and his classmates, not wipe their butts. I'm actually forbidden by law to do so!

And if you're wondering if this is the first time this has been discussed on the DIS......check my tags!

 

[Tinijocaro]

I say wipe as long as they need you to. Nothing worse than a rusty bumper!

 

[luvmyboys]

Kindergarten/Pre-K teacher here --- PLEASE teach those kids to wipe their bums and make them do it at home every time (practice makes perfect!).

Every single year, I'll have kids who don't know how to wipe, and the parents will actually ask me if I'll do it!!!! Uh, NO!

I'm not a daycare provider. I'm a TEACHER. My job is to teach your child and his classmates, not wipe their butts. I'm actually forbidden by law to do so!

And if you're wondering if this is the first time this has been discussed on the DIS......check my tags!

I can't believe people think that's part of your job! Ok, maybe I CAN believe it, but still...

I say wipe as long as they need you to. Nothing worse than a rusty bumper!

My son is 4.5, and I'm still wiping his butt on a regular basis. He tried (with flush wipes) but ends up with a raw tushie for his efforts. It's my goal to have him ready for kindergarten next year though! To be honest, since he'll only "go" at home, I don't foresee an issue.

 

[JoBird]

I think your son is completely within the normal limits.

I mean really- most men just LOVE having a woman clean up after them! He's just starting a bit...young.



Jo

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

Just have to say as the wife of a former plumber. DO NOT FLUSH ANYTHING OTHER THAN TP and bodily functions. You simply do not want to foot the plumber bill for the damage it can do.

now to butt wiping, DD is just 3 and I still do hers for her. I think by the time they start kindy that they should do their own.

 

[Gagirl69]

My 7 yo ds wipes his own butt. I stopped about a year ago. He kept hollering for me to come wipe his butt, and I would holler back No, do it yourself. Well, I guess he figured he better do it.... Practice makes perfect.

 

[CajunDixie]

Older DS was 4-5 when he could do it himself and younger DS was only 3.

I'm in the same boat. But, DS only goes every other day and ONLY at home (little worried about our upcoming vacation ) so it isn't a constant job.

I have one of those types too! He's now 18 and still only uses our home bathroom and his best friend's bathroom. When he was little on vacations he'd hold it for about 4 days then boy howdy you better be ready to find him a bathroom when he finally decides he has to go!

On the flip side his brother enjoys giving bathroom ratings....roomy stalls, good TP, hand-rails.... According to him the best bathrooms around are local Kroger, Blue Gate Restaurant in Shipshewana, IN and Cabella's in Dundee, MI.

 

[LaraK]

I have public restroom issues too, so I totally understand the "hold it til you get home" thing.

I just want to be sure he can wipe by Kindergarten....although I can tell his pre-K teachers let him do it on his own too.

 

[slo]

For a long time!!!

I still wipe my 5yr old DD's bottom.
I like knowing that her bottom is nice and clean.
Plus, she has had many issues with bad constipation, since birth, and I like keeping an eye on her stools. I like knowing how often she's going, and what her stool is like after she goes. If she wipes herself, I won't know these things. If she starts getting to constipated, I have to totally alter her diet, so I really need to know!!

I wiped my other DD's bottom until she started kindergarten at age 6. She is now 10, and if she was really sick, and had terrible diaherrea, and needed help, I wouldn't hesitate to give it to her.

I don't think there is any right or wrong to this - it all depends on the family and the child.

 

[mjkacmom]

Mom of 3 girls, 2 boys, and let me tell you, if they had their way, I'd be wiping the boys on their wedding night! Fortunately, I had a girl first. If you don't wipe your butt, you don't go to kindergarten. Period. You have me until the summer before kindergarten, and even that is stretching it a bit. Just say NO!

 

[Yen Sid]

My son will be 4 next month and although he has been going potty for sometime very well he insists on crapping his pants, he will not go on the potty; he goes and hides in a corner and goes number 2 and then comes to find me and tell me so wiping his butt is still mandatory.

 

[mickeysgal]

I say wipe as long as they need you to. Nothing worse than a rusty bumper!

Tag fairy....

 

[MsLeFever]

My favorite Ice Age quote seems to fit in this thread:

"Why do I have to be the poop-checker?"

 

[aprilvaca04]

My favorite Ice Age quote seems to fit in this thread:

"Why do I have to be the poop-checker?"

I wish I had a dollar for everytime I have asked my DH this!!!!!!

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Up until a couple of months ago, I was still checking to make sure DS had wiped his butt really well. We've had problems with yeast infections since he was a tiny baby, so I make sure he wipes REALLY well so he doesn't get another one. Fortunately, he hasn't one in almost a year when he used to get them every 4-6 wks.

A couple of months ago though, DS became Mr. Independant..wants to do everything himself. If I try to check his butt, he goes "But Mama! I wipe it MYSELF!" and gets angry at me.