I have a problem, a big problem....

[disneymyway]

At my studio, the parents can view the entire class through a viewing window. We have nothing to hide. "Poking your head in", whether anyone believes it or not, is disruptive to the class.

I have had parents "poke their heads in" to "say hi" or snap a photo. I have kindly asked them to "please close the door, the students will be done soon & all pictures can be taken before or after class."

I just don't think it's fair for one parent to disrupt an entire class of children because they choose not to follow the rules (not speaking of you in particular, just in general). That is why we installed a viewing window years ago.

As long as I could see you, I would have been fine. Just don't tell me you are taking my 3 year old in a room and I am not allowed to see what is going on under any circumstance because I just wouldn't have that.

 

[MELSMICE]

As long as I could see you, I would have been fine. Just don't tell me you are taking my 3 year old in a room and I am not allowed to see what is going on under any circumstance because I just wouldn't have that.

I can certainly understand that & agree with you. That is the reason we installed the viewing window years ago. I used to leave the door open so parents could view the class, however, it became too disruptive to the students.

The window has worked great for us. We still have the occasional parent that insists on opening the door during class, but like I said, I kindly ask them to close it & they always oblige.

 

[disneyjunkie]

As long as I could see you, I would have been fine. Just don't tell me you are taking my 3 year old in a room and I am not allowed to see what is going on under any circumstance because I just wouldn't have that.

The dance studio my nieces attend only allow parents in the classes once a year. You can't even look into the dance classes.

After attending one of the parent days, I understand why it's like this. Some parents are nuts.

I couldn't believe the number of parents that felt they needed to give their kids instruction while the teacher was teaching.

Two parents pulled their kids to side to give them a drink of water.

One mother thought it was ok to allow her 2-year-old to play on the dance floor.

It was crazy.

 

[disneymyway]

The dance studio my nieces attend only allow parents in the classes once a year. You can't even look into the dance classes.

After attending one of the parent days, I understand why it's like this. Some parents are nuts.

I couldn't believe the number of parents that felt they needed to give their kids instruction while the teacher was teaching.

Two parents pulled their kids to side to give them a drink of water.

One mother thought it was ok to allow her 2-year-old to play on the dance floor.

It was crazy.

Who knows, maybe I'm old fashioned or just overprotective, but unless I knew the instructor and felt comfortable with her as a teacher, I wouldn't have enrolled my daughter there. I guess I'm in the minority.

One more time, I did NOT hang out in my daughters classes but I needed to know that I could see what they were doing if I wanted to. Just the way I was,

 

[MELSMICE]

The dance studio my nieces attend only allow parents in the classes once a year. You can't even look into the dance classes.

After attending one of the parent days, I understand why it's like this. Some parents are nuts.

I couldn't believe the number of parents that felt they needed to give their kids instruction while the teacher was teaching.

Two parents pulled their kids to side to give them a drink of water.

One mother thought it was ok to allow her 2-year-old to play on the dance floor.

It was crazy.

Another reason we installed the viewing windows. We used to have open class or "watch week" 2X a year.

Many parents did exactly what you described. Let's see.............parents thought it was cute if their younger children danced with the older ones, allowing to run across the room. Younger children would bring in toys & would "drive" them across the room. Parents would speak to each other so loud that it was difficult for the students to hear me, along with everything you posted above.

Also, most children behave completely different while their parents are in the room. Some of them wouldn't even participate, which wasn't a good indication of their actual behavior during class.

The viewing windows have been one of the best investments I have made in my business. It has eased any parent fears/worries about their child being in an unfamiliar setting with a new person & the children are glad that mommy & daddy can watch them. Also, "watch week" is every week - through the window, which is like heaven for me while teaching!!!

 

[teacups]

We actually encourage the children to wave to their parents through the window. The children can't see their parents, however, we tell them we know that "all the mommies & daddies" are watching & we can wave to them any time we want to.

That would be totally fine. The way our daughters instructor handled it she made my daughter never want to take another dance class. She was 4 then and to this day she hates the idea of tap or ballet. Pretty sad what lousy teachers/instructors can do.

I understand about the wacky parents who do not know thier boundaries.
We have it at karate and we are talking older kids now. All the kids are out on the mat, parents sit very quiet on the sidelines... but one mother takes cell calls the whole time and talks way too loud, laughs and carries on. It's rude and IMO pretty self centered. I dont go often, hubby takes them, but when I went and saw this I loudly said "SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!" to her and got the stink eye as she walked outside with her cell phone.

 

[Disney Doll]

But did you stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night?

Nope, didn't do that either.

You know, I have no reason to disbelieve the OP.

My doctor, who is an MD w/ a subspecialty in endocrinology, is willing to explore alternative treatments such as chiropractic, some herbals, massage therapy etc. I think the younger docs...say age 50 and under...are a bit more open to the thought that they are not, in fact, God, and that a variety of therapies working in conjunction may be the best course of treatment. Heck, my MD goes to a chiropractor for his back pain.

I don't see an ulterior motive. I have never known the OP to be a pot-stirrer. It may just be as simple as an older or very traditional lead doc who feels that he should be allowed, to a degree, to dictate how his office runs, without regard to what may or may not "work" (as in the no parent thing) or be acceptable from a legal/discriminatory standpoint. No offense to all our DIS docs, but I have known a few in my 25+ years of nursing who I could very easily picture doing exactly what the OP is describing. Especially if they are from the older school.

I still think, OP, that The Universe is trying to tell you something!

 

[denisenh]

good luck OP!