I HATE writing 'Thank You' cards!

[Chicago526]

I'm writing out "thank you's" for our wedding.

WHY you need to send a thank you note to some one that you already said "thank you" to, in person, I will NEVER understand. I get sending notes to those that sent gifts but didn't go to the wedding, but why to those that I saw and spoke to, and thanked, at the reception?

My hand hurts!!!

And no, DH isn't helping, if I left it to him, it would never get done. Besides, he's busy putting in a dishwasher so I don't have to wash dishes by hand any more (and it's a good thing too, since my hand is all cramped up!).

Okay, vent over. Back to writing out notes!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Uh oh, you better watch out. Thank you notes are a big thing around here.

Personally, I hate writing them, too, but yes I do it.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I feel your pain! I refused a wedding shower, because the thought of writing more thank-notes gave me NIGHTMARES.

I had just gotten out of the cycle of thank-you's that comes with having a baby, baby-shower(thank you's), baby's born, more little gifts (thank you's), baby's Christened (thanks you's) Baby's first b-day (thank you's)....wedding planned, sister want to host a shower..I said NO! THANK YOU.

 

[tinkerrn]

I feel for you, I just sent out 2 more thank you cards for gifts we recieved after our wedding. We didn't even have a reception!!! We did send out announcements though.

 

[Chicago526]

Uh oh, you better watch out. Thank you notes are a big thing around here.

Personally, I hate writing them, too, but yes I do it.

Yeah, I figured it would be almost as bad as a "mug" thread!

It's not that I don't appreciate the gifts, I really, really do (and so does DH). I've just never understood the "thank you" note thing (other than sending them to people who did not attend the wedding, obviously they need to be thanked!).

I am, of course, writing them out (hence the thread!). But I don't have to like it!!!!

 

[katerkat]

I wrote "no gifts" on Russ's baptism invite for this very reason!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I can understand sending thank-you's for gifts that were not opened in front of the guests. Like a wedding. I do appreciate a thank-you as an acknowlegement. But, really, I do not wait, pining at the mailbox for a thank you card from a shower gift, or somewhere where I have been thanked in person.

 

[hiwaygal]

I have to admit...this was an unexpected bonus to having a destination wedding with NO ONE but me and DH in attendance!!

I have already sent Thank-You's to some folks and announcements to others. I have a few more T-Y's to write for the folks who sent a gift after they received the announcement.

I didn't want gifts...DH and I do not need anything. All I really wanted was a nice card from a few close family members saying "congratulations"...

I SOOOOO appreciate the gifts and the thoughts and I will send the notes, but so far, I've only had to do about 6 of them!

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I'm writing out "thank you's" for our wedding.

So do I, so do I. My wife wrote ours out. I offered to help, but she said that it was her job...who am I to argue. No, I'm not joking...she wanted to write them out.

 

[sleepyone]

Just quote Ralph Waldo Emerson and insert one of the following in each card...

"The expectation of gratitude is mean, and is continually punished by the total insensibility of the obliged person....
"A golden text for these gentlemen is that which I so admire in the Buddhist, who never thanks, and who says, "Do not flatter your benefactors.""

 

[disykat]

Although I agree with you that writing thank you notes can get to be a chore, I do think they are a necessity. I prefer not to get gifts as well - sometimes because of the thank you note chore. However, if people can spend time and money getting gifts, I need to spend a little effort thanking them. Even my kids can whip out a note in about 3 minutes.

At an intimate gathering where I've seen the recipient open the gift I don't get bothered if I don't get a note when I've been thanked in person. However, at a wedding, I probably still wouldn't have any idea if the couple actually received my gift unless I got a note.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Just quote Ralph Waldo Emerson and insert one of the following in each card...

"The expectation of gratitude is mean, and is continually punished by the total insensibility of the obliged person....
"A golden text for these gentlemen is that which I so admire in the Buddhist, who never thanks, and who says, "Do not flatter your benefactors.""

HUH???? LOL

 

[In a hurry]

Hated it, but figured if someone was going to spend time and money for me I could survive. I didn't have a baby shower with my little boy, because it just wasn't worth the hassle though!

 

[Miss Park Avenue]

I had a close friend get married several years ago. My husband was an usher at her wedding. We spent a fortune, doing all the wedding party things, plus sent a gift. Of course we were there. I'm sure she thanked us. But we never received a note for our gift. I'm not offended, but I still worry to this day if the card somehow fell off the gift. Maybe she thought we didn't buy them anything??? I have no way of knowing. It's so many years later and it's too late to bring it up. But I worried, wondering if she thought we didn't think enough to buy a gift. Maybe she didn't like it because it wasn't an elaborate gift (we helped with $$ for the shower and the tux rental, beleive me, we spent money on the wedding) Just food for thought.

I'm with you on all the thank you writing. It's a pain. But it's still nice.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I do too. Not that I am not greatful. I always am (so greatful) just getting mail out is so hard for me now a days. I wish sending thankyou emails was just as good.

I try to make sure I thank people in person. I must admit I am bad about thank you notes. I just hate them hanging over my head, then it gets too long and you feel like you passed the window of opprotunity and you are stuck.

Oh well, The big thank you note times are Graduations, Wedding and babies. At least you got one out of the way (maybe two.)

 

[kpm76]

I feel you pain but I do think notes are a must. Usually I will give checks as wedding presents so I know it was received but occasionally I give cash or gift checks so if I don't get a note acknowledging the gift I have no idea if it was received.

 

[safetymom]

I think writing thank you notes is a nice touch. I figured if I got this gift the least I could do is write a thank you note.

 

[Marseeya]

I wrote thank you notes after my wedding and I don't know what happened, if they got lost in the mail or what, but about half of my guests didn't receive them!!! My mom kept telling me to send them again, but I didn't. They were already expensive enough. I just apologized to everyone I talked to.

I hate thank you notes.

 

[krcit]

I don't know if it's just a regional thing but around here, most wedding thank-yous have a picture in them. I love getting a pic of the newlyweds, esp. if i wasn't able to make the wedding. The thank-yous I think are completely unneccesary are the ones after a funeral. Believe me, i appreciated every single visit, card, flower I recieved when my Dad died, but don't think grieving people should have to worry about thank you cards. JMHO

 

[gr8tpanther]

I don't know what the big deal is. I have never in my life received a "Thank You" card for anything I have ever given, and really? Didn't expect one... I don't think that is something we DO in our family, or within my group of "friends" either. Think I will stay in my own world, it is much easier here.