I hate my Best Friends Wedding Dress...

[BadRomance]

I went dress shopping with her a few weekends ago and we went to a TON of bridal boutiques. She had 2 dresses that were on her "short list". She loved them both. In my opinion, (and her mom's opinion and sister's opinion) 1 dress was far superior than the other one. The dress I loved was elegant and form fitting and had the most incredible detailing (She has a very slender model-esque figure- Lucky duck!) which llooked like it was MADE to fit her. The other dress was just a simple run of the mill wedding dress (Ball gown, square neck- no detailing.. just plain white.)... While the 2nd dress looked good on her as well, there just wasn't as much of a wow factor as the 1st dress.

Well she went and bought the not so fabulous dress on Saturday (Dress #2). I am trying to be happy for her! I just hope she knows that I still love her and support her no matter what even though I think her dress is ugly...

 

[luvmy3]

I guess she thought it was fabulous

 

[lspst8]

I wouldn't say anything, if I were you! I went dress shopping with my sister and I liked one of the dresses she tried on way more than the one she ended up buying. But that's why there are thousands of different dresses, everyone has different tastes, and as long as it looks good (like you admitted) and the bride is happy, that is all that matters Your friend may like a simpler styling than you. And price may pay a big concern too. I would assume the mopre detailing, the bigger the price tag.

Both times I've been in David's Bridal, I saw very short and heavy girls try on huge ballgowns encrusted with sequins, crystals, and lace that made them look even shorter and heavier. Everyone was telling them how great they looked, but they didn't look great at all! Especially the one with a mounted deer head tattooed on her shoulderblade

 

[disykat]

Some people really prefer simple! As long as it's not something unflattering, just be happy for her!

 

[kirbydog48]

It's not about you!

 

[Disney Doll]

Nothing says "bride" like a mounted deer head tatoo!

Maybe she wanted to wear the dress as opposed to the dress wearing her. Maybe she felt the one with more detailing was too much. Maybe the one with more detailing was way more than she had in her budget to spend on a wedding dress.

There are lots of maybes...she'll be beautiful on her wedding day because she'll be happy.

 

[3prettyprincesses]

Honey, keep that information to yourself! If your best friend feels fabulous in it, then that's all that matters. It's her day and it's so important for her to feel comfortable and happy with the dress she's chosen.

ETA: There have been so many episodes on Say Yes to the Dress where the bride loves a certain dress but her friends/family don't. I always feel bad for that bride because you can tell she wants that dress but everyone is telling her no.

 

[Sandy V.]

Her wedding, her choice of dress. Keep your opinion to yourself.

 

[Iri920]

Well good thing you're not going to be wearing the dress. I seriously get annoyed at those people on Say Yes to the Dress that dog every dress the bride tries on meanwhile the poor bride is in the fitting room crying. My sister is currently shopping for wedding dresses and she had picked one that I wasn't so crazy about. She asked my opinion so I told her politely what I didn't like about that one and left it at that. She thought that was the one but ended up changing her mind on it and picked a dress that looks a lot better on her.

I'm guessing maybe she just didn't like all of the bling on the one dress while other brides want as much bling as they can get. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[DizBelle]

I went dress shopping with her a few weekends ago and we went to a TON of bridal boutiques. She had 2 dresses that were on her "short list". She loved them both. In my opinion, (and her mom's opinion and sister's opinion) 1 dress was far superior than the other one. The dress I loved was elegant and form fitting and had the most incredible detailing (She has a very slender model-esque figure- Lucky duck!) which llooked like it was MADE to fit her. The other dress was just a simple run of the mill wedding dress (Ball gown, square neck- no detailing.. just plain white.)... While the 2nd dress looked good on her as well, there just wasn't as much of a wow factor as the 1st dress.

Well she went and bought the not so fabulous dress on Saturday (Dress #2). I am trying to be happy for her! I just hope she knows that I still love her and support her no matter what even though I think her dress is ugly...

Wait, do you think dress 2 was ugly or just not as nice (in your opinion) as dress 1? Is dress 1 tainting your opinion of dress 2?

 

[Robinrs]

Sometimes I cannot believe the stuff I read on this board...

 

[ncmickeyluvr]

Please, please, please keep your opinions to yourself!! My one regret about my wedding is that I let other people's opinions pick my wedding dress. I hate that dress!!!! At the time, I think I was worried too much about choosing the "wrong" dress that I caved into the pressure. Plus the fact that my Mom was paying the bill.....she basically chose the dress. I will NEVER do that to my daughter. We watch Say Yes tothe Dress together and I always make sure to tell her that, when the time comes, she had better tell me to MYOB!!! Lovingly, ofcourse.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I believe you and her family are taking it too personally.

IF the dress she chose isn't downight ugly and unflattering (ETA: For the look she is trying to achieve!!)--you really shouldn't care as long as she is happy with it. I really don't believe you that the dress is...."ugly".

I remember going to Runnig of the Brides last year--and we kept our personal tastes out of it when helping our bride. I even helped a bride who we aligned with in line--who was doing a goth wedding. Not something I would ever do, but no reason why I couldn't provide COMPLIMENTARY advice for the look that SHE was trying to achieve.

Our bride had her wedding this past Saturday and she looked beautiful.

In the end, it is what makes the bride happy.

To say you "HATE" the dress is harsh and it is a downright mean thought and I pray that if you are truly her best friend, that you'll get over that bridge real quick and move on with the festivities.

If you are married or planning to get married, you will have gotten the final say in the dress you choose. Remember that not everyone's tastes are the same.

 

[Tink888]

Agree with the others, keep that info to yourself. Your friend loves the dress she chose and that's all that matters.

 

[MIGrandma]

I'm in the camp of please keep your opinion of the dress to yourself. On her wedding day just tell her she looks lovely. You won't by lying. She will look beautiful in the dress she chose. Some people prefer simple elegance over all the heavy beading, sequins and what not.

I had the privilege of going wedding dress shopping with my daughter. She tried on several dresses and I thought she looked beautiful in all of them, I didn't care which one she chose. It was her wedding. Her dress. Not mine. I kept my mouth shut about all wedding plans, unless my opinion was asked for. I paid for her dress out of my waitressing tips. It was my gift to her, and I would have done it no matter if she picked a dress that I thought was gorgeous or ugly. All I wanted to see was her happiness.

I feel so sorry for brides that have so much interferance from their mothers, their sisters, their aunts, their friends, etc. If opinions are asked for, fine. But if not keep quiet.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

The bride is wearing the dress and is the only one that has to like it.

 

[ead79]

I think it's important to remember that everyone has different taste in wedding dresses. This is her wedding, not yours (or her family's), so just be supportive of her choice. It's her special day, and she should get to look like she wants to look like. On your wedding day, you get to wear what you'd like, and this is her turn. It's important to be supportive of her, not critical of her dress choice.

 

[LuvOrlando]

When women ask for opinions about their weddings they are looking for affirmation, not an actual opinion.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.
The bride needs to feel she found her dress not those who went shopping to "support" her.

Please say nothing to the bride or others. Word does get around.

 

[SiAmCrAzY]

When women ask for opinions about their weddings they are looking for affirmation, not an actual opinion.

Very wise words.
Please don't let a difference of opinion over style ruin your friendship.