I hate mornings! (a rant)

[Marseeya]

I really hate mornings. I hate waking up at 6:00 a.m. when my natural inclination is to wake up at 7. I hate having to wake everybody else up. I hate being nagged at and abused for waking up said people.

UGH!

My DH has an REM sleep disorder, so I have to move heaven and earth to get him awake. He's not nasty about it or anything, but he grumbles and gives me a hard time in his sleep -- once he's awake, he's fine. It's not that I mind doing it, but it just gets tiring, that's all.

DS 14 is just FOUL in the mornings. He's pure evil. I'd like nothing better than to just throw a bucket of cold water on him. I was the same way as a kid, so I'm probably just getting my just rewards. This morning he called me an ****** and my husband a jerk, plus he gave me the finger. I made him ride the bus and he's grounded, but still that doesn't make me feel any better. Why is he like that??? He's bipolar and his meds have calmed him down a bit, but mornings are so difficult with him (always have been).

DD 10 is a ray of sunshine. She wakes up smiling and sweet, wanting a hug and kiss. But by the time I get around to waking her up, I'm already down in the dumps. Yet, even for as wonderful as she is when she wakes up, she's sooooo slow and I have to stay on her butt just to keep her moving.

Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest and maybe get some sympathy. DH called me on my cell after I took DD to school and he apologized and told me how sorry he is I have to deal with all this in the mornings. Then he told me how much he appreciates all I do, which did make me feel better. Being a SAHP isn't exactly the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life, but it's nice to feel appreciated.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[MsDisney23]

I am a Morning Person!

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I feel your pain . . .except I'm not a SAHM. I wish I was because I hate mornings and I definately hated having to leave my kids all these years to go to work . . .Now that they are 16 and 12 its a little easier on me . . .but I still wish I had that wonderful opportunity to be SAHM.

Hope your day gets better . . .

 

[Marseeya]

I am a Morning Person!

You won't be after spending a week with my family!

 

[Marseeya]

I feel your pain . . .except I'm not a SAHM. I wish I was because I hate mornings and I definately hated having to leave my kids all these years to go to work . . .Now that they are 16 and 12 its a little easier on me . . .but I still wish I had that wonderful opportunity to be SAHM.

Hope your day gets better . . .

I understand where you're coming from. I worked while my oldest was little and it was extremely difficult leaving him!

And to think I'm counting down the days until he leaves for college.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

I hate getting up early too. There is no way to avoid it, so I have just learned to live with it. I work 2 jobs (3 if you include seasonally at Universal), so I work almost everyday of the year. You just get used to getting up after a while. The downside is that I'm tired at 8pm.

 

[hentob]

Can you wake up earlier and get some "you time" before dealing with all of this? Even if it is at 5:30am. That gives you a half an hour. Have your coffee, take in a news channel and relax. Then you can deal with everyone else.

I know you said your son is bi-polar, but at 14y/o he should be able to get himself up, showered and dressed. In just a few years, he will be out in the real world, so maybe you should just give him an alarm clock and say "Good Luck". Perhaps you could reward him with a nice breakfast?

I can't imagine dealing with this in the morning. I like to get up early (by 6am I already have laundry done ), but it is also _my_ time (dh leaves around 5:15am). I love to open the windows and doors and let the cool morning air flow in while I drink my coffee. Try it for a week--Have You Time, then deal with the troops!

 

[Christine]

If it makes you feel any better, I have to get up at 4:30 a.m. Then I get the intense pleasure of waking up a 14 year old and a 10 year old. While they are getting dressed, I put on my chef's hat and make breakfast. All this and out the door by 5:45.

Why don't you crawl back into bed??? I know I would.

 

[Steffi]

Mornings suck and I feel for you. My DH wakes up much like your 14-year-old. Luckily, though, I'm able to wake DD up first (who is also a slow, meandering 10-year-old ray of sunshine) and get her off to school before having to deal with DH. You certainly have your hands full in the morning, dealing with all of them at once!

 

[Paull117]

As the DH this is my job in the morning. My DW bless her is just a bear in the morning. I wake at 5:30 shower watch the news, then at 6 try to get DW up. Then listen to her grumble for 10 minutes then finally get her in the shower. Make breakfast, 6:30 get the 5yro DD up just like her mom just does not want to move in the morning. Then get the 2.5yro dd up, she is so much fun in the morning. She is excited to get up and hug everyone, started potty training so she goes in the bathroom and goes, and is just jumping up and down excited for herself. Then I have to seperate DD1 from DW because DD1 starts whining in the morning how she has to have this or that. Get dd1 dressed usually I need to tell DW to dress her because DD1 just wants her mommy in the morning. Go back to DD2 get her dressed. Now it is 6:45 DW is still getting ready hasn't eaten yet has DD1 whinning at her to do her hair. 6:55 get shoes on both kids. 7:00 DW grabs breakfast as we are going out the door to take the kids to daycare. DW is mad because DD1 doesn't want to go. I get this taken out on me, have never figured this one out. 7:15 take the kids to daycare. DW is upset because DD1 doesn't want her to go. DD1 has some seperation problems and attention problems with DW. DW could spend all day with her and it would still not be enough. 7:30 This is the best part we work together in a family business. Give DW alone time until 8:00 when everyone else comes in then she is usually fine the rest of the day. I think this is when she finally has a few moments to herself in the morning and can collect her thoughts.

The funny thing is that before SW was PG with DD2 she would get up at 5:30 with me and work out. I take a lot of abuse in the morning, and I know I make DW sound like a witch. She isn't that just how she is morning. By 8:00 all is better. I wish I could do more to make mornings go smoothly for her so she could just do her thing and be ok. She deals alot with stresses at work and DD1 always on top of her. I just keep trying to find a happy medium to the morning rutine.

Paul

 

[Marseeya]

I hate getting up early too. There is no way to avoid it, so I have just learned to live with it. I work 2 jobs (3 if you include seasonally at Universal), so I work almost everyday of the year. You just get used to getting up after a while. The downside is that I'm tired at 8pm.

Yuck, I'd hate being that tired so early. It's really not that I mind getting up early like that, I just hate having to deal with others! I'd really prefer "early to bed, early to rise," but my graduate classes are all at night. That was tough getting used to -- sitting in a class from 7-10 when normally I'd be vegging on the couch and reading a book in bed.

 

[Marseeya]

Can you wake up earlier and get some "you time" before dealing with all of this? Even if it is at 5:30am. That gives you a half an hour. Have your coffee, take in a news channel and relax. Then you can deal with everyone else.

I know you said your son is bi-polar, but at 14y/o he should be able to get himself up, showered and dressed. In just a few years, he will be out in the real world, so maybe you should just give him an alarm clock and say "Good Luck". Perhaps you could reward him with a nice breakfast?

I can't imagine dealing with this in the morning. I like to get up early (by 6am I already have laundry done ), but it is also _my_ time (dh leaves around 5:15am). I love to open the windows and doors and let the cool morning air flow in while I drink my coffee. Try it for a week--Have You Time, then deal with the troops!

Getting up a little earlier isn't a bad idea, although not really a pleasant one. The thing with having to get DS up, I bought him a really nice CD alarm clock this year, hoping it would entice him to get himself moving. It didn't. The problem with letting him get up on his own is that he won't! He'd be perfectly content to miss school or be late. Still, I'm going to try it tomorrow morning. Just tell him as calmly as possible that I'm not going to put up with his abuse and that he needs to set his alarm. He wakes up late, he's grounded. Wish me luck! LOL

 

[Marseeya]

If it makes you feel any better, I have to get up at 4:30 a.m. Then I get the intense pleasure of waking up a 14 year old and a 10 year old. While they are getting dressed, I put on my chef's hat and make breakfast. All this and out the door by 5:45.

Why don't you crawl back into bed??? I know I would.

Yikes, why so early??? Dang!

I allow myself to go back to bed on Fridays, but on the other days I have to stay up and work on my school assignments. It's really brutal this semester (and I should be working on it right now instead of DISing!).

 

[Marseeya]

Mornings suck and I feel for you. My DH wakes up much like your 14-year-old. Luckily, though, I'm able to wake DD up first (who is also a slow, meandering 10-year-old ray of sunshine) and get her off to school before having to deal with DH. You certainly have your hands full in the morning, dealing with all of them at once!

Don't you just love having a kid like that? Let's hope they stay sweet during their adolescent years.

 

[Marseeya]

The funny thing is that before SW was PG with DD2 she would get up at 5:30 with me and work out. I take a lot of abuse in the morning, and I know I make DW sound like a witch. She isn't that just how she is morning. By 8:00 all is better. I wish I could do more to make mornings go smoothly for her so she could just do her thing and be ok. She deals alot with stresses at work and DD1 always on top of her. I just keep trying to find a happy medium to the morning rutine.

Paul

You sound like such a helpful husband! The kids sound really sweet, too, I bet you both have your hands full.

 

[RadioNate]

I hate mornings too.

My body clock is set to get up around 10! I would rather stay up until 2 am, early to bed, early to rise just doesn't work.

I've tried for nearly 30 years to be ok with mornings and it isn't happening. My poor mother had to drag me out of bed until college, where I lived alone and stayed up all night. I went to early morning classes, work and slept from late afternoon until midnight or so.

That worked great. I was never tired or run down like I am now with my 11p-7a sleep schedule.

 

[Christine]

Yikes, why so early??? Dang!

I allow myself to go back to bed on Fridays, but on the other days I have to stay up and work on my school assignments. It's really brutal this semester (and I should be working on it right now instead of DISing!).

I work in DC. I think DC has the second worst traffic in the country. I am *supposed* to be at work between 6:30 a.m. and 7:00. I mostly get in at 7:15 a.m.

Anyway, I get up at 4:30 because I have to be out of the house by about 5:45 and so do my kids. My son goes to a private school, so I drive him down to the neighbor's house and they take him to school a bit later. Then I drive my DD to her friend's house about 5 miles away and she catches the school bus. My kids go to school out of our district. By the time I get to work, I feel like I've done a days work!! That's why I DIS a lot. It is like my yoga!!

 

[Snowysmom]

I can understand your vent! I get up at 5:45 so I can get ready first. Dog needs to go right away so if it is really cold out, I wake up fast! I shower and get ready and then I have to get everyone up (not easy alot of mornings!)and going as well as make lunch and do some general cleaning up. I take DS and 2 other kids to school 3 days a week and then I get to go to work. DS got a job so he will be getting up early on weekends which means I get up early on weekends to take him to work. At least your DH was considerate enough to call you to let you know he appreciates and understands what you go through. That was really nice. I am sorry that your DS is so difficult in the morning but maybe as he gets older it will get better. By the time you get to your DD, you must be ready for some of her sunshine and happiness! Take care.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am a morning person, so I can't empathize there. But if it makes you feel any better, I had a rotten morning, too. Everything was going fine - DH had left for work, the kids and I were headed out the door.

Although she know she has to do this the earlier in the morning, Emily (5) decided she wanted to bring a puzzle to school. Of course, she picked the biggest puzzle she could find, which wouldn't fit in her backpack. I told her to choose something else, and she threw a complete fit. She threw herself down on the floor and screamed bloody murder. I had to carry her down the stairs, force on her shoes and march her to the car.

She calmed down before we got to school, but it started my day off on the wrong foot.

ARGH!

Denae

 

[malibuconlee]

I don't have kids, but I say, let them be responsible for getting themselves up.

I had an alarm clock and got myself up and ready from the time I was in 3rd grade. I hate the snooze button and get pretty grumpy with those who use them (especially if I don't have to get up).

DH's mom woke all the kids up even in high school. DH is getting better about it, but he used to be a bear to get up in the mornings. I think it's because he didn't have to get himself up.

He used to actually have to put the alarm clock on the other side of the room so he had to get out of bed to turn it off instead of rolling over hitting the button and going back to sleep.

As for your husband have you tried an alarm clock for deaf people? It goes under his pillow (I think) and vibrates. DH's sister has one because she doesn't sleep with her hearing aids in and can't hear the alarm buzzing. Maybe that going off a few mintues before an alarm clock would help.