I get sad on July 2nd ever year for the past 13 years

[browneyes]

Today is my niece's 15th bday. I haven't seen her in 13 1/2 years. She was 17 1/2 months old when her mom took off with her and her sister. She was the first baby to call me mama (she and I spent a lot of time together). I finally got to see her sister last week-she's 13, almost 14 now. The last time I saw her, she was 4 months old. I get sad on her bday too (which is next month). Their mom took off with them to punish my brother, but all she's done is punished those that loved those sweet babies, and punished those sweet babies. My brother is an idiot.

Sorry for the rant. Sorry for the tears LaToya (she never did like to see me cry).

 

[lilboo]

(((HUGS))). That is so very sad, Shannon.

 

[browneyes]

I hate being sad, Ethel. My other niece's, her name is Bionca, bday is Lucille Ball's bday too, btw. She was so happy to look through my picture albums to see pics of her and me when she was a baby. My brother said she's been going through everyone's picture albums looking for pictures while she was here. LOL! After she left my house, I think she got tired of picture albums. She looked through close to 30 of them. I didn't have many of her, but I gave her some pics of me when I was her age, pics of her dad that she didn't have, and pics of my kids. She wanted me to keep the ones of her when she was a baby.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. I'm sorry you are feeling sad. I'm so very sorry you have something like this in your life to mourn.

I have a sister who might as well be a person I met in the mall. She and I were so close. She's 8 years younger than I. Her father took her and ran and he was a cop and he knew how to hide.

He told her that my mother didn't want her, that she only wanted me and my sister Ginger. He told her that he was the only person who loved her.


I lived with her until August 12, 1965 . I saw her again November, 1991. She doesn't care about me. She doesn't want to be family. My heart is still broken and it will never heal.

{{{HUGS}}} Shannon. I'm so sorry you have this kind of pain in your life. The time will never be "made up" and your relationship with her will never be the same, even if she comes back into your life.

I hate divorce, it's always the kids who are hurt the most. The hardest part is that my memories of my sister are strong I was almost 16 in August 1965--she was 8. Her memories do not exist because she does not remember anything. I wonder why I'm crying now. I'm such an idiot

 

[scarlett873]

{{{{{hugs}}}}} to you shannon...

i know how you feel. i'm dealing with a similar situation myself...it's a nasty situation that i just can't get into here.

but i understand how you're feeling...

 

[Wagamama]

I'm sorry your sad Shannon. {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}
But i'm happy that you got to see Bionca. i'm sure it was a great reunion!

 

[Wagamama]

Originally posted by nativetxn
I wonder why I'm crying now. I'm such an idiot

You are NOT an idiot. your doing exactly what you said, mouring the loss of someone you love. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry Katholyn. {{hugs}} I know that broken hearted feeling too well.

I can't remember the exact date they left, it was either December 22, 1989 or December 23, 1989. I remember that was the worst Christmas I've ever had.

My niece told me their mom talks about me all the time. My niece said they've wondered what I was really like. But I've spoken to them on the phone a couple of times throughout the years and they didn't know me at all. I'm a complete stranger to them both. And will probably always be a stanger to them.

I have 2 nephews that are in kinda the same situation too. I haven't seen them in a little over a year. They have a different mom, same dad.

My last memory of them, the younger one was smiling her dimply smile at me (that's the first thing I noticed when she walked in my door last week, too), and the older one was begging me to go with them.

Families stink sometimes.

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry you have a similiar situation, Brandie.

Thanks Von. It was kinda bitter sweet to see Bionca. When they left, I wonder if the next time I saw her if it would be another 13 1/2 years down the road.

 

[Tony-NJ]

babe. What a sad situation. I have a long lost neive too who I havn't seen since she was 8... Her MOM is an idiot!

 

[Magickndm]

Sorry to hear how sad you both are browneyes and nativetxn, divorce is tough and it amazes me how people use children to hurt others, when it's the children who are getting hurt the most.

 

[dianeschlicht]

(((hugs))) Browneyes!

 

[scarlett873]

Originally posted by Magickndm
Sorry to hear how sad you both are browneyes and nativetxn, divorce is tough and it amazes me how people use children to hurt others, when it's the children who are getting hurt the most.

ain't that the truth...

 

[glo]

{{{HUGS}}} Shannon....you have a special heart. Hugs to your neices too..I hope you see them both again soon.

 

[grinningghost]

 

[NHAnn]

((Hugs)) Shannon

These situations are so sad. We have one in my family too, that is thankfully resolved as far as the physical well-being of my niece, but the emotional pain to the child and permanent damage to relationships endure...

a prayer for ALL those suffering from or involved in these kinds of situations

 

[kinlaw6450]

I'm sorry {{{HUGS}}}

 

[browneyes]

Thanks everyone. I hate it that my situation is not unique, that others of you know exactly how I feel from going through similiar experiences. {{hugs}}

 

[Pin Wizard]

(((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))), Shannon! That's so sad! My sister is pretty independent, but I've always been able to see my nephew. For a while she was as stubbon as could be and really hurt my feelings...it was her husband who patched things up between us.