I felt so bad today for DD...

[Mskanga]

I took my kids to Chucky Cheese to play with some friends, my oldest one was playing with her friends infront of that TV camera and one younger kid came along and told my dd " get out of here fatty ". She got really upset , she's a big boned kid but not fat by any means, I told her to just ignore the kid and the next time someone makes a remark like that, she should call them toothpick.
How do you handle that?

 

[02bBarbie]

Originally posted by Mskanga
I told her to just ignore the kid and the next time someone makes a remark like that, she should call them toothpick.

Two wrongs don't really make a right tho

 

[Beauty]

I agree two wrongs don't make a right, however I sooo feel your pain and your DD's pain!

I was a very overweight child....big boned, overweight, whatever I was, a was a big child! I was made fun of something fierce as well. I had my good friends and I knew who they were but I had my share of name calling. My mother always told me to ignore it and not say anything and I did!

Well guess what? Once 14 hit and puberty hit, that baby fat went bye bye and I was a perfect size 10! Needless to say I was asked out by many of those same kids who called me names in grade school and I had the pleasure of saying no. Once someone has been hurtful like that its hard to ever look at them the same again.

{{{HUGS}}} to your DD from someone who has been there. You just tell her to ignore them and don't worry, her day is coming and she will be able to laugh at those kids!

 

[Princess_Aurora]

Unfortunately kids are just mean...they always have been and they always will be. They have that ability to speak before they think. The best thing to do is to tell your DD to just ignore the comments and that it doesn't matter what other people think.

 

[Mskanga]

Barbie , I agree with you , the first thing I told her was to ignore the kid, but that is not always possible. Fortunately it hasn't happened many times and hopefully it won't , but it's just cruel. I felt horrible for her.

 

[megashark]

I've had comments made to me my entire life, so I really sympathize with your DD.

My gut reaction is go beat up the other parent, but that wouldn't be appropriate, I guess.

You might point out to your DD that the comment was intended to be unkind, that the other child would have chosen something else unkind to say about someone different. It's their problem, not hers.

 

[CEDmom]

I too sympathize with your DD and you but I have to agree that two wrongs don't make a right. We got a great book for DD about how everyone is different and therefore special. It's a Sesame Street book and I'd tell you the exact name but it's in DD's room and she's asleep. I don't know how old your DD is but maybe you could work with her on saying something like "it's unkind to say something negative about the way a person looks, you wouldn't like it if I said something mean about the way you looked would you?" A lot of times this will stop the meanness in it's tracks. Good luck.

 

[noseybuddy]

I always tell my kids that if someone feels the need to pick on you it's only because they are insecure and not happy with themselves. So therefore you should feel sorry for them and just walk away.

 

[Piglet]

I agree with noseybuddy, My 6yo DD had the same problem last year in Kindergarten. She has a liver disease that makes her belly stick out quite a bit. I explained to her that some kids don't feel good about themselves so they have to pick on someone to make them think they feel better. I told her that maybe their parents don't spend enough time with them or someone else is mean to them, so she should try to ignore it even though it does hurt. I also tell her that everyone has something special and different about them and that not everyone looks the same. I tell her that she is very beautiful and it is great that she is so nice and respectful to others and she has so many friends that do treat her well.

Melinda