I feel so bad for my son!

[Cindy B]

Ok, today is my son's birthday.. he is now 9... and today also coincided with a huge snowstorm.. in the area.

A month ago, I mailed all his uncles, aunts an invitation to come to our house.. he didn't want a friend party, but a family party... all my family cancelled due to the snow and poor road conditions..

Granted the conditions have changed in the past hour, but all who are still coming (or want to come) is my elderly FIL who wants to come out in the snow.. his eyesight is poor in good driving conditioins, and in the snow.. would be disasterous.

He also invited two friends to come to the movies, and they cancelled as well because of the snow. We still went to the movies anyway..

So now, here he is turning nine and no one is coming! We bought a huge 1/4 sheet cake, and no one will eat it!

He's a pretty sensitive character, and I don't know what ot say to him.. He was crying at the movies that no one showed up.

As my birthday usually fell on Thanksgiving as a kid, I understand how it is for people to "pass" over a birthday.

Its hard for him to understand and I don't know what ot say to him. I had that happen to me once, and you don't forget it.. ever...

We did give him a present early (a car track set), and we went to a Crhistmas parade in the breezing snow because he wanted to, and we still went to the movies..

I just wish I could take away his pain here!

Do I still have cake and ice cream when the guests were supposed to come? Or should we drive over to my FIL's house to have him have cake with us?

I just don't know what to do!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I think the drive over to FIL to have cake is a great idea.

 

[Cindy B]

Originally posted by The Mystery Machine
I think the drive over to FIL to have cake is a great idea.

See, I thought that as well.. but my hubby isnt sure what to do! I just contacted my SIL (who was a possible maybe) and just sort of explained it to her on her answering machine.

We are able to go to my FIL's , it is about 15 minutes in sort of snowing weather...

I am thinking that this would be a good idea, but my DH thinks that we should stay put... we could see my FIL tomorrow.. (we go to chruch near his home), but I don't want my son to be anxious...)

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}} and a BIG Happy Birthday to your son!!



Please tell him I so know how he feels. My birthday is Jan 24th and two different "big" parties planned were cancelled because of snowstorms when I was young.

I'm planning my 50th this coming January and we have plans to go to a casino/hotel for the night with some friends and family........I'm keeping my fingers crossed for NO snowstorms!!!

 

[Talking Hands]

Going over the your FIL is a great idea but let it be your son's choice. Explain that it isn't safe fro Granddad to drive in this weather but he really would enjoy being with him on his birthday and suggest that you take the party however small to him.

 

[caseylouandtyler2]

I big HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! to your son.
However considering the storm I don't think anyone is meaning to "pass" his birthday. I think they are more than likely playing it safe and not wanting to endanger themselves or anyone who may be driving in the storm.

JMO, Reschedule for tomorrow after church.

BTW, my godson turned 2 today, and no one made his party either except his grandparents who live across the street. His party will be rescheduled when driving conditions aren't so treacherous.

 

[iNTeNSeBLue98]

Could you have the party on Sunday instead?

 

[Christine]

Oh, I feel for your son. Those December birthdays just *stink*. I should know, mine is on December 30th and my DS (8) is on December 21st.

My DS, who will be 9 also in a few weeks, has begged and begged for a party. In the past, it has been almost impossible to have a party for him because his birthday is day that Christmas Break usually begins. People go out of town or go do their own thing, visiting family, etc. No one can ever commit to coming to his parties. It is very hard to explain it to him and I've tried to explain the concept of having is birthday party at a more convenient time of year, but he doesn't *get it.* Add to that, the precarious weather this time of year, and it is just a situation ripe for disappointment.

I hope you manage to find some way to make the situation better for him!

 

[CamColt]

OH, I know just how heartbreaking it is for him...and you!
We had DS's birthday party today, and didnt know if it was going to happen or not with this storm. DS had been a beast all morning, probably because he was upset. In the end, only 1 kid cancelled which was good, but it was one from school(not a usual neighborhood kid) and DS was so excited for him to be coming this year.
I can see your DS had it a lot worse than mine did. The poor thing must be crushed.

Well, heres hoping the birthday gets better for him and he enjoys some of that cake.

 

[doxdogy]

I definitely feel for your son. It never snows here in Florida. I remember the year that it did snow here, DD had a birthday party that same weekend (her birthday is 12/23). Bridges were closed, and her party was a bust.

 

[bunnyfoo]

Happy birthday to your son Cindy B I understand how he feels ... Actually, there was one year my family (mom, dad and sis) totally forgot my birthday .... yikes! Maybe the party can be rescheduled for another weekend...

 

[luv2nascar]

I hope you took the cake to your FILs & SIL was able to make it
a little party is better than none
how about having his friends over next weekend to go to the movies
It's hard I remember a birthday where everyone went to a viewing for someone who had passed away and I was home alone till like almost 9pm by myself and feeling sorry for myself and I was like 15 or 16 at the time so I can image how he feels

 

[Cruisin]

I'm sorry that your son's birthday party did not go as planned.

But he is 9 years old not 5 and he should understand the concept of there is a big snow storm and people cannot drive safely in that kind of weather. It is not that they didn't want to come to his party but that they cannot.

Reschedule it for next weekend or whatever is convenient. I bet he will find that he has just as much fun then as he would of today.

My children had most of their birthday parties not on their actual birthdays. I don't think they enjoyed them any less because of it.

 

[CamColt]

Originally posted by bunnyfoo
Happy birthday to your son Cindy B I understand how he feels ... Actually, there was one year my family (mom, dad and sis) totally forgot my birthday .... yikes! Maybe the party can be rescheduled for another weekend...

Oh My Goodness!!! And I thought it was bad that DH forgot mine last year. At least I got a trip out of it for this year. Hope you got yours made up for you too.

 

[Cindy B]

He's getting better!

We are going to FIL's tomorrow. And then SIL (who couldn't make it either) is coming by tomorrow after her shift at work. Her son (my nephew), is coming up from local college as well.

My parents may come by tomorrow as well, depending on weather.

I guess since we lived in the Midwest (Cleveland Ohio snow belt), we are used to driving in the snow. I know my father wouldnt have minded driving in it (hes a trucker), but he hurt himself yesterday at work so he couldn't do it.. and my mom is petrified of driving by herself.

 

[DisneyJules]

Poor kid. When I was 6 we had a blizzard, I'll never forget it. My parents were about to cancel the party but people still ventured out. I hope everything works out for you guys.

 

[momsal]

My Oldest Granddaughter's birthday is 12/28

She will be 8 this year but a couple of years ago I started doing half year birthdays for her, so I don't "do" her birthday until June ( it gives her something to look forward to)

 

[dcgrumpy]

I know how you feel, but there's not much you can do about the weather. I had to cancel my 3yo's party today. After 3 hours of phone calls back and forth today we rescheduled for next Saturday. Our immediate family is still coming over for pizza and cake tomorrow.

 

[browneyes]

Happy birthday to your ds, Cindy.

I'm sorry he felt bad today. December birthdays are so tough to plan things for. Mother Nature always likes to throw a party of her own when we least expect it.

 

[bunnyfoo]

Originally posted by CamColt
Oh My Goodness!!! And I thought it was bad that DH forgot mine last year. At least I got a trip out of it for this year. Hope you got yours made up for you too.

That happened quite a few years ago ... actually, I thought they might be throwing a surprise party They didn't remember until a week had already passed Oh well... they haven't forgot it since