I feel like dirt

[Hedy]

(I'm sorry, I *usually* don't post this sort of thing here, but any other place I'd post it is too close to the other party)
I just graduated college. I had a friend who I was close to my sophomore year, then stuff happened (I got tired of her neediness/boy issues). We kept in touch loosely, but I pretty much stopped contact with her after graduation. She was getting married, I was underwhelmed as I didn't expect it to last, and ashe was being pretty pathetic. Today I checked her livejournal, as it's her borthday and I wanted to e-mail her a card, but didn't know her new address. Turns out she and the boy are over, and she's filing for divorce.
I feel ridiculously guilty.

 

[DawnCt1]

Don't feel guilty, she moved in one direction, you in another. If you want to let her know you are thinking of her, follow your first instinct, send her a birthday card and let her know you're her friend.

 

[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

What is it that you feel guilty about? Not keeping in touch? "Jinxing" her relationship? I don't think there's a reason to feel guilty but I understand. I always feel bad when I lose touch with people even if we have perfectly good reasons for drifting.

 

[Disney Doll]

Surely you don't think that her marriage ended because you two grew apart as friends, do you?

People grow apart all the time...it's called life. If you want to send her a card, send her one. But don't sweat it. No need for you to feel guilty.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Just send the card and let her know you are there for her.

 

[Hedy]

::nods:: Yeah, I just needed to get it out, I know it's not my fault, but emotion and rationale are rarely buddies, kwim?

 

[doxdogy]

I completely understand what you are saying. Don't beat yourself up over it. Send her a card and let her know that you are there if she needs you.