I don't mean to be dumb....but,

[Beca]

I don't mean to be dumb, but why is it that I see so many posts where people say, "I have one boy and one girl, so they cannot share a bed?"

If that is a REALLY obvious question, I apologize. I only had a sister....so, we always shared everything. DH only had a brother....everything was "family style" in his home as well.

Right now, we have one dd. But, if we were fortunate enough to have another baby, and it was a boy...well, it just hadn't occurred to me that they couldn't share a bed on vacation. I mean, siblings who sleep in their own rooms at home won't like sharing a bed on a vacation...but, I thought it was just something kids dealt with.

I was just wondering why some families think boys and girls can't/shouldn't share a bed? I just always assumed that if we had one of each...they would share a bed on vacation.

Again....please don't flame me if this is a really stupid question...I am being totally serious.

TIA,
Beca

 

[CowboyCO]

Well, when they get be older, they might not want to as they approach puberty. Not a gross thing, just a modesty thing. Just depends on your kids I guess.

We have 2 boys and I come from a family of 3 boys, so the only issue was which kid got the sleeping bag on the floor(you're looking at him typing right now.... ).

 

[ReneeLMT]

I dont have any brothers, but I went on many a vacation with extended family throughout my days and many times I have slept with a male cousin, on vacation I dont see it as a big deal at all...theres usually way more people sleeping in the room than there is at home anyways.

I dont have any kids either, but I'd put a brother/sister together on vacation...why not?

 

[badblackpug]

My kids always share a bed on vacation! Last time we went to the shore they slept 3 to a bed 2 girls 1 boy!

 

[zookeeper]

I have 2 brothers and I remember sharing beds in hotels when we were younger, but as we got older I would usually sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor. I don't really remember, but most likely it was a modesty thing. Plus, as a teenager, I had a "difficult" attitude at times so I'm guessing that might have played a role. My own kids share the beds, but they're still young so I guess time will tell.

 

[gris gris]

This wouldn't bother me at all. I think if someday my DD said she didn't want to share a bed with her brother on vacation, then DH can sleep with DS and I'll sleep with DS. Vacations are too short to worry about who is sleeping with who

 

[nicolem]

My brother and I shared a bed on vacation until I was in my teens ...I don't remember when we stopped, really. But he was almost 6 years younger than me, so even when I was in those "awkward years," he was completely oblivious to any weirdness I would have possibly felt. The last few family vacations we had included my husband, who was just my BF at the time (we started dating when I was 16), so he and my brother shared a bed.

I also shared a bed with my male cousin on vacations and when I spent the night at my aunt's house. This stopped when I was 11, and he was 9. I remember that distinctly, because the last time we shared a bed, he did something inappropriate. It wasn't anything life-shattering, but it was a violation of my personal space. At the time I pretended I was asleep, but I got up a little while later and went to another room for the rest of the night. That put an end to the cousin togetherness in the bedroom!

(My cousin is now a very straight-arrow police officer who I would trust with my life, BTW. I feel guilty even mentioning the incident above, as I'm sure he would be mortified to know that he did something like that at the age of 9.)

 

[lovethattink]

My brother and I are 5 years apart. When we were kids and went on vacation we usually didn't share a bed. When we did, he nearly killed me with his tossing and turning. I'd always get punched or kicked, and he had no clue he did it. So usually I slept with my mom and he slept with my dad.

 

[KristiKelly]

My DS & DD have always shared a bed on vacation as well (even the tub when they were really little), DS is now 9 and DD6. It is getting harder since they fight all the time. DS would prefer to sleep on the floor. We also have DD1, next year we will probably have her share the bed with older DD and let DS sleep on an aerobed or something. I wouldn't put teenage brother/sister together just because I think they need their own space by that age.

 

[Allison]

I think a lot of it is respecting the kids wishes that they don't want to share a bed. And then there is the fighting...

 

[va32h]

It depends on the age. My oldest daughter is 10, she would not want to share a bed with her 6 yo brother. I can understand why a girl that age would feel that way, and I would rather find a way to accommodate her wishes than force her, and have every night of our vacation end in pouting and arguing.

 

[slo]

No flames from me

My brother and I shared a bed on vacation until I 14 and he was 7, and I never found it weird. My mom started sleeping with me when I protested my brother hogging the bed all night and I couldn't sleep anymore. Then my brother slept with my dad

 

[Schmeck]

My two daughters don't like sharing a bed at WDW. Usually they argue about it the first night, but then I make sure they're really tired that second night. By then, they'd sleep with Godzilla and not care, LOL!

Can't you get a cot set up in the room (paying for it, of course) as long as you are not going over the legal fire code limit of occupants?

 

[XYSRUS]

I, too, always slept with my brother who is 3 yrs. older on vacation. It was my parents vacation too. They didn't want to sleep with some kid! Besides, money is money. If you want to sleep in a bed it's going to be with whomever. Fighting about sleeping with a sibling? Please...you should be happy mom and dad let you live to see another day!

 

[grlpwrd]

I think part of it is because some people think it will contribute to sibling or cousin sexual abuse.

Though rare, it can and does happen.

 

[badblackpug]

My 9F, 8F, 5M, share one bed and the 5F and 2F share one bed and the 12F gets a bed to her own. The little ones think it is "fun" to cram that many people in! Plus they are so tired by that point they don't care!

Can you say "adjoining rooms!"

 

[ameraumi]

DS(12) and DD(4) are 8 yrs apart in age, and we are now dealing with this issue. DS does not want to share a bed anymore, mostly because he is hitting 13 and the puberty thing is coming into play. We are going to have to go with a bunk bed room at WL or AKL, or go with a girl bed/boy bed set up (which DH hates the idea of not sleeping next to me).

 

[tammy1210]

I think it all depends on the kids and your family - I, personally, see nothing wrong with it as long as no one is uncomfortable - my brother was 3 years younger than me and I think when I was about 11-12 we started splitting the room up so me and my Mom shared a bed and he and my dad did.

 

[susykt4]

I slept with my 5 years younger brother until my 10 years younger brother was out of a crib. I then chose to sleep on the floor because my brothers were HORRIBLE to sleep with.

My kids DD6 and DS3 sleep together on trips. If they fight we make them sleep in opposite directions. When they no longer want to sleep together THEY can decide who will sleep on the floor!

 

[MATTERHORN]

I just responded to a post about this the other day on my DL board. I don't understand it either. I would have no problem still sharing a bed with my Dad/brother/cousin. It's not like we're snuggling, and it's not like it's a twin bed or anything where there's no room.

I just don't sexualize everything, and I don't get why everyone has to. I guess I look at it like it's family that I know and love, I am not gonna make one of us sleep on the floor. And if I thought that a person in my family was capable of incest or bad behavior, well then I probably would not want to be on vacation with them anyways.

I shared a bed with my older brother (by 6 years) all the time on vacation. It's what you did, you made do with the two beds provided. I have two girls and a boy I don't think I'll be getting a suite anytime soon so that one kid can have a bed to themselves. Also if my parents had been able to take me to WDW as a kid, I would never have been so bold as to complain about where I was sleeping. The kids should be happy they are there and make the best of it. It's only a few nights, it's not a permanent living situation. Suck it up! But that's just MHO!


Andrea